Friends with Harm

[jamestyler]

I think I'm in an odd position because a lot of friends have become more like family to me because of the business we work in.. and in a family not everyone gets along.

Theres one in particular who will always badmouth me as well as others to get himself over and try to hold any threat to him back. There are times when he's been honest about himself and we've got along fine, but other times I can't bear to be around him. This year I've limited contact with him and even gone so far as refused to work alongside him. But if he got into trouble, I'd still have his back. Odd friendship...

Theres another in the group who I used to have problems with as he'd go behind my back and tell women I'm seeing I was no good for them etc. At a party someone told me it was out of jealousy. The next time I saw him it was sorted with a simple 'You got a problem with me?' and we've been fine since.

Unlike other people I can't cut them out of my life, so I end up taking a drunken rant route, or just limit contact when them.

 

[MeanJoePhaser]

Then she turned completely insane. She had it in her head that she had to have a boyfriend so she'd just start dating some poor guy for the status of having one I guess.

Sounds like most women.

I eliminate people that are negatives in my life
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If I did that, I'd have to kill myself.

 

[An Officer]

Nope. When the harm begins, the friendship stops. And hopefully, a better one begins.

 

[Cayla]

I don't have any friends like that. If I did, then I wouldn't stay friends with them. I don't need headache.

 

[Finn]

While I don't have that many friends (That I see "regularly") due to my former line of work and my geographical location (when I still was working in relations to the Deaf community (single as opposed to married ones). I did have this one young woman who would give people grief, was too impulsive and a bit crazy. While she wasn't hostile like many already mentioned above, I decided to end it all a year ago after she kept adding me to her facebook and bugging me with pointless emails (I kept ingoring her requests) by telling her to screw off.

Things should change as I go back to school next January but I'll avoid those people, and try to avoid certain good friends who seem to attract people who bring drama.

 

[ria 75]

I have a friend whose life and spirit deteriorated, and it has become like charity to visit him. He's never done much to help himself (as in work one day in his life) because he doesn't want to pollute himself spiritually. So he rants continually about his situation and the way of the world...
He used to be fun. Now he's just a pain in the neck.
I visit him when I've forgotten how boring it is. (Less than once a year. I have a good excuse: he lives in my old college town. I'm seldom there.)
It wouldn't be very charitable of me to break off that friendship definitely. He has even less friends than me.