My hubby thinks of it as " unique looking, and soft with big boobs." 
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My wife has self-image issues so I've learned ways to deflect her.
However I've taken it too far on occasion... I told her she was the ISO standard for Awesomeness...
... and she gave me a very odd look and told me the idea of the French having a copy of her in a vault somewhere for comparison purposes was just disturbing.
Hey it got her to stop with the "ugly chick with personality oh woe is me" nonsense for awhile.
However I've taken it too far on occasion... I told her she was the ISO standard for Awesomeness...
... and she gave me a very odd look and told me the idea of the French having a copy of her in a vault somewhere for comparison purposes was just disturbing.
Hey it got her to stop with the "ugly chick with personality oh woe is me" nonsense for awhile.
I try not to be superficial. I can't really speak to the relationship side of things, but I will admit that if someone looks kind of white-trashy or hickish, I have a bad habit of thinking of them and treating them accordingly.
I have to admit, I can be superficial at times. Don't get me wrong, someone's appearance won't determine whether or not I like them and consider them a friend (unless they are obviously unhygienic -- I consider that pretty off-putting).
Attraction, however? Well, I've said it before in another thread, but I definitely need to be at least a little attracted to any woman I might have an interest in. Even if we have a ton of stuff in common, if there's no sexual attraction at all, then forget it -- what's the point?
Personally, I think this sort of superficiality occurs naturally in most humans. It's basic biology: you want to mate with someone who has attributes --physical and otherwise-- that you find attractive.
Attraction, however? Well, I've said it before in another thread, but I definitely need to be at least a little attracted to any woman I might have an interest in. Even if we have a ton of stuff in common, if there's no sexual attraction at all, then forget it -- what's the point?
Personally, I think this sort of superficiality occurs naturally in most humans. It's basic biology: you want to mate with someone who has attributes --physical and otherwise-- that you find attractive.
I think this is just basic psychology, combined with influence.
From day one in life, we're exposed to good-looking, happy people on TV. So naturally, we end up wanting those good looking people, and to be happy.
It's a sort of mass ideal delusion of sorts.
Our instinct becomes that the best looking of things will make us the happiest, when often it leaves us less than satisfied and unable to realize why that is. We expect that as soon as we have the attractive partner, car, home, children, we'll be happy. When the truth is that such is all lacking substance in a world where substance is everything.
It's been true for millenia, it won't change. I just think it's gotten worse in recent decades with the advent of movies, television, visual publications and such, so that the idealized versions of reality seem more tangible and obtainable when in fact they're no more so than they ever where.
Most people eventually do accept this without realizing it and find relationships and lives that fulfill them as best they can. Some don't. And even those who do still clamor for the new sports car or new dress or new toy.
From day one in life, we're exposed to good-looking, happy people on TV. So naturally, we end up wanting those good looking people, and to be happy.
It's a sort of mass ideal delusion of sorts.
Our instinct becomes that the best looking of things will make us the happiest, when often it leaves us less than satisfied and unable to realize why that is. We expect that as soon as we have the attractive partner, car, home, children, we'll be happy. When the truth is that such is all lacking substance in a world where substance is everything.
It's been true for millenia, it won't change. I just think it's gotten worse in recent decades with the advent of movies, television, visual publications and such, so that the idealized versions of reality seem more tangible and obtainable when in fact they're no more so than they ever where.
Most people eventually do accept this without realizing it and find relationships and lives that fulfill them as best they can. Some don't. And even those who do still clamor for the new sports car or new dress or new toy.
My hubby thinks of it as " unique looking, and soft with big boobs."
I like that philosophy
I'm probably more superficial that I realise. Saying that I don't go by whats conventionally attractive and am very aware that what I find attractive isn't always what friends would find appealing.
I agree
