How Many People Do You Live With?

[Holdfast]

Live alone. Happy that way!

QFT!

Yeah, I really couldn't hack living with others.

I mean, I like people and adore chatting/gossiping/flirting... but I don't want to share the same living space as other people. I love being able to come home, lock the door and leave the world outside.

I could virtually retire, right now, if I was willing to take on a housemate. I just can't and won't bring myself to do it.

 

[Mr Light]

I can't stand living by myself. Sure it's nice to have a few hours to yourself a day, but if I'm home alone permanently I start to get really bored, lonely, and disconnected from reality. My first two years of college I was a total hermit, and while I had a roommate I didn't interact with him, and my shy nature became a full out sweaty panic attack anytime I had to do a group project or speech in class, or indeed talk to strangers at all!

 

[An Officer]

I mean, I like people and adore chatting/gossiping/flirting... but I don't want to share the same living space as other people. I love being able to come home, lock the door and leave the world outside.

I think the trick is finding someone you want to lock yourself away with - WIN/WIN situation!

And if you want to lock them in your bedroom and throw away the key... even better.

 

[Holdfast]

I mean, I like people and adore chatting/gossiping/flirting... but I don't want to share the same living space as other people. I love being able to come home, lock the door and leave the world outside.

I think the trick is finding someone you want to lock yourself away with - WIN/WIN situation!

And if you want to lock them in your bedroom and throw away the key... even better.

That's true, I guess.

But to be serious for a (very) brief moment, I'm way too selfish a person for this. I don't mean selfish in a bad way - I'm generally friendly, polite, have a certain level of charm/ease in my manner, and can be supportive and caring when it's needed.

But I don't care - and have never cared - deeply enough about someone to want to live with them. Not in a nasty way, it just hasn't ever happened. Not that I've never had short-term relationships or anything like that; of course I have... but that's the thing; they've always been relatively short-term because I never have the, well, patience is probably the best word, to take things beyond having fun for a short while.

Living together with someone, as part of a long-term relationship, requires something more - a willingness to compromise because you WANT to compromise because compromising with them makes you happier. I've never been that moved. It's easy to write all that off as "not met the right girl yet", but I've met plenty of girls and I'm not convinced that's the case.

I'm just happiest the way I am, I think. Never say never, of course. But I wouldn't bet on this feeling changing any time soon.

Anyway, enough gravity. Back to the levity.

 

[Kestra]

^^^ And it's good that you recognize that. I think a lot of people who have lived on their own for awhile simply have issues compromising in the way you have to with a roommate. Relationship or not. And they don't always know what they're getting into.

I can understand the desire to be alone, and I definitely require some amount of privacy. I've lived on my own before and been fine, and I've shared living spaces with different people over the years and been okay with any situation.

I think my situation right now is pretty ideal. My husband (for the most part) understands that I need my own space, but it's also nice to have someone around for little everyday things. Doing laundry together, fixing things around the house, someone to cook for, someone to make cleaning up fun, someone to watch movies with, etc. Also the practical reason of having someone around to keep an eye on me when I have allergic reactions to things.

I do like even when we're in separate rooms working on different things. We're not in each other's space, but we both know the other is there and something about that is quite pleasant.

 

[An Officer]

When I first began living by myself, I thought I would never give it up again. It was ideal. I could do as I pleased, no compromises necessary - ever. It was a dream. Absolutely perfect.

Then, it might happen, that you come across a spiritual twin, who you do not see as "other". You count them as part of your inner sanctum... finding yourself able to accept a second-self into your most personal of physical and mental spaces.

I agree that it is a mistake to give up your freedom, unless you have found someone who fits perfectly into it. Someone with whom you can be free together. That's how I see it.
Of course, it helps if you have matching quirks/ticks, thus reducing the need for too many unacceptable adjustments or compromises!

Perhaps it's just a matter of being able to comfortably lower all personal shields, every last one. Once you can do that, and the trust and affection is there, all selfishness, want of space and freedom etc, can happily dissipate, without being noticed. You are selfish for each other, your needs are met regardless. WIN/WIN. That's what inspires me.

