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Do you avoid obsessions?

There's nothing wrong with having an obsession, as long as it doesn't control your life in an unhealthy way, and you know how to turn it on and off. First date with a girl you met at the grocery store might not be a good place to bring up your encylclopedic knowledge of LOTR.

Like it or not, we're percieved by other people in certain ways, and usually judged quickly. Someone might not have any issue with you loving LOTR, but it 's not always good to throw hobbies and interests in people's face the very first time you meet them, lest you get labelled. Once they get to know the well-rounded you, they either accept your specific interests or not. Not that you should lie if asked directly.
 
I think it's sad that we live in a world where people are looked down upon for being passionate about their interests. Screw that. I'll obsess over anything that interests me. And there are a lot of things that interest me.

I don't look down on people for being passionate about their interests. In fact, I like to know that a person is passionate about something, whatever it is. But obsession can be detrimental to one's life in certain ways. I don't think it's amount of passion one put's into an interest, it's the effect that it has on the rest of the person's life.
 
The closest I have is that sometimes I'd get too involved in a computer game, and stay up playing it too late every night. So I'd uninstall it for a while.
 
I think it's sad that we live in a world where people are looked down upon for being passionate about their interests. Screw that. I'll obsess over anything that interests me. And there are a lot of things that interest me.

I don't look down on people for being passionate about their interests. In fact, I like to know that a person is passionate about something, whatever it is. But obsession can be detrimental to one's life in certain ways. I don't think it's amount of passion one put's into an interest, it's the effect that it has on the rest of the person's life.

Exactly. Passionate enough about Warcraft to start a website about it? Good! Passionate enough about Warcraft to lose your job versus missing an end-game raid? Probably not so good!
 
The point in your post I think lies in the fact that unless you are accredited "something", no one will pay too much attention to what you say.

Whereas if you do have a PhD for example, you can say just about anything and be considered the greatest mind of today's generation despite the fact you reached a conclusion/theory on something based on personal observations and deductions (nothing that anyone else with a background in the subject matter - depending on what the subject is - wouldn't be able to accomplish).

At the very least, those kinds of people's voices are acknowledged most of the time, which is sad because you have a ton of people without university degrees that would reach the same (if not a better) conclusion.

Well, speaking as someone who has a PhD, I have to say: what you've written here does not accord with my own experience.

In fact, in my experience, the exact opposite is true. Anti-intellectualism in our society is both deep and pervasive. Far from considering me one of the greatest minds of today's generation, I find that people regularly disparage my credentials, and dismiss my accomplishments as something trivial. Your post is a mild example of this.

If you really think that 'anyone else' could do what I do, then in my considered opinion, you're kidding yourself. If anyone could do what I do, they'd be doing it: the salary, benefits, and working conditions are all terrific. You'd have to be nuts to turn down a job as a university professor.

I for one don't kid myself that I can do the things that other people do. In fact, I would probably fail miserably at most other careers. My younger brother, for example, is a cop: I don't even have the physical fitness to do his job, let alone the toughness and practical judgment. And when it comes to questions of law enforcement I always try to give his opinion the weight it deserves--that is to say, far more weight than my own.

What is more: far from just accepting anything I say about anything, I have found that people are more than willing to contradict me, even on topics that lie within my field of expertise; even when it's clear that they have no special knowledge in this field; and even when they're plainly wrong.

I could provide numerous examples of this tendency from this very website. Just recently, I tried to explain some very basic ethical theory to another poster--something you could get out of any first-year textbook on the subject. His response? "That's just sophistry."

I once explained a famous and widely-debated philosophical argument to another poster, who simply waved his hand and dismissed it as "gibberish and horseshit."

And don't get me started on people's willingness to sneer at my expertise in my primary field, which is history. I once suggested that the Carter administration has been unfairly blamed for "hollowing-out" the USA's military. My opponent accused me of just parroting some talking points I had heard on AM radio.

I haven't listened to AM radio for decades, and I was so affronted by this that I marched down the hall to the library, checked out the best books I could find on the subject, and wrote a lengthy, detailed rebuttal, with notes and sources. My opponent did not even deign to reply.

As a consequence, I really have to wonder how you formed the opinions you presented in your post. They don't sound very well-informed to me.
 
In fact, in my experience, the exact opposite is true. Anti-intellectualism in our society is both deep and pervasive. Far from considering me one of the greatest minds of today's generation, I find that people regularly disparage my credentials, and dismiss my accomplishments as something trivial.

Hey, in TNZ I posted in that thread and said I would date you because of your sexy sexy mind.
 
In fact, in my experience, the exact opposite is true. Anti-intellectualism in our society is both deep and pervasive. Far from considering me one of the greatest minds of today's generation, I find that people regularly disparage my credentials, and dismiss my accomplishments as something trivial.

Hey, in TNZ I posted in that thread and said I would date you because of your sexy sexy mind.

Hey, the first rule of fight club... :shifty:
 
In fact, in my experience, the exact opposite is true. Anti-intellectualism in our society is both deep and pervasive. Far from considering me one of the greatest minds of today's generation, I find that people regularly disparage my credentials, and dismiss my accomplishments as something trivial.

