There is way too much sensitivity to this topic from
all involved.
The Abrams team decided it was "important" to have main character be gay. They did it the right way, but it says something that they felt like they had to do it at all -- and it says how far we have to go as a society that we're STILL discussing it.
I don't know what Cho's beef is, but given that Takei is gay himself, I can see how he'd be a little miffed about his character being turned into Star Trek's token homosexual. But that said, it wasn't over the top and was handled very tastefully. Get over yourself.
I think we should all just just move on. There's nothing to see here. NuSulu's gay. Okay. Whoop dee doo.

I find the typography on Kelvin universe ships more worthy of discussion.