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How Many Of You...?

It's easier to be yourself. You don't have to remember as many lies that way.

Plus, if people like you for something you aren't, you have to keep that image going, and it sucks a big one.
 
I am mostly my silent me, when I meet new people in a group and a more outgoing me, when I meet new people one to one. One to one I find it easier to get to know people and have not much probs there (anymore). Friends is another thing. While getting around with most people, without having to act to be someone I am not (though In only show some few parts of me in that kind of contacts), to become friends with somebody takes a longer time... and it just has to fit from both sides. I have 4 people I call friends and am happy with that, though if one day another true friend or two come along, great!
Though I have to add, even with my close friends, while I know I can count on them, I still miss someone who...hmm... is...don´t know how to say that... but had someone like that in the past, who was like my brother and we could read each other and he was such a deep philosophical soul... someone like that I would like to find again.

TerokNor
 
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I've got three (very good!!) friends, including my boyfriend... who has been my best friend for (...wow) eleven years now.

Everyone else, I've drifted from for various reasons, or the other way around.

I suppose if I could be bothered to try and be more interesting to people I'd have a few more. But... don't care to.
 
That's me in a nutshell.

I wasn't always liked that. Sometime in my early 20s I became overly paranoid of what people thought of me. I don't even know why.

It may have been some negative interactions with people, however slight. Or maybe some hit to your self-esteem in another area. Maybe you decided that people are more judgmental than you originally thought. For me it's always been there, but I've always battled low self esteem for as long as I can remember.

You're probably a lovely person that people would be lucky to call a friend.

^Kestra I know the feeling all too well. Rationally I know that you have to expose yourself to that possibility. Though your heart says do you really want to put yourself through that again. Unfortunatly my heart tends to win that argument.

I'm the same way. Truth be told, I've had people tell me straight out that they couldn't handle me. Just thinking about it now still cuts me deeply. But when a relationship works out, it can be amazing. That's probably why we still take chances. You never know if the next person is going to a piece in your life that you hadn't realized you were missing.

I do get down about people sometimes. Or guarded and closed off, pushing people away. But ultimately there's always someone in my life whose kindness surprises me and warms me again to friendship. And suddenly it all feels worth it again.
 
Someone said I looked like Weyoun, I could pretend to be him!:lol:

If you can actually produce Vorta DNA after a blood test, I bet a lot of people will suddenly want to be your friends.

Seriously. You have no idea how easily the government can develop a sudden interest in you right when you are thinking nobody cares. I've been there.

It was conscription for me, but I suspect not paying taxes would do the same job. I'm a fan of the pretending to be a time traveller option, but that's criminal.
 
I have problems making friends, period. Maybe I'm just not all that outgoing even though I really need to get around that. Other than clubs, where is a good place to meet people and not have it be a drunken binge/one night stand kind of deal. I think I need to get around that by just being out more.
 
I didn't make friends when I was little for a number of reasons: I thought I was so worthless that sparing people my presence as much as possible was a good thing; I sucked at social skills; I was obliviously blunt.

I've improved across the board, to the point that people are amazed when I describe how I was. I still have a certain amount of obliviousness. I intend to keep it; it has it's uses.
 
We all wear masks from time to time, to hide how we really feel, who we really are. Are the ones who come across as distant and unfeeling really that way inside or do they just have trouble expressing that aspect of their personality. It takes time to learn who someone really is underneath their mask(s). All too often people look at the surface.
 
I have found that a friend likes me just how I am, I don't pretend to be different so I know who my true friends are. I don't have many true friends and that doesn't bother me, I know who I can trust and count on!
 
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