Dealing with moody people. Are you moody? How do you deal with ..

[DarthTom]

Are you a moody person? Perhaps not a morning or night person? I work around several people who are extremely moody people. At one moment they are extremely "up," and then at the next they are extremely low in their moods. They frequently bring their behavioral problem to work and take their downside mood out on others. It's very frustrating.

I tend to be a more even keel person. It's not that I don't get in bad moods but when I am feeling a little blue I either: stay at home or stay quiet and to myself.

Do do you deal with other people who are moody? Or are you moody yourself?

 

[lurok]

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I am the moodiest frakkin' person in moodyville. I should have a t-shirt saying 'Moody & Proud' (though I'm secretly ashamed). One of my favourite songs is 'Moody's Mood' (no kidding). I'm so moody, I really don't care or notice if other people are moody.

 

[DarthTom]

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I'm so moody, I really don't care or notice if other people are moody.

That's the problem. You people take out your bad moments on the rest of us. But when you're on the upside of the roller coaster you wonder why we aren't on the ride for the thrill with you then too.

 

[Sean Aaron]

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I'm fairly even-tempered; even if I'm in a bad mood (which is not normally a day-long event) I make a conscious effort not to take it out on other people. In the event that is happening, pointing it out is often sufficient to shake me out of my own introspection - maybe mention it in a non-confrontational kind of way such as asking if anything's wrong? Of course there's always the risk of being given a real answer, so be prepared!

 

[iguana_tonante]

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I have an infuriatingly steady mood. Just don't talk to me in the morning.

 

[Ghost07]

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I'm definitely not a morning person. I don't bother anyone with my bad morning mood, just so long as nobody tries to sing a cheerful song at me. If left alone, I'm fine.

 

[propita]

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I’m moody, depending on what’s going on around me and my work. If it’s all going well, I’m up; if I feel overwhelmed, it’s obvious. Really obvious. Studying for the Bar with impaired thinking drove me nuts and was starting to drive friends around me (in the same Bar prep course) nuts, to the point I spent a lot of energy containing myself and then avoiding them all. I figured if my ship was going to sink, I wouldn’t bring theirs down, too.

BUT I rarely snap at others, in fact, people have commented that the person I seem to get mad at is myself. I’ve told them that it’s because I’m mad at the person causing the problem, and they’re not the person causing the problem. Now, when someone pisses me off, I get right mad at them ... and it’s very obvious. Likely verbal. And my voice carries, even when I’m not projecting.

 

[PurpleLady]

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I too dislike dealing with moody people at work. It's like one minute you are tippy toeing around them, the next everything is wonderful. I usually try to go with the flow because I dislike confrontations intensely. I'm fairly easygoing except I'm not really human until I've had my first diet pepsi in the morning haha.

 

[Kestra]

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Just avoid them as much as possible.

 

[BlobVanDam]

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I'm not generally moody, except for in the morning. Don't try to talk to me before I've had my breakfast.
I am still occasionally moody though. No particular reason or trigger, but I can be quite unsociable.

And I'm often around moody people. I usually try to either keep away if they need their space, or just take it and not stir up more trouble. Basically just do whatever helps them get over their mood.
Sometimes they need to just vent, and I can take a bit of their moodiness if it helps, or sometimes it's best to just leave them alone. But I'm not one to get offended or escalate the situation. Because usually it's nothing personal towards me, so it doesn't bother me.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

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I'm rather Janewayian in that I get majorly pissed off if I don't have my coffee.

 

[RoJoHen]

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I'm only moody in private. I am really good at turning it off when I'm around other people.

 

[DarthTom]

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I'm definitely not a morning person. I don't bother anyone with my bad morning mood, just so long as nobody tries to sing a cheerful song at me. If left alone, I'm fine.

I can deal with people who aren't 'morning people,' it's the unpredictable ones that I find frustrating. Several of my co-workers are on this endless day long highs and lows that it is annoying and they try to take the rest of us along for the ride.

It's inconsiderate behavior at best and IMO should be actionable in terms of their employment at worst.

 

[DarthTom]

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I'm only moody in private. I am really good at turning it off when I'm around other people.

That's called normal. Everyone can get moody from time to time. It's when you try to drag others into your bad mood for the ride where it becomes inconsiderate.

This also means you're self aware of your mood which is normal as well. I'm talking about the type of people who aren't self aware that they are moody and try to bring others down with them.

 

[WillsBabe]

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I'm moody. I suffer from depression and sometimes "dip", which makes me act moody. I think I'm probably dificult to live with from time to time. Hypocritically, though, I find moody people very difficult to deal with, and if members of my family are moody, I just won't deal with them.

 

[auntiehill]

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Only on certain days of the month.

 

[Captain_Nick]

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That's the problem. You people take out your bad moments on the rest of us. But when you're on the upside of the roller coaster you wonder why we aren't on the ride for the thrill with you then too.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I don't give a stuff about how you are 'feeling', whether I'm in a good mood or a bad one. Your problem is that you think other people should care about how you feel about things. Nobody does. Move along son.

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[mari]

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Only on certain days of the month.

Yeah. Sister, boss and I are on the same schedule. Boss took the day off work. Sister and I are having gigantic frozen mudslides tonight. Any further posting from me may be incoherent, but happier.

Sister and I also get moody when we're being taken advantage of at work... like this week. It's kind of like a perfect storm of pissiness.

 

[TerokNor]

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That's the problem. You people take out your bad moments on the rest of us. But when you're on the upside of the roller coaster you wonder why we aren't on the ride for the thrill with you then too.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I don't give a stuff about how you are 'feeling', whether I'm in a good mood or a bad one. Your problem is that you think other people should care about how you feel about things. Nobody does. Move along son.

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Well... of course some people care about how other people feel about things... would be sad otherwise, wouldn´t it?

I am sometimes moody, but not one to be so always and jumping back and forth between feeling good and bad.
I usually get moody when I am very tired, hungry, thirsty or overpowered with something. People know then to either give me food and drink or space and not to talk my ear off. If someone gets on my nerves while I am feeling moody, I usually give him/ her one or two "warning barks", before either leaving the situation myself or getting somewhat snappy.
If I encounter someone moody I give him/her space and stay mostly silent and out of the way, with some where I know it works I use humour and get them into a good mood again, that way..usually cause they have to smile than about themselves and their behaviour and catch themselves again.


TerokNor

 

[HoneyBLilly]

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I'm rather Janewayian in that I get majorly pissed off if I don't have my coffee.

Now that just made me snort in my coffee.

I'm generally moody. And I am so not a morning or afternoon person, the earliest I might be in a good mood is around 6 pm in winter and 8 pm in summer.

I'm only moody in public, I'm not a people person.