Are you happy, now? Why/how?

[TrekNut87]

I'm pretty damn happy with my life right now, but it wasn't always like that. I haven't had the easiest life and I used to be really depressed when I was younger. It really wasn't until college that my life took a major turn for the better. Since then, I've been having the time of my life and couldn't be happier.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

I'm happy . I'm not deliriously, jumping up and down ecstatic but I'm good! The sun is just setting behind the trees outside the window of my little flat. I have candles lit to soften the dusk. I've a couple of beers and just about to write my weekly email to a great friend.
I've chosen what to wear to collect Son from school for half-term tomorrow and get the yearly photos taken. I've squirreled away a little extra bonus pocket money for him for study leave ~ it's only £50 but it's a third of what I've got.
I've just got a new ~ very old car, which will help enormously with the job hunt and my new ring keeps glittering as I type.
I know it sounds cheesy ~ I ain't got a lot, but I'm happy with it *hears sounds of throwing up across the board*

 

[Emher]

^No I get it. I thought for the the longest time that I had to be extraordinary. But I realised that being ordinary, to just have a home that I like, someone to share my life with and a perhaps a job I don't hate, a nice car and so is going to be hard enough for me (I have Aspergers so ordinary stuff is like really hard for me!). Ironically I consider the hardest thing to fix being the one that is the easiest financially, namely someone to share my life with Well already got the good home so it's just the other stuff then. Hoping I'll get the job and car fixed asap.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

^No I get it. I thought for the the longest time that I had to be extraordinary. But I realised that being ordinary, to just have a home that I like, someone to share my life with and a perhaps a job I don't hate, a nice car and so is going to be hard enough for me (I have Aspergers so ordinary stuff is like really hard for me!). Ironically I consider the hardest thing to fix being the one that is the easiest financially, namely someone to share my life with Well already got the good home so it's just the other stuff then. Hoping I'll get the job and car fixed asap.

Thanks Emher . Aspergers ~ incredibly intelligent but forever questioning and questing?

I think the hardest thing for anyone is to find someone to happily share their life with. Don't panic about it yet, you're still so young. Concentrate on getting to know yourself and being happy with yourself. It took me a long time to realise that if people judged me by my car or by the dust on my bookshelves they weren't interested in me but what I represented and they could 'Go Fish' ~ it's my new swear word ~ I like it

You come across as an open, honest, good guy. Stick with it, it'll happen

 

[Emher]

^No problem. And weeeell, that depends on what you mean by intelligent. I got wicked trivia skills and knows tons about movies, cars, geography and guns (the latter was a period, but the knowledge remains), but I suck at math. Like real hard, just know basics so I can get by. But yeah questioning is pretty spot on. Also the reason why I'm not religious

I just have this horrible feeling that now when I'm finally at the stage where I can actually act pretty normal and be okay socially, I realise that I'm soon to be 25 and I'm way behind on the things you're supposed to have done socially, sexually and so on at this age. The simple fact that I have yet to lose my virginity bothers me more then is probably healthy. I just don't want things to start going my way after I've lost all my youthfulness, I don't want to waste my prime!

Oh and I don't care hugely about how people judge me by my things. I try to dress okay since it makes me feel good. And the car is just the car that I want, for me. It's a thing I want to earn and treasure as personal accomplisment and also because I really want to own a new muscle car before the disappear.

Sadly I do care a bit too much how people judge me by my physical appearance, and that's where the self esteem issues come in. Working on it.

And thanks, I'll have to take your word for it. Not easy on myself

 

[K'Ehleyr]

^Hey I saw you on 'that's me' avatar week and my eyes didn't hurt
There is no way I can try and inspire you without sounding patronising so I won't. As far to say you know what you have to do and you're doing it, so good on you.
As for sex ~ a little good sex is far, far better than a lot of bad sex. And that, my friend, is the truth, let no-one try to disagree. So wait for the good stuff , it'll be worth it

 

[Emher]

I actually think I'm okay from the neck up, it's the rest that bothers me But thanks.

Yeah well, inspiration is a thing that's been hard for me to come by for a long time now. Not too good considering I'm intrested in a line of work where you really need it.

And I'm trying real hard to just get to the "little good" part!

 

[Danoz]

I'm very happy. I've always had a particularly good outlook on life and I just tend to enjoy just being alive. I love to work, drink, eat, sing, exercise, socialize and the works. About a month ago I had a relationship (engagement) break apart, which was rather difficult, but I haven't let it change my outlook.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

I actually think I'm okay from the neck up, it's the rest that bothers me But thanks.

Yeah well, inspiration is a thing that's been hard for me to come by for a long time now. Not too good considering I'm intrested in a line of work where you really need it.

And I'm trying real hard to just get to the "little good" part!

Wishing you success with the search for a "little good"

and your chosen line of work

 

[Kirk's_Tights]

It's one of those weird days where I generally feel really happy and don't know why.

 

[DBR]

I am generally quite happy. But I feel I could still climb up the happy ladder a rung or two.

