My older sister was the victim of a violent crime when I was about 5 years old. For several months, my family had to attend the trial, and my parents would leave me in the care of my great grandmother, whom I called GG. Now that I'm fully aware of the circumstances, the memories become bittersweet, but taken on their own they're some of the happiest I have, and some of the most affecting.
My GG was wonderfully bizarre. She was ancient, and a spiritualist in the late 19th century Conan Doyle sense of the word. She held seances and trusted her Ouija Board. She also had a beehive hairdo and wore miniskirts Gogo boots (this would've been the late 80's). She was one of those rare adults who really
listen to children, and we used to have long, deep conversations about the futuristic cities I built with old wooden blocks, about what we imagined the future would be like, and about the past. She used to take me on long walks around the city (she lived on Capitol Hill in Seattle, a really fun neighborhood). We would look in at the thrift stores and the gay bars and spy on the punk kids and admire the Jimi Hendrix statue.
She gave me some of the best advice I've ever heard, and I still follow it today: Whenever you are depressed, overwhelmed, or upset, take a walk and walk and walk, until you find something to smile at.
Other great memories I have surround the many power outages we experienced while I was growing up -- sometimes due to Seattle's notoriously sub-par power company, and sometimes do to our occasional inability to pay the bills. When the power was out we had a wonderful time. We cooked our meals over the fireplaces, including popcorn and roasted marshmallows. By day we sat around eating sandwiches and writing exquisite corpses by candlelight, and by night we all camped out in the living room with the fireplace, reading by the firelight -- sometimes by ourselves and sometimes to each other.
That reminds me of another happy memory. I used to read books to my little sister. When I was twelve or so I read The Lord of the Rings to her (she was about 9). She was so funny, every time Frodo would pull out Sting she would sing, "Every breath you take..."
