I have no problem with you personally, but statements like yours are the reason I no longer view fandom with a favorable eye.
Not taking it personally, no worries.
But one's enjoyment of a particular form of Star Trek over another has absolutely nothing to do with generational problems. That's simply a fanboyish hang up, plain and simple.
If folks find enjoyment in TOS as a result of first being exposed to the Abrams movies, win win for Star Trek. The Original Series now has a bunch of new, enthralled viewers who are realizing what they've missed/not given a damn about for years.
Well, it really is a generational thing, in that what's being offered now "ain't your father's Star Trek". Now of course, there are sensible people of all ages who want something more than explosions and space monsters. And this is not really the forum for criticizing the movies, but I will say that those who think movies like those Abrams produces are the height of Trek are not going to "get" what makes TOS so good.
Koenig really nails it here at around 4:25 when he says that huge battles scenes and space monsters do not a Trek film make.
btw, the whole interview is fascinating. It's available in 5 parts on youtube, linked below.
Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4
Part 5
It really gets fiery when Ellison shows up. Curiously, Rodenberry had a cold and couldn't make it. Fancy that.
I will be the first to agree that big space battles do not a Trek story make, although I am more into the action oriented elements of Trek than any other criteria.
I think I may have alluded in another thread about how Trek has something for everyone...but, it doesn't always get to present something for everyone in one episode or movie.
I will also admit that, sadly, in order for a Trek movie to really go blockbuster in terms of box-office (not necessarily production levels), it does largely seem to need to be an action (or at least action-laced) film.
Star Trek IV was probably the sole exception to this. It sold itself more as an allegory and comedy, and both were indeed genuine. There was only one shot fired in that movie, and it wasn't even in anger.
Star Trek the Motion Picture (also not an action film, but its opening moments were some of the best in Trek film history) was a financial success, if not a critical and/or fan-favored one. However, I think its reputation has changed over the years. I think it has gotten a lot more favor, especially with the release of the Directors' Edition in 2000 (my favorite version of TMP to date).

I loved TMP from the off, and couldn't quite understand some of the ire that had been cast at it. Sorry, I'm rambling.
I can truly understand why some folks liken the latest movies to something more like Star Wars, where there's more phaser fire per minute than probably the TOS and TNG movies combined...LOL! I certainly don't blame them for feeling that way.
Personally, my thought is this: When it comes to the upcoming third movie, it is also my deepest wish that it be more of a movie about exploration and other "loftier" ideals of Star Trek, but if it does turn out to be another action film, then let it be as rousing as the first two. (Personal opinion only.

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I do feel that the deeper stuff that Trek delves into is better suited on television. When a lot of folks go to see a movie, they generally wanna have fun.

When I suggested that the Abrams movies are a good way to introduce the uninitiated to Trek, again, it was only in the context that it has opened up a larger world to them. Suddenly, if they take on an interest in the original series, and the others that followed, and their interest holds, then I call that a win-win for Trek, and for those that have newly been attracted to it.
I will try to check out the other links you have kindly provided when I get some more free time. Thank you for posting those.
Respectfully,
Martok2112