 

[Kestra]

^^^ Oh dear, that's not us at all. We squabble over things like how to load the dishwasher most efficiently!

But honestly, I wouldn't give it up for anything.

 

[Holdfast]

Well, well, I'm not axiomatically opposed to the possibility, I just happen to think it's unlikely for me personally, given my current opinions. But stranger things have happened at sea, and all that.

 

[An Officer]

It's probably true that there can only ever be one Holdfast... but, if you met yourself, I'm sure you would be blown away - instant marriage I tells ya'. You never can tell...
Maybe it could be our very own Squiggy... he likes suits, too, did you know? He's already shown you his bum, what more can a boy do? Match made in heaven.

 

[Holdfast]

It's probably true that there can only ever be one Holdfast... but, if you met yourself, I'm sure you would be blown away - instant marriage I tells ya'. You never can tell...

If I met myself I'd probably think "what an insufferable jackass... but he's kind of fun anyway".

 

[Aurian]

It's probably true that there can only ever be one Holdfast... but, if you met yourself, I'm sure you would be blown away - instant marriage I tells ya'. You never can tell...
Maybe it could be our very own Squiggy... he likes suits, too, did you know? He's already shown you his bum, what more can a boy do? Match made in heaven.

 

[Shazam!]

I live alone

 

[DiSiLLUSiON]

Me & My Significant Other.

 

[CorporalClegg]

It's probably true that there can only ever be one Holdfast... but, if you met yourself, I'm sure you would be blown away - instant marriage I tells ya'. You never can tell...
Maybe it could be our very own Squiggy... he likes suits, too, did you know? He's already shown you his bum, what more can a boy do? Match made in heaven.

My, God! Think of the children!

 

[An Officer]

^ They were blinded by Squiggy long ago.

 

[Miss Chicken]

I live with my youngest son (aged 26) and three cats.

 

[Geckothan]

With my mother, and hating it. Can't wait to get my own place, but I doubt I'd even be able to afford rent on a flat let alone a house, and screw living in a flat. Might have to wait until I've gone to college, finished that, got a job and hooked up with someone who can share the rent on a house, and none of that is likely to happen soon (especially the latter, because I'm oh so unlikeable LOL) so I guess I'm screwed for a while

 

[tomalak301]

Just live with the family. It kinda sucks, but in this time, I don't have much choice.

 

[ITL]

I live alone. 'Tis groovy.

 

[trampledamage]

I mean, I like people and adore chatting/gossiping/flirting... but I don't want to share the same living space as other people. I love being able to come home, lock the door and leave the world outside.

I think the trick is finding someone you want to lock yourself away with - WIN/WIN situation!

And if you want to lock them in your bedroom and throw away the key... even better.

That's true, I guess.

But to be serious for a (very) brief moment, I'm way too selfish a person for this. I don't mean selfish in a bad way - I'm generally friendly, polite, have a certain level of charm/ease in my manner, and can be supportive and caring when it's needed.

But I don't care - and have never cared - deeply enough about someone to want to live with them. Not in a nasty way, it just hasn't ever happened. Not that I've never had short-term relationships or anything like that; of course I have... but that's the thing; they've always been relatively short-term because I never have the, well, patience is probably the best word, to take things beyond having fun for a short while.

Living together with someone, as part of a long-term relationship, requires something more - a willingness to compromise because you WANT to compromise because compromising with them makes you happier. I've never been that moved. It's easy to write all that off as "not met the right girl yet", but I've met plenty of girls and I'm not convinced that's the case.

I'm just happiest the way I am, I think. Never say never, of course. But I wouldn't bet on this feeling changing any time soon.

Anyway, enough gravity. Back to the levity.

My sister's the same. Finally she's found herself a relationship with someone similar, and they both spend time apart. It means she really looks forward to the time together, but also has her own space.

I'm a lot like that, but I have managed to find the only person in the universe that I haven't wanted to stab after being in the same house for any length of time. So, naturally, I married him!