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Got shot down, I think.

Paulcpick

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So, I go to our local Sonic Drive in Restaurant during their "Happy Hour" ($1.07 for a 44oz drink, cant beat that with an ugly stick) and I had been slightly flirting with one of the new female "car hops" for the last week or so, probably 4 or 5 years younger than me, cute brunette, ect. so, since I take monday afternoons off, I went chatted with her for a little while today, figured, Ok, seems like she's kinda into me, so I ask her for her #, and she looked excited, she really did, but then she informed me that she had recently cancelled her cell service and hadnt gotten a new one yet. then we spoke for a short time and she rolled away and proceeded to roll right into a chair behind her and almost fall over.

H2IK
 
The look she gave you is the driver of her true feelings. I've seen both the 'excited' and the 'horrified' look by women when I asked them out.
She may have been embarassed that she didn't have a phone number, but at least she didn't give you a fake number. I'd recommend you wait until next Monday and then go back and see how she reacts to you. Maybe she'll get a phone by then and will just give you the number. If she still doesn't have a phone but seems interested, maybe you could give her your number.
If she isn't interested, then go burn down the restaurant in the middle of the night, let her taste some unemployment for a while... that'll teach her.
 
The look she gave you is the driver of her true feelings. I've seen both the 'excited' and the 'horrified' look by women when I asked them out.
She may have been embarassed that she didn't have a phone number, but at least she didn't give you a fake number. I'd recommend you wait until next Monday and then go back and see how she reacts to you. Maybe she'll get a phone by then and will just give you the number. If she still doesn't have a phone but seems interested, maybe you could give her your number.
If she isn't interested, then go burn down the restaurant in the middle of the night, let her taste some unemployment for a while... that'll teach her.


^ This.

MAKE THEM LOVE YOU outta fear for their own safety. it's the only way. :devil:
 
If she isn't interested, then go burn down the restaurant in the middle of the night, let her taste some unemployment for a while... that'll teach her.
...the hell? :wtf: That someone would even entertain this thought absolutely reeks of creepy behavior.

OP, try again in a week. If she still doesn't have a cell number, give her yours. If she calls, it's meant to be. If she doesn't, then respect her privacy.
 
The look she gave you is the driver of her true feelings. I've seen both the 'excited' and the 'horrified' look by women when I asked them out.

The look or the feel you get from them is always the truth. Sometimes their own heads can't see that but it's their true feelings.
 
Not to dash your hopes, but I've sometimes probably looked happier than I should have when being asked out or had someone tell me about their feelings, because I had an initial reaction that they were joking.
 
So, I go to our local Sonic Drive in Restaurant during their "Happy Hour" ($1.07 for a 44oz drink, cant beat that with an ugly stick) and I had been slightly flirting with one of the new female "car hops" for the last week or so, probably 4 or 5 years younger than me, cute brunette, ect. so, since I take monday afternoons off, I went chatted with her for a little while today, figured, Ok, seems like she's kinda into me, so I ask her for her #, and she looked excited, she really did, but then she informed me that she had recently cancelled her cell service and hadnt gotten a new one yet. then we spoke for a short time and she rolled away and proceeded to roll right into a chair behind her and almost fall over.

H2IK

Lots of mixed signals here. She sounded legitimately happy to be speaking with you, but that could just be the attention from you and/or her general job requirements talking. Bear in mind that she is a waitress and she earns tips and shifts by engaging customers and being personable. I would be lying if I said that I had never used flirting in a service position to get better results or get what I wanted.

I hate to say it, but I would air on the side of "forget about it" rather than "keep going for it." While it is true that she might be embarrassed about a living/financial situation that would explain not having a phone, if she really wanted to get together with you, she wouldn't let a lack of cell phone service stop things. She could have asked for your number, or even your email or social networking info.

If you are really into this girl, I suggest dropping by again, and slipping her your number and keeping the conversation brief and casual, if even talking much at all. You don't want to make her feel like you are creeping and it is nice to put the ball in her court to find out what is really going on. If she likes you, she will make the effort to contact you.
 
Good points about giving someone your number instead of asking for it:

- It's decidedly less creepy. Even if you do look like Duchovony. I don't like giving out my number... (even if she is hot, I hate answering/talking on the phone. I'll give her my email. :D)

-You will save face by a rejection from said offer to get their number and they refuse.

-If they aren't into you, they'll take your number and they will save face.

-Asking for something seems needy. Giving something seems generous.

It's win-win-win with minimal social weirdness.

