An Ode to Friendship...

[DangerMouse]

Where would we be without the wonder that is friendship?

I had to move house this week... in ice, snow blizzards, sub zero temperatures = nightmare

And there they were. Even off sick beds, to help me

Cars skidding down roads and into street signs (fortunately one of my friends thought this was great fun and shouted "I feel like a rally driver" every time the car skidded out of control).

Even friends who couldn't be there to help were on the phone every day - "howz it going?"

Aren't friendships just the most amazing gift ever

They're just wonderful aren't they...

 

[trampledamage]

Yes they are

I haven't had to call on mine for much, but it's nice knowing they're there

 

[Jetfire]

When I get some real friends I will let you know how wonderful they are...so called "friends" in the past have been horrible...maybe I am just cursed...like no matter how good I am to them...they just wanna stab me in the back over nothing or use me.

 

[selina]

Most of my friends have disapeared somehow. They got married and / or had to move away because they've found a job somewhere else. It's a shame. It's hard for me to find new friends because I don't trust people easily, but I'm trying to adjust. Anyway, friends are great! I often felt their support for which I am grateful.

 

[Michael Chris]

Friends are the best thing ever.

 

[ladyheather69]

Yes, friends are awesome!

 

[think]

is it too late to say bah - humbug or what? errr yep sorta missed that couple of weeks ago:: so I will say friends suck; friends are dumb; always in the way; expect more then I can/want to give at any given point in time; and always have needs that can't be fulfilled in time, or on schedule, or even need to be fulfilled at all in time or scheduled; but some how it is OH so important that these things take place ;.,; friends are rotten to the core; and then they OFF themselves at the last minute, just as people would try to ., want to, need to, not even hope to, find the reason that this might be a reason of being or not being there for them.

sorry ruff day here in thinkville

 

[Robert Maxwell]

I've had really good friends, really shitty friends, and everything in between, but I don't know what I'd do without them.

 

[RoJoHen]

I have an amazing group of friends, and I'd be lost without them. Most of us lived together at some point throughout college, so we became very close. We've been through good and bad times, but we've always been there whenever we needed each other (even when we weren't necessarily getting along).

 

[Kelthaz]

Friends are good, but I've never had a real tight knit Scooby Gang of my own. Although I have had a few good friends over the years that I have been grateful for.

 

[TheBrew]

I have an amazing group of friends, and I'd be lost without them. Most of us lived together at some point throughout college, so we became very close. We've been through good and bad times, but we've always been there whenever we needed each other (even when we weren't necessarily getting along).

Me too and it sucks that they are all on the opposite coast of me right now. I wish they were only two hours away.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

I don't really have many close friends, mostly because I'm not really stationary in one place for a significant amount of time to develop these things, but the friends I do have, I treasure.

 

[Mark de Vries]

Friends come in all shapes and sizes, but every now and then they manage to surprise you and you wouldn't know what to do without them. That's very true for me. The past months have not always been easy, but thanks to friends I have had support, a roof over my head, some financial means and a chance to get back on my own two feet.

So, yes, I would indeed not know what would have happened if they weren't there.

 

[DangerMouse]

This thread has made me realise that perhaps I shouldn't take for granted what I have.

Of course friends let me down sometimes... I let them down too! And we fall out sometimes too - that's life.

But there are some people in my life who I went to playschool with - when we were 3. Even though we live hundreds of miles apart now, we are still there for each other. And others who I have met throughout my working life. People who I trust will never let me down - even if they sometimes make mistakes

I'm obviously very lucky!

 

[RoJoHen]

I do feel sorry for people who feel like friends always let you down, but then I also wonder what they are doing to illicit such behavior from their friends. Are they just choosing the wrong people to associate with, or is there something they are doing wrong themselves?

 

[Jetfire]

I do feel sorry for people who feel like friends always let you down, but then I also wonder what they are doing to illicit such behavior from their friends. Are they just choosing the wrong people to associate with, or is there something they are doing wrong themselves?

In my case I am just cursed...I seem to draw users and backstabbers...I think because I seem loyal, open and honest the wrong people use it to their advantage...people I called friends just abandon me when I needed them the most and I don't get why because I was always there for them 100%. As far as doing something wrong...I guess when I stopped being useful to them...it happened the first time I was out of work...guess out of work, out of money out of mind. I just don't feel like making new friends at this point...I know alot of people but I wouldn't call them friends.

 

[DangerMouse]

I must admit I do go through phases where I feel like everyone's letting me down at times... but I tend to put that down to coincidence and the realities of human imperfection than a personal attack on me.

People just get things wrong sometimes - that's life.

 

[Jetfire]

^
If only it was as simple as being let down...I was let go, by people I stuck by when they had hard times but when my times came...it was like; "See Ya!" I would never treat anyone the way I was treated and if those same people needed me now...I would be there...but it really hurts to be done like that from people I trusted and believed in.

 

[RoJoHen]

I must admit I do go through phases where I feel like everyone's letting me down at times... but I tend to put that down to coincidence and the realities of human imperfection than a personal attack on me.

I'm with ya on this. I certainly have periods where I'm not terribly happy with my friends. I have also become able to detect when my friends aren't terribly happy with me or when they don't want me around. I always get hurt when they don't want me around, but then I try to remember that there are times when I feel exactly the same way about having them around. In a lot of cases it's all about timing: being in the right mood around the right people.

My group of friends is insanely large (I could rattle off about 20 names off the top of my head), and it's incredible how close we all are. There's definitely a core group of about 5-6 of us (those of us that lived together in college), but there are recurring friends that, even if we don't hang out together all the time, we all still keep in touch with on a regular basis.

I feel sad sometimes these days because I moved away from my friends and I miss them, but I take comfort in the fact that I actually have friends to miss.