How Many Of You...?
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Reading about personality type via the MBTI did wonders for my understanding of people. I know I do have to adapt to have a certain friendly bonhomie with the people I interact with day to day.
As to making real friends.. identify any personality elements you have which others find abrasive and try and tone them down. That's not changing yourself, it's improving yourself. Accept that you may never be a person who finds making friends easy as you may be quite different in personality from the bulk of your peers. A couple of decent friends or people to hang out with is all you really need and if you don't have that you may have to actively look for it outside of whatever social circles life has thrust you into.
As to making real friends.. identify any personality elements you have which others find abrasive and try and tone them down. That's not changing yourself, it's improving yourself. Accept that you may never be a person who finds making friends easy as you may be quite different in personality from the bulk of your peers. A couple of decent friends or people to hang out with is all you really need and if you don't have that you may have to actively look for it outside of whatever social circles life has thrust you into.
GemHaters
Captain
People do suck...the ones who can't get along with anyone and pretend to be someone else, that is.
Faking and adapting are not the same thing. People often expect others to adapt to them but feel they are being asked to be fake if expected to so the same in return.
GemHaters
Captain
I hope this doesn't come off rude, or sound like I'm trying to mock you, but are you a psychologist, or whatever they're called? You just seem to have a lot of insight into this...
My two best friends have been my friends for more than 25 years, I have never had to act fake with them. They have always taken me as I am, warts and all.
Two other very close friends have died (one in 1988, the other in 2000). I never acted fake with them either.
Two other very close friends have died (one in 1988, the other in 2000). I never acted fake with them either.
No I'm not a psychologist, I've just thought about this topic a lot. I had a great deal of trouble making friends for many years beginning in childhood and also felt I was faking to get along for certain periods of my life. I no longer feel this way. I also no longer have friends I don't really have anything in common with, though I can now get along with practically anyone.
Be yourself, but don't expect people to like you for it. If they do, great. If they don't, you either need to re-evaluate the people you're trying to be friends with or re-evaluate yourself to figure out exactly what people don't like.
But to answer the original question, no, I don't have a problem making friends being myself. That is not to say, however, that I become friends with everyone who crosses my path.
I don't have to pretend to be other people. I pretend to be me.
GemHaters
Captain
Do you pretend to love the Yankees too?
Sorry man, I'm just joking...I'll lay off the Yankees talk now...
Least you don't like the Lakers....
GemHaters
Captain
Well, being myself has gotten me to where I am today...
...so maybe it's time to start pretending to be somebody else
I can get along with most people ok, and have no problem with acquaintances, but haven't made a true friend in a while.
Someone said I looked like Weyoun, I could pretend to be him!
GemHaters
Captain
^WIN!!!
GemHaters
Captain
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