He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to him.

[ed629]

So you may remember my post about the guy who wanted help into, and probably in the restroom. Well ever since then, when ever he passes by me in the same building (I have a break between two classes so I sit in the lounge area), he would stop and stare and glare at me from 10-15 seconds to over a minute. And he doesn't do this to anyone else, and I know this because he'll wheel around the lounge area until the next class period. And at times he's done it 2-3 times during that time between classes.

So yesterday was enough, he stopped and did the stare/glare thing to me again, and after a minute or so I stood up and said, well asked him rather loudly "What do you want from me?!?!" Why do you keep fucking staring at me?!?!" Fucking christ dude, cut the shit out already?!?!" After that,, he wheeled away, but kept stopping and glaring back at me.

Seriously, all because I would not take him to the fucking shitter?? Fuck, I pay to go the fucking college, not be someone's personal fucking aide. I seriously hope that was enough to keep him the fuck away from me.

 

[DimesDan]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

I've never seen you around here before but I can just say, from that post, you are one harsh........!

 

[Jadzia]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

You're entitled to your privacy. I wouldn't like a stranger keep staring at me either.

 

[Pingfah]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

Seriously, all because I would not take him to the fucking shitter?? Fuck, I pay to go the fucking college, not be someone's personal fucking aide. I seriously hope that was enough to keep him the fuck away from me.

Perhaps it was actually because you stood there and pretended you couldn't understand him, rather than politely telling him you couldn't help.

You know, people tend to react funnily when you do horribly offensive and cowardly things to them.

 

[iguana_tonante]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

From this (ongoing) story about feigning incomprehension and getting aggressive towards disabled people, and the thread about your girlfriend, I see you are really made for each other.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

I think it was unwise of you to act like you didn't understand, to put it mildly. Why didn't you just say no? I would have had to say no.

 

[Shatnertage]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

Maybe he thinks you can't understand English and he's wondering why you're enrolled there.

 

[Pingfah]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

^ Good one

 

[Kestra]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

Loudly yelling and swearing at someone is rarely, if ever, the right thing to do.

 

[Dr. Chandra]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

It's always been interesting to me that people will take the time to actually type out multiple expletives, even though they do nothing to further the topic. In fact, after reading the OP, I have no doubt as to why the guy in the wheelchair was glaring.

 

[Jetfire]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

You ignored him once...you should have just ignored him again. If the guy had a problem with you not helping him before...he is gonna have a bigger problem with you now.

 

[TerokNor]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

When I started reading your post I though "Oh great, he probably went to him and apolozised for his rude behavour and explained why."...when I read on and read, what you said to him I was, mildly put, shocked.

Helping someone (or at least explaining to someone in a mature way, why you cannot help), has nothing to do with being someones personal aid or whatever... to help someone is as natural as breathing...or should be. And to talk to someone with some respect as well. Sure, there are exeptions, like extreme situation, when you are under a great amount of negative stress, but this glaring-situation seems in my opinion not one that justifies talking in that way with the guy.


TerokNor

 

[ed629]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

I think it was unwise of you to act like you didn't understand, to put it mildly. Why didn't you just say no? I would have had to say no.

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Seriously, all because I would not take him to the fucking shitter?? Fuck, I pay to go the fucking college, not be someone's personal fucking aide. I seriously hope that was enough to keep him the fuck away from me.

Perhaps it was actually because you stood there and pretended you couldn't understand him, rather than politely telling him you couldn't help.

You know, people tend to react funnily when you do horribly offensive and cowardly things to them.

I think it was unwise of you to act like you didn't understand, to put it mildly. Why didn't you just say no? I would have had to say no.

I didn't expect to be asked to help someone in the restroom. That's above and beyond what anyone should be expected or asked to do. I didn't know how else to react at the time.

Maybe he thinks you can't understand English and he's wondering why you're enrolled there.

He knows different now, doesn't he,

It's always been interesting to me that people will take the time to actually type out multiple expletives, even though they do nothing to further the topic. In fact, after reading the OP, I have no doubt as to why the guy in the wheelchair was glaring.

Because I wouldn't and didn't want to help him in the restroom? But for him to stare at me every day, sometimes several times a day. To stop where I'm sitting to do so, that could conisidered a form of harassment and stalking.

You ignored him once...you should have just ignored him again. If the guy had a problem with you not helping him before...he is gonna have a bigger problem with you now.

If he doesm then I'll report his ass to the campus security and police, I can video what he does and show it as proof. I've told him to stop already, so if he doesn't I have a bigger case than he does.

When I started reading your post I though "Oh great, he probably went to him and apolozised for his rude behavour and explained why."...when I read on and read, what you said to him I was, mildly put, shocked.

