How Superficial Are You?

[Jetfire]

I have noticed that people seem to be attracted to either good looking people(who turn out to be horrible people) or wealthy or well people(who turn out to be horrible people) rather than nice people who are in some cases ugly or average and not very wealthy or well off.

I have dated women who were not bombshells but awesome people, eventually looks are a novelty that gets old and all you have is personality...and wealth can't make up for a loveless life...why are so many people so superficial?


JF

 

[TheSeeker]

Categorizing all good looking people as being horrible is a just a bit of a stretch, don't you think?

 

[Zulu Romeo]

It's the way of the world. We're naturally programmed to fall for the most attractive (as opposed to Beautiful™) people and try to mate with them regardless of personality - at least at a survivalist, procreational, prehistoric, and (as it's been sugested) genetic level, to preserve the most attractive and ideal genes and phenotypes for future survival. This sort of thing doesn't take much restraining and if the pheromonic chemistry is right, people often end up diving straight in (in some cases, euphemistically ). And, particularly today, for those looking towards a lasting relationship, such partnerships often end up well off the mark as the personalities are all clashing.

Power often equates to wealth, and I suppose power and wealth make certain people attractive too. Look at John Major for instance.

In terms of marriage and relationships, a distinctly civilised concept, we look towards personality, kindness, ability to provide, and other such markers of a lasting partnership. These things take a lot of effort, however, and planning, to look for Mr. or Mrs. Right™.

At least that's how I see things. I'm no anthropologist, I must admit.

 

[Jetfire]

Categorizing all good looking people as being horrible is a just a bit of a stretch, don't you think?

I'm sorry, this is a more about my day to day observation, people I know...sorry.

No not all good looking people are horrible or all wealthy people...just the ones I know personally.

I just wonder why looks and money are 1st and then personality is second?



JF

 

[Finn]

My girlfriend is beautiful and she has a great personality and is super sweet

 

[Hermiod]

I'm not superficial. I think everyone sucks regardless of looks.

 

[Jetfire]

My girlfriend is beautiful and she has a great personality and is super sweet

That is good.

I have a friend she is beautiful, has a great personality and is sweet also...ofcourse she is married.


JF

 

[TheSeeker]

I just wonder why looks and money are 1st and then personality is second?



JF

I think looks always come first at the beginning of a relationship. It's what draws you to someone who you basically know nothing about. Their personality is what makes you stick around.

 

[Jetfire]

I just wonder why looks and money are 1st and then personality is second?



JF

I think looks always come first at the beginning of a relationship. It's what draws you to someone who you basically know nothing about. Their personality is what makes you stick around.

Have you ever found yourself talking to someone you really didn't think of as attractive but the more you talk and hang out you sart to like them???

I have in the past.

JF

 

[TheSeeker]

It has only happened with one or two women in the past, and that was only after knowing them for years. When it came to meeting new people looks were always the first thing that jumped out at me. That's how I met my wife.

 

[JoeZhang]

Nice people are overrated - it's generally a codeword for spineless.

Looks are important but there are other factors that are just as important to me - are they well-educated? do they take care of themselves and their appearance? Do they have a bit of go? Do they achieve things?

 

[Plecostomus]

Jenifer is not my "type," normally I wouldn't give women shaped like her a second glance... however I made the 'mistake' of talking to her.

Happily married for a good long time now, and neither of us foresee that changing any time soon.

 

[nevermore]

I have noticed that people seem to be attracted to either good looking people(who turn out to be horrible people) or wealthy or well people(who turn out to be horrible people) rather than nice people who are in some cases ugly or average and not very wealthy or well off.

Uh, this is a pretty superficial statement.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

I didn't fancy my man at all when we first met. But we became really good fun friends and I swear one night, after about 5 months of knowing him, Cupid drew an arrow and 'POW' all of a sudden that was it!
He would not be classed as 'a looker' and I remember, to my great embarrassment, once saying 'C' would be the perfect boyfriend, intelligent, funny, kind etc. If only I fancied him.
He was known to have private money but that scared me more than anything and I always paid my way and 4 years later still do. When I first started dating him a friend of his took me aside and asked what my intentions were?! Well I can honestly state they were not superficial lol!

 

[WillsBabe]

Men get more attractive to me the more I get to know them and like them. Over the years there are loads of blokes I've become fond of when I've got to know them better, and at the same time, they become more physically attractive to me.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

Men get more attractive to me the more I get to know them and like them. Over the years there are loads of blokes I've become fond of when I've got to know them better, and at the same time, they become more physically attractive to me.

It's not really a hard and fast rule (apart from some women who like it very hard and very fast ), but I was completely like that with my first secondary school crush - it was a colleague and later a friend I had known for about 2 years, and then suddenly, on a field trip, for no reason at all - BANG.

 

[auntiehill]

Well, no one could accuse hubby or I of being overly attractive. I fell for him because he was someone I actually liked to talk to. We were both geeks, bored out of our minds at a convention (there's a story there, too---don't ask), and we struck up a conversation. I figured, "I'm in a different town, and I'm never going to see this people again. Why not just be myself?"

I was, and he and I got into a long, involved conversation--about TV shows we liked, movies, books, religion, manners. I thought, "Wow. At least I met one cool person here."

It never occurred to me that he wasn't rich or traditionally handsome. I just liked him. I'm sure as hell that hubby didn't go for me because of my looks. I'm fat and goofy looking. Maybe the reason why we're still together is we were initially attracted to the personality, rather than the body.

 

[Crusher Disciple]

I'm fat and goofy looking.

I prefer the term "cool."

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

Categorizing all good looking people as being horrible is a just a bit of a stretch, don't you think?

Agreed. It's reverse snobbery.

 

[Plecostomus]

. I'm fat and goofy looking.

The politically correct term is "squishy and cute."