 

[Daneel]

You know... considering everything, I'm surprisingly okay.

To recap: I have no job, no close friends, no love life, and really no idea where my life is going and what I want to do with it. In spite of all this, I'm not unhappy.

True, I'm not exactly what you would call "happy", but things could be worse. I have my health -- actually, I'd say I'm in the best shape I've been in quite a while, having spent much of my life somewhat overweight. I've finally moved out of my parents' house, after having lived there for a quarter of a century (all my life, for those of you keeping score), and it was long overdue. Economically, it may not have been the smartest decision I could have made, but I just needed to get out and live on my own, at least for a little while.

So yeah -- I'd have to say that I'm neither happy nor unhappy. I just sort of "am". Stuck in a rut, I guess. Perhaps a tad numb to the world and apathetic in general. I've always kind of been that way... I tell my mom that I blame it on all the Gravol she took when I was in the womb.

What would I like? To satisfy my creative desires, and find some way to make a decent living off of them. It may be unrealistic, but for now I'm going to continue with my "starving artist" period and hope for the best. I suppose it might also be good to socialize with people a bit more than I currently do (which is pretty much never -- it's quite amazing that I actually have fairly decent people skills when I'm required to, but somehow I'm never able to expand upon them and create any meaningful relationships. Ah well...).

Of course, if Star Trek has taught me anything, it's to always be optimistic; tomorrow is a new day, and it could always bring about some changes for the better. So here's to happiness in the future -- for everyone!

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

Happier today than i've been in a while.

 

[Hermiod]

It's one of those weird days where I generally feel really happy and don't know why.

That'll be the LSD the gov'mint is puttin' in the drinkin' water.

 

[jamestyler]

As for sex ~ a little good sex is far, far better than a lot of bad sex. And that, my friend, is the truth, let no-one try to disagree. So wait for the good stuff , it'll be worth it

See that? Thats why I like you

It's one of those weird days where I generally feel really happy and don't know why.

I'm getting the same vibe and I really shouldn't considering I've done nothing for tomorrows deadline, my bank doesn't seem to want to give me money and a load of other stuff.

But then... I see my little girl on Friday. I think that cancels everything out.

 

[Emher]

I actually think I'm okay from the neck up, it's the rest that bothers me But thanks.

Yeah well, inspiration is a thing that's been hard for me to come by for a long time now. Not too good considering I'm intrested in a line of work where you really need it.

And I'm trying real hard to just get to the "little good" part!

Wishing you success with the search for a "little good"

and your chosen line of work

Thanks, hoping I'll at least have some fun at the graduation party this coming friday.

As for the line of work....at this moment I don't make another film ever again. But then again I've been stuck in a editing rooom for trhee very full days and is finally done! So I'll probably feel better.

 

[shinri]

I'm very happy with my life at the moment. It wasn't like this a year ago, but a lot has happened between then and now. I chose to end an unfulfilling long-term relationship, bought myself a beautiful home, reconnected with old friends, made new ones, and have regained control over my life again.

 

[Geckothan]

I'm never happy. I'm just not sad as long as I keep busy/distracted. No matter how many good things happen to me, any enjoyment I get from them is short lived and I end up focusing on the bad things, which takes away all my motivation to do anything other than sitting at home reading forums/tracking down people I haven't talked to in ages then never bothering to contact them/watching DVDs/misc. things you can do at home when I should be out learning/having driving lessons/going to work/enjoying myself.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

As for sex ~ a little good sex is far, far better than a lot of bad sex. And that, my friend, is the truth, let no-one try to disagree. So wait for the good stuff , it'll be worth it

See that? Thats why I like you .

Thanks I said something right for a change

And I'm trying real hard to just get to the "little good" part!

Wishing you success with the search for a "little good"

and your chosen line of work

Thanks, hoping I'll at least have some fun at the graduation party this coming friday.

As for the line of work....at this moment I don't make another film ever again. But then again I've been stuck in a editing rooom for trhee very full days and is finally done! So I'll probably feel better.

*Warning* Graduation party + beer = potential sex disaster
Take it easy tiger

You're feel different when you see the fully edited version after a few days. Well done you

 

[galleywest]

No, not exactly. I'm in a job I don't like, never wanted to take, and constantly feel unqualified to do. But it's a good job so I should just keep my trap shut and do it, which I do, but which doesn't exactly make me happy. The way things are in my family right now, I can't just go off and do what I'd like to do, I have to make sure I'm not a financial burden to anyone and that I am able to help out where I ought. In the end I don't think happiness matters that much. Sometimes it makes me sad, though. I made some poor choices early on, when I was first trying to decide on a career for myself. If I had been more directed and smarter about it I would be in better shape now. We must all lie in the beds we have made, however, and in the end there's really nothing so wrong with mine.

As for things outside the big picture, I unintentionally made a bunch of enemies on another message board (you would laugh, it's so incredibly ridiculous) which doesn't exactly make me unhappy--but it does kind of make me feel icky.