Hey, in TNZ I posted in that thread and said I would date you because of your sexy sexy mind.

Hey, the first rule of fight club... :shifty:

is, what...No dating?
 
I suppose that if I felt an interest was becoming unhealthy or monopolizing ALL of my time and energy, I'd try to stop. Otherwise, these little interests that come along kind of make life worth living.
 
Otherwise you're just a sorry, scattered crackpot. :(
I'm the sorriest, scatteredest crackpot ever. :rommie:

If, for example, I knew what bra size Kate Mulgrew wears (I don't), I've moved into unhealthy, and it's time for me to take a break.
Surya Bonaly wears a 34-B. :adore:

I don't look down on people for being passionate about their interests. In fact, I like to know that a person is passionate about something, whatever it is. But obsession can be detrimental to one's life in certain ways. I don't think it's amount of passion one put's into an interest, it's the effect that it has on the rest of the person's life.
Rest of their life? :confused:
 
I don't look down on people for being passionate about their interests. In fact, I like to know that a person is passionate about something, whatever it is. But obsession can be detrimental to one's life in certain ways. I don't think it's amount of passion one put's into an interest, it's the effect that it has on the rest of the person's life.
Rest of their life? :confused:

Well yeah, is something important if it doesn't affect us? And we carry our experiences forever. Look at my avatar!!!!!
 
The point in your post I think lies in the fact that unless you are accredited "something", no one will pay too much attention to what you say.

Whereas if you do have a PhD for example, you can say just about anything and be considered the greatest mind of today's generation despite the fact you reached a conclusion/theory on something based on personal observations and deductions (nothing that anyone else with a background in the subject matter - depending on what the subject is - wouldn't be able to accomplish).

At the very least, those kinds of people's voices are acknowledged most of the time, which is sad because you have a ton of people without university degrees that would reach the same (if not a better) conclusion.

Well, speaking as someone who has a PhD, I have to say: what you've written here does not accord with my own experience.

In fact, in my experience, the exact opposite is true. Anti-intellectualism in our society is both deep and pervasive. Far from considering me one of the greatest minds of today's generation, I find that people regularly disparage my credentials, and dismiss my accomplishments as something trivial. Your post is a mild example of this.

If you really think that 'anyone else' could do what I do, then in my considered opinion, you're kidding yourself. If anyone could do what I do, they'd be doing it: the salary, benefits, and working conditions are all terrific. You'd have to be nuts to turn down a job as a university professor.

I for one don't kid myself that I can do the things that other people do. In fact, I would probably fail miserably at most other careers. My younger brother, for example, is a cop: I don't even have the physical fitness to do his job, let alone the toughness and practical judgment. And when it comes to questions of law enforcement I always try to give his opinion the weight it deserves--that is to say, far more weight than my own.

What is more: far from just accepting anything I say about anything, I have found that people are more than willing to contradict me, even on topics that lie within my field of expertise; even when it's clear that they have no special knowledge in this field; and even when they're plainly wrong.

I could provide numerous examples of this tendency from this very website. Just recently, I tried to explain some very basic ethical theory to another poster--something you could get out of any first-year textbook on the subject. His response? "That's just sophistry."

I once explained a famous and widely-debated philosophical argument to another poster, who simply waved his hand and dismissed it as "gibberish and horseshit."

And don't get me started on people's willingness to sneer at my expertise in my primary field, which is history. I once suggested that the Carter administration has been unfairly blamed for "hollowing-out" the USA's military. My opponent accused me of just parroting some talking points I had heard on AM radio.

I haven't listened to AM radio for decades, and I was so affronted by this that I marched down the hall to the library, checked out the best books I could find on the subject, and wrote a lengthy, detailed rebuttal, with notes and sources. My opponent did not even deign to reply.

As a consequence, I really have to wonder how you formed the opinions you presented in your post. They don't sound very well-informed to me.
Words cannot properly express how much I agree with you.
 
If I like it I throw myself into it.

I want to be that guy.

I want to be the one people get spooked around.
 
This is a very interesting question. I tend to whole-heartedly throw myself into my obsessions, because why shy away from something that interests you?

On the other hand, I have a friend who is "afraid" to try Warcraft because he thinks he'd get obsessed with it. I can see his point, but on the other hand, what else would I be doing with my time? Do I really have so grand a purpose that I can't indulge myself in a hobby?
 
I think what gets a reaction is not the obsession per se, but what the obsession is. I'm a knitter, and I always have a sock-in-progress with me for when I'm on a train, in a waiting room, and so forth. Every time I start knitting in public I get a few strange looks (and, I must say, the occasional positive comment). Meanwhile the kid sitting next to me playing games on his mobile phone non-stop doesn't get a second glance, because that's considered normal. Also, every one of my 13-year-old daughter's female classmates is obsessed with Twilight, while my daughter would rather have root canal. However my daughter's too embarrassed to admit to any but her closest friends that she loves Trek. The level of obsession is the same, but the subject matter differs. And, of course, my daughter has much better taste. ;)
 
One thing I think we can all agree on, is that we don't want to end up like those guys on that "Hoarders" show. :cardie:
 
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