What sexual harassment? Seriously. What harassment did you see?This wasn't a good Star Trek movie for me because everyone who had the rank of captain were far more interesting, likable and better characters than Kirk was. And that's a shame because when his story starts, the story doesn't really care if Kirk is a good man or not since all it wants to do is get him to the status quo of being the Captain of the Enterprise. No apologies, no tolerance, no respect and no concept of experience or appreciation.
Why does everyone think that Kirk being an arrogant, sexual harrasing douche bag are what makes him the best captain?
Being an arrogant jerk who starts bar fights when he's drunk isn't a character flaw?The story didn't even give his character any flaws.

That is for every person to decide individually. I liked him because he was willing to take Pike's challenge (a coward would have simply stayed drunk at the bar the next day); because he did not simply accept what he's told without question; because he showed flashes of what made his character great in other iterations and yet left room to grow into that character. But again, that's up to every individual to decide and I don't expect anyone else to like (or dislike) the character for my reasons.I don't understand why people like this character at all.
Part of that continued character growth they've made room to explore in future iterations.And the worst part? Everyone and their mother says that this is what made the old Kirk so good. Oh ya, never mind that the original Kirk understood the mistakes he made in the line of duty,
He offered it, it was refused, he knows (from Spock "prime") that the Narada has survived a previous singularity like the one it is in at that moment and, the last time that happened, Nero wrought havoc when he emerged on the other side. Not to mention that even making the slightest "humanitarian gesture" to someone who just committed genocide on a planetary scale beggars belief (NO ONE is that good).offered compassion to his enemies rather then shooting them while they're down,
The insubordination that leads to his marooning on Delta Vega was certainly, at that moment, a "risk to his career".risks his entire career to help his friends,
Amok Time, anyone? His insubordination to Komack and Starfleet are only offset by T'Pau--Kirk never apologized for that and was prepared to defend it. Trouble with Tribbles? Kirk never apologizes for his insubordination there.confronts and acknowledges his insubordinate actions rather than try to defend them
Respect is earned, not automatic. Is he insufficiently respectful during the movie? Yes. Again, part of the maturing process that remains incomplete and to be explored further. But he does show respect to those to whom he thinks deserves it (Pike, Sulu and McCoy and, later, Spock, to name some examples).and respect those who aren't him.
Again, liking or disliking the character as portrayed is an individual choice. Moreover, you are free to (and no doubt will) disagree with my points. But it is clearly not incomprehensible for someone to like the character, even if you don't. When I think of a character no one can like, well, actually, I can't. Every character has admirers, whether few or many and whether for "rational" or "irrational" reasons.