Helping someone (or at least explaining to someone in a mature way, why you cannot help), has nothing to do with being someones personal aid or whatever... to help someone is as natural as breathing...or should be. And to talk to someone with some respect as well. Sure, there are exeptions, like extreme situation, when you are under a great amount of negative stress, but this glaring-situation seems in my opinion not one that justifies talking in that way with the guy.


TerokNor

Even though he does it everyday now? There's no reason for him to seek me out and do this. Just because he's in wheelchair does not entitle him to any type of harassment or stalking behavior to another person simply because they did not want to help him.

 

[Pingfah]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

Why don't you try fucking apologising to the guy for ignoring him?

If you explain that you were uncomfortable and didn't know what to say he might respect you and understand you enough to stop being annoyed at you. You seem fixated on the fact it must be because you didn't want to help, but i'll bet it's actually about you being incredibly rude about it.

Apologise to the guy, you should have done it already.

 

[DimesDan]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

I think it was unwise of you to act like you didn't understand, to put it mildly. Why didn't you just say no? I would have had to say no.

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Perhaps it was actually because you stood there and pretended you couldn't understand him, rather than politely telling him you couldn't help.

You know, people tend to react funnily when you do horribly offensive and cowardly things to them.

I didn't expect to be asked to help someone in the restroom. That's above and beyond what anyone should be expected or asked to do. I didn't know how else to react at the time.




He knows different now, doesn't he,




Because I wouldn't and didn't want to help him in the restroom? But for him to stare at me every day, sometimes several times a day. To stop where I'm sitting to do so, that could conisidered a form of harassment and stalking.

You ignored him once...you should have just ignored him again. If the guy had a problem with you not helping him before...he is gonna have a bigger problem with you now.

If he doesm then I'll report his ass to the campus security and police, I can video what he does and show it as proof. I've told him to stop already, so if he doesn't I have a bigger case than he does.

When I started reading your post I though "Oh great, he probably went to him and apolozised for his rude behavour and explained why."...when I read on and read, what you said to him I was, mildly put, shocked.

Helping someone (or at least explaining to someone in a mature way, why you cannot help), has nothing to do with being someones personal aid or whatever... to help someone is as natural as breathing...or should be. And to talk to someone with some respect as well. Sure, there are exeptions, like extreme situation, when you are under a great amount of negative stress, but this glaring-situation seems in my opinion not one that justifies talking in that way with the guy.


TerokNor

Even though he does it everyday now? There's no reason for him to seek me out and do this. Just because he's in wheelchair does not entitle him to any type of harassment or stalking behavior to another person simply because they did not want to help him.

And just because you are able bodied, does not mean you should treat him like dirt. You're at college right? So that makes you what, somewhere around your early twenties. I think you should have a good ol' look in the mirror, think about what it's like to not be able bodied, not be able to have full function of your body and most of all GROW THE FUCK UP.

 

[O'Dib]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

The dude sounds disabled in more ways than one.

 

[RandyS]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

As a disabled person, this thread probably should offend me. Instead it amuses me.

 

[the 4th hanson bro]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

"Mom! He's looking at me! He's on my side!"

 

[ed629]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

Why don't you try fucking apologising to the guy for ignoring him?

If you explain that you were uncomfortable and didn't know what to say he might respect you and understand you enough to stop being annoyed at you. You seem fixated on the fact it must be because you didn't want to help, but i'll bet it's actually about you being incredibly rude about it.

Apologise to the guy, you should have done it already.

That is not going to happen, he originally put me in a spot I was very appalled and uncomfortable in, and would of answered no to anyway. He is the one that is now acting like and ass.

And just because you are able bodied, does not mean you should treat him like dirt. You're at college right? So that makes you what, somewhere around your early twenties. I think you should have a good ol' look in the mirror, think about what it's like to not be able bodied, not be able to have full function of your body and most of all GROW THE FUCK UP.

And just because he isn't does not mean that he can keep on doing what he's doing. I don't think, or thought he was any less of a person or that anyone is because they may not have full use of their body, but he still can think and should realize that many people would of, and probably have reacted the same way. He needs to cut the crap and find someone else to harrass.

 

[Pingfah]

Re: He would not stop staring/glaring at me, so I said something to hi

Why don't you try fucking apologising to the guy for ignoring him?

If you explain that you were uncomfortable and didn't know what to say he might respect you and understand you enough to stop being annoyed at you. You seem fixated on the fact it must be because you didn't want to help, but i'll bet it's actually about you being incredibly rude about it.

Apologise to the guy, you should have done it already.

That is not going to happen, he originally put me in a spot I was very appalled and uncomfortable in, and would of answered no to anyway. He is the one that is now acting like and ass.

Yeah, and shouting abuse at him is completely rational and constructive.

You had the chance to act like an adult here and just speak to the guy and resolve whatever problem he had with you, and instead you took the most childish route possible.

Now you are making the whole thing about him causing you some horrible offence to avoid facing the fact that you are afraid to talk to him for some reason. A fact that you have now demonstrated twice.