How do you feel about Valentines Day?

[Tora Ziyal]

The only time it was a big deal for me was when my now-former-husband and I got our marriage license on Valentines Day. All the years we were married, Valentines Day was just important enough that I would've been upset if we hadn't done something to acknowledge it, but not important enough to make a fuss over.

Now, I'm pretty much indifferent. I don't understand either extreme -- making a huge deal out of it, and or being angry and bitter.

 

[mari]

Heh. My husband asked me a couple weeks ago if I had anything scheduled for the 15th. (I've got birthday parties and my baby shower all month, but not on that particular Saturday.) It took me opening my calendar, confirming I was free, and wracking my brain for five minutes, to realize he meant to do something for Valentine's Day. (He works second shift, so Friday night doesn't work for us.) So I guess I'm indifferent? But it's one of three days he finds important, the others being my birthday and our anniversary. His memory is terrible, sometimes he forgets his own birthday, so it's "prove I'm not a complete spaz" day for him. But we have nice dinners out at least once a month anyway, and he buys me random gifts whenever he feels like it, so... I'm pretty spoiled and I don't need a date on a calendar to dictate when I get loved. However, half-price chocolate the next day is AWESOME. That means I get to have twice as much chocolate.

 

[Tora Ziyal]

^ That's the best thing about Halloween, too.

 

[thestrangequark]

I have a Valentine's Day question, actually, or, rather, a Valentine's Day protocol question. I've just started seeing someone and I'm not sure what to do come Valentine's Day. We're not an official couple yet and while it's possible that'll change before then, if it doesn't I'm not sure what I should do on the day as I don't want to overdo it, but I also don't want to seem heartless. Anyone have an idea for a middle ground that says "I like you, but I'm not crazy and think we're already married!"

Gesture gift that is shared, chocolate something that is not in heart shape.

Unless it's this, because this is awesome:

 

[Gryffindorian]

^

How do you feel about Valentines Day?

I don't.

To me, it's just an ordinary day, but I don't resent it like others hate Valentine's Day or Christmas. Besides, I have five family birthdays in February, and I don't really think much of it because I'm too busy shopping for birthday presents.

 

[Emher]

I have a Valentine's Day question, actually, or, rather, a Valentine's Day protocol question. I've just started seeing someone and I'm not sure what to do come Valentine's Day. We're not an official couple yet and while it's possible that'll change before then, if it doesn't I'm not sure what I should do on the day as I don't want to overdo it, but I also don't want to seem heartless. Anyone have an idea for a middle ground that says "I like you, but I'm not crazy and think we're already married!"

Gesture gift that is shared, chocolate something that is not in heart shape.

Unless it's this, because this is awesome:

I NEED IT.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

I hope that heart is filled with cherry syrup.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

I hope that heart is filled with cherry syrup.

Imagine testing that blood sugar...

 

[Mary Ann]

That chocolate heart is SO awesome!

 

[thestrangequark]

I hope that heart is filled with cherry syrup.

Imagine testing that blood sugar...

If test strips weren't so fucking expensive I'd actually be rather curious what reading I'd get for something like cherry syrup.

 

[Mary Ann]

It would probably catch fire.

 

[thestrangequark]

Baby, you're so sweet I had to up my basal insulin by 30%.

 

[Avalon]

I have a Valentine's Day question, actually, or, rather, a Valentine's Day protocol question. I've just started seeing someone and I'm not sure what to do come Valentine's Day. We're not an official couple yet and while it's possible that'll change before then, if it doesn't I'm not sure what I should do on the day as I don't want to overdo it, but I also don't want to seem heartless. Anyone have an idea for a middle ground that says "I like you, but I'm not crazy and think we're already married!"

Something like a single flower (like a white or a pink, not red, rose) and a little bag of Lindor truffles. Or a fantastic pastry or piece of cake from a bakery. Or better, something that you know she likes because she mentioned it in conversation...like a small bag of that hazelnut coffee she loves but doesn't treat herself to very often, or a vanilla-scented candle because vanilla reminds her of her parents' home.

Just stay small and thoughtful-but-still-breezy with it. (Besides, she's probably wondering what to do for you, too.)

 

[Gryffindorian]

I can usually handle sweets as long as I exercise regularly, but I still need to get my A1C level down.

 

[Pondwater]

I have a Valentine's Day question, actually, or, rather, a Valentine's Day protocol question. I've just started seeing someone and I'm not sure what to do come Valentine's Day. We're not an official couple yet and while it's possible that'll change before then, if it doesn't I'm not sure what I should do on the day as I don't want to overdo it, but I also don't want to seem heartless. Anyone have an idea for a middle ground that says "I like you, but I'm not crazy and think we're already married!"

Gesture gift that is shared, chocolate something that is not in heart shape.

Unless it's this, because this is awesome:

I wonder if there's a dairy free version of that!

 

[Amaris]

I have a Valentine's Day question, actually, or, rather, a Valentine's Day protocol question. I've just started seeing someone and I'm not sure what to do come Valentine's Day. We're not an official couple yet and while it's possible that'll change before then, if it doesn't I'm not sure what I should do on the day as I don't want to overdo it, but I also don't want to seem heartless. Anyone have an idea for a middle ground that says "I like you, but I'm not crazy and think we're already married!"

Something like a single flower (like a white or a pink, not red, rose) and a little bag of Lindor truffles. Or a fantastic pastry or piece of cake from a bakery. Or better, something that you know she likes because she mentioned it in conversation...like a small bag of that hazelnut coffee she loves but doesn't treat herself to very often, or a vanilla-scented candle because vanilla reminds her of her parents' home.

Just stay small and thoughtful-but-still-breezy with it. (Besides, she's probably wondering what to do for you, too.)

Yes, this. Something thoughtful, but not overly involved.

 

[Kestra]

I don't know why you guys are ignoring the obvious. Have macloudt and Darth Duck email her some virtual flowers from TBBS. That should create exactly the right impression.

 

[Taylirious]

It is the day to love yourself first because if you don't love you, how can anyone else?

Also it is the day candy, flowers, champagne and exotic locations reign supreme!

 

[Mary Ann]

Wise words.

 

[Kommander]

I hated Valentines Day back when I was in my late teens and early 20s, but I did so silently. Since then it's shifted to a mild dislike of the day. Back then, it was mostly due to being pissed off about not being in a romantic relationship or being in one but miserable, but I got over that by my mid-twenties. I don't feel insecure about being single anymore, and I've mostly learned to avoid romantic situations in which I'd be miserable. Now, it's more that I dislike schedules and obligations in general. I'll be romantic when I feel like being romantic; the calendar has no say in it.

It is the day to love yourself first because if you don't love you, how can anyone else?

But, spending a romantic evening with my FleshLight would be creepy. I know Vera wouldn't judge me, but you people would.

Yeah, I named my FleshLight Vera. What of it?