Hell, give her your business card if you have a slick one. If she wasn't interested before... maybe she will be! :devil:
 
Look, Sonic drive-ins are just a chain of thinly veiled brothels. Car-hops are just hookers serving substandard burgers if you know the right thing to say. :shifty:
 
aight, guys, your looking deeper than I was, Im not looking for Ms Right or even Ms Right Now, just saw what seemed like a sure fire opportunity, and got a very confusing answer.

Past that Im not worried about it one way or another, was just a WtF moment. I wouldnt go as far as being "really into" her, but I am, maybe even more now(go figure), intrigued.

as to how to play it, I'll probably just keep going to the Sonic and whenever she brings me my food Flirt with her some.


If she isn't interested, then go burn down the restaurant in the middle of the night, let her taste some unemployment for a while... that'll teach her.

I'll keep that in my hip pocket........just in case........ :crazy:
 
So, I go to our local Sonic Drive in Restaurant during their "Happy Hour" ($1.07 for a 44oz drink, cant beat that with an ugly stick) and I had been slightly flirting with one of the new female "car hops" for the last week or so, probably 4 or 5 years younger than me, cute brunette, ect. so, since I take monday afternoons off, I went chatted with her for a little while today, figured, Ok, seems like she's kinda into me, so I ask her for her #, and she looked excited, she really did, but then she informed me that she had recently cancelled her cell service and hadnt gotten a new one yet. then we spoke for a short time and she rolled away and proceeded to roll right into a chair behind her and almost fall over.

H2IK

Lots of mixed signals here. She sounded legitimately happy to be speaking with you, but that could just be the attention from you and/or her general job requirements talking. Bear in mind that she is a waitress and she earns tips and shifts by engaging customers and being personable. I would be lying if I said that I had never used flirting in a service position to get better results or get what I wanted.

I hate to say it, but I would air on the side of "forget about it" rather than "keep going for it." While it is true that she might be embarrassed about a living/financial situation that would explain not having a phone, if she really wanted to get together with you, she wouldn't let a lack of cell phone service stop things. She could have asked for your number, or even your email or social networking info.

If you are really into this girl, I suggest dropping by again, and slipping her your number and keeping the conversation brief and casual, if even talking much at all. You don't want to make her feel like you are creeping and it is nice to put the ball in her court to find out what is really going on. If she likes you, she will make the effort to contact you.

I agree with Greenguy. Waitresses are usually hired cuz they look good. And they're paid to be friendly, even flirt with you a little. But just rmb they're doing that to every other guy. And if shes hot, then every other guy is also trying to put on their best game. So if you really wanna bone her, you gotta do something to set yourself apart from all the other chumps in the parking lot. Like driving a Porsche.

Also, her excuse was being "in between cell phone contracts"? I think thats BS. First of all, the chances of finding any average joe who is in between cell phone contracts is probably less than 10 to 1. Finding a hot girl in that situation is probably 100 to 1. Why? Cuz hot girls are always connected. Cell phone, Blackberry messenger, Iphone, facebook, msn, all that shit. Hot girls stay connected so they can go to the hottest parties. They aint staying home to watch Star Trek on Friday nights. (not that theres anything wrong with that :lol:)

If you really like her, you should avoid that place for a few weeks before you go back. And when you go back don't flirt with her anymore. If anything you should insult her a little. Not in a mean way, just in a teasing way. Cuz every other chump is flirting. So try and be different.

But really, I dont think its even worth that effort. The worst mistake a guy can make in chasing a girl is to keep chasing her. Time to move "on to the next one"
 
The look she gave you is the driver of her true feelings. I've seen both the 'excited' and the 'horrified' look by women when I asked them out.
She may have been embarassed that she didn't have a phone number, but at least she didn't give you a fake number. I'd recommend you wait until next Monday and then go back and see how she reacts to you. Maybe she'll get a phone by then and will just give you the number. If she still doesn't have a phone but seems interested, maybe you could give her your number.
If she isn't interested, then go burn down the restaurant in the middle of the night, let her taste some unemployment for a while... that'll teach her.

Take this with a grain of salt..after all he's named after a vacuum cleaner...


By all means try again..then you'll know for sure..
 
Tuck a dollar in her shirt next time... if she smiles, laughs etc., it's all good. If she gets pissed or the cops show up then it wasn't meant to be.
 
this thread reminds of a guy I know who would flirt with every waitress we would encounter. Awkwarddddd :shifty:
 
I hope that you helped her from almost falling over.

If you just stood there, well... good luck buddy.
 
Go there every day for lunch and stare at her. Show her you're *VERY INTERESTED* and won't leave.

Chicks dig that. It shows you're tenacious.
 
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