Thank you for getting that. Yes, it is about the female character with the highest visibility. In the film and TV world, the fanbase starts with that. People buy books based on the most visible character first. That's just common sense.
Which is fair enough. You disagree with the idea that the highest-profile female leader in
Trek ought to be killed, and are concerned about the inadvertent implications of it.
But here's where you go too far: Instead of saying, "You know, the decision to kill off the highest-profile female leader in
Trek could be seen as sexist or as supporting patriarchy," you instead go in, guns blazing, and accuse the creators of being deliberately sexist. It's rude, it's insulting, it's arbitrary (why shouldn't the numerous TrekLit female leaders count as legitimate pieces of evidence against accusations of sexism just because you're not into them?), and it's not supported by any evidence. It's a mean-spirited ad hominem attack that you ought to apologize for.
Sexism - at this point in society - is about the fear of smart, powerful feminine influence of the highest visibility. Male culture doesn't want to compete with women who are truly equal. If women do compete on the same level, potshots are taken at them for their lack of femininity - yet they are expected to be like men and think like them in order to succeed. This is one of many examples of the double-standard. I'm sure men feel the same financial pressures and that the gap is narrowing, but I disagree with the idea that the problem has been solved in an analogous sense within Trek.
Hold on. You are arguing that within the fictional world of
Star Trek, Federation society is still sexist? On what basis? Their smart, powerful, highly visible female President (against whom no one has ever leveled the criticism that she's not feminine enough)? The numerous female admirals and captains?
Again, if you don't believe that, then there is no debate. Proof is all-around, but unless you are willing to see it and contain your own biases and some of the mud-slinging (that I'm a conspiracy theorist, for example), you will never understand what I am saying.
I'm completely with you when you say that the real world is full of sexism. I have no problem with that claim. (Hell, the fact that the President only just now signed an equal pay law is disgusting -- a bill like that should have been passed ages ago.) Nor do I have problems with the idea that maybe it was a bad idea to kill the highest-profile female leader in
Trek because maybe it would be better to keep her around as a pro-feminist message. What I and others
do have a problem with is your jumping from that to accusing the creators of being sexist.
Thrawn, your continual Straw Man techniques really don't further your argument. My posts were about expanding her choices, not forcing her to have children. To have her actually deal with the same conflicts women do and overcome them. Because they are there whether you like it or not. To pretend that she is not female, with all the inherent issues that come with being female - and continually purport that we are colorblind, genderless, etc. - is just as sexist and racist as harping on the differences in a negative connotation.
Yes, I'd love to live in a world where we are not racist or sexist, but the only way to deal with it is to allow highly-visible female characters to deal with modern, feminine issues instead of sweeping it all under the rug because traditional Trek finds it squeamish.
For the record, if you are interested in reading about a female leader in Starfleet who is struggling with the familiar issue of how to balance career and family, you may enjoy reading the TNG Relaunch character Miranda Kadohata. She's the second officer on the
Enterprise, filling in Data's role, and mother of three. She's aboard the
Enterprise while her husband is raising their children on Cestus III, in an inversion of the all-too-familiar paradigm of male military officers who leave their female partners behind to raise the children during their deployments.