I'm giving it a chance.
So am I.
I'm putting trust in the people putting the show together. I'll be the first person to yell "this sucks" if it does, but there's NO point in wasting time complaining about something you haven't seen yet. Christ, this is like 1987 all over again where people handed out flyers at cons against TNG and nobody watched an episode of the show yet.
You are aware that the Klingon designs, the bridge design and interface, and the secret sibling stuff are all public knowledge, right? So I'm not complaining about things I haven't seen. I'm not shouting this sucks, I'm saying these things concern me. I don't need to see an episode to know that the Klingon design bothers me. I don't need to see an episode to know the bridge design bothers me. I don't need to see an episode to know that a secret sibling bothers me. When I start bitching about the plot of the pilot episode before it's aired, then it will be complaining about something I haven't seen yet.
Again, it's not either or. It's not unconditional love or infinite bashing. You can criticize something and still like it. You can dislike some part of a thing but still enjoy the whole. I think you might be taking things too personally. A few criticisms of the show don't reflect poorly on you. Nor should they threaten your enjoyment or your fandom.