First dates
- Thread starter startrekwatcher
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Never said who it was for. Maybe for her or him The first time I could have let it slide as poor judgment on your part, but when you joked about rape the second time after people pointed out to you that it was wrong, it's pretty clearly trolling, and will be warned as such. Comments to PM.
^Thank you, Locutus.
If you don't mind dating younger women, there are a lot out there who are into older guys.
Movies are must-to-avoid on first dates... A light dinner at a nice place (don't try to be flashy with an over the top expensive place) based on food she likes.. If she says she's good with anything, then do the deciding... Followed by bowling (if she likes bowling, based on casual conversation prior to the date), ice skating (avoid roller skating - too loud), or other activity that encourages interaction and allows both of you to be open...
Bowling and ice skating, unless you're an expert at both, can provide for some comedy relief, which helps deal with the awkwardness of a first date.
Bowling and ice skating, unless you're an expert at both, can provide for some comedy relief, which helps deal with the awkwardness of a first date.
Well, I haven't been on many first dates (I was with my first wife for 13 years and I've been with my second wife for nearly 14 years), but conversation was absolutely a deal breaker when starting out in any relationship. I've had an interesting and diverse life, so I could talk for days without running out of things to talk about... but that wasn't why I was looking for companionship. I was looking for someone from whom I could see the world from a different perspective than my own, and that requires a level of intimate conversation that not everyone is capable of. If after a short number of dates (and spending time together) I'm not able to see what the other person is talking about, then it doesn't matter how attractive they might be in any other way.
With both my wives (and the one girl I dated for more than four months between my two marriages) I felt like I was there for things I wasn't actually present for. Or after doing things together I felt like I had a broader view of events than I would have had by myself. And that was also why it was important that they not share all the same interests (because that would bring their perspective too close to my own).
and their money.
