An annoying woman

[trekkiedane]

She won't redirect her mail for two reasons

1) She says she is 'living on faith'. I gather this means that she is living for a few weeks with one of people from her church and then moving on and living with another member.She has told me she hasn't been getting unemployed benefits because if she does the government expects her to try for a whole range of jobs and she is an 'artist' and she wants to concentrate on that, this means she cannot afford to rent a place.

I obviously don't know how things work down there, but here, the mailman mustn't deliver any letter unless the recipients name is on the mailbox (/door). Couldn't you just tell the mailman not to give you mail that isn't yours? -alternatively change her address to Att: her church.

 

[Miss Chicken]

She won't redirect her mail for two reasons

1) She says she is 'living on faith'. I gather this means that she is living for a few weeks with one of people from her church and then moving on and living with another member.She has told me she hasn't been getting unemployed benefits because if she does the government expects her to try for a whole range of jobs and she is an 'artist' and she wants to concentrate on that, this means she cannot afford to rent a place.

I obviously don't know how things work down there, but here, the mailman mustn't deliver any letter unless the recipients name is on the mailbox (/door). Couldn't you just tell the mailman not to give you mail that isn't yours? -alternatively change her address to Att: her church.

Our mailmen come on motorbikes. You gemerally don't get an opportunity to speak to them. No-one has their names on their letterboxes here.

I don't know which church she goes to.

 

[Lookingglassman]

If she wont redirect her mail then I would go to the post office, explain the situation to them and let them deal with her. Then I would tell her she will have to go to the post office and get her mail from now on and to stop coming by.

The people I bought my house from had all kinds of problems. Tons of mail and calls were coming in for them. A sheriff also showed up one day trying to deliver something to them. I finally convinced everybody I dont know who they were (the guy who I bought the house from was gone his girlfriend was living in it).

 

[Miss Chicken]

Imagine if it were a garden where the previous occupant had spent every weekend tending to their now 30 year old rose bushes, that they had cultivated by hand from bulbs. And they move house, and somebody new moves in, and rips all that out. I imagine it would be quite disheartening to someone who had been so devoted.

except in this case the garden wasn't maintained so it's like there there was a lot of effort being torn out.

From what the neighbour has told me, she did a lot of planting but not much weeding or pruning. I didn't see the garden at its worst, when I came to inspect the house before taking it, I spoke to the gardeners working at the place and they said they had already removed a lot of vegetation from the garden. At that stage the fishpind was still there but with no fish in it.

I plan to pebble over the area next to carport and just have a few big pot plants there.

 

[RJDiogenes]

Don't give her any mail, even if you have any. If she's going there for nothing, she'll stop soon enough.

 

[RandyS]

What would you do in my place?

Buy a gun and make sure she sees it.

If she comes back, use it.

 

[trekkiedane]

Our mailmen come on motorbikes. You gemerally don't get an opportunity to speak to them. No-one has their names on their letterboxes here.

I don't know which church she goes to.

Then you'll have to call the post office, like Lookingglassman suggests, I suppose.

 

[LaxScrutiny]

Find out her new address, or the address of her church, and type a post card with a forwarding address to send to her creditors so they know where to get in touch with her. Consider the effort an act of charity.

 

[FalTorPan]

She won't redirect her mail for two reasons

1) She says she is 'living on faith'. I gather this means that she is living for a few weeks with one of people from her church and then moving on and living with another member.She has told me she hasn't been getting unemployed benefits because if she does the government expects her to try for a whole range of jobs and she is an 'artist' and she wants to concentrate on that, this means she cannot afford to rent a place.

2) I think she is deeply in debt and doesn't want her creditors to know where so is. She certainly gets what looks like bills in her mail.

Maybe you should have her mail forwarded to... I don't know... the IRS?

 

[RobertVA]

(snip) Imagine if it were a garden where the previous occupant had spent every weekend tending to their now 30 year old rose bushes, that they had cultivated by hand from bulbs. And they move house, and somebody new moves in, and rips all that out. I imagine it would be quite disheartening to someone who had been so devoted.
(snip

If my understanding is correct, growing roses from bulbs would be quite an accomplishment, since bulbs are usually the way you plant long leaf plants like Gladiolas.

 

[Captain X]

She won't redirect her mail for two reasons

1) She says she is 'living on faith'. I gather this means that she is living for a few weeks with one of people from her church and then moving on and living with another member.She has told me she hasn't been getting unemployed benefits because if she does the government expects her to try for a whole range of jobs and she is an 'artist' and she wants to concentrate on that, this means she cannot afford to rent a place.

2) I think she is deeply in debt and doesn't want her creditors to know where so is. She certainly gets what looks like bills in her mail.

Just tell her to go away then.

Better yet buy an M1 Garand and tell her to "Get off my lawn" in a low growling voice.

 

[TheSeeker]

I have a better description of it - bludging off others.

Including you, it seems.

Like it or not, she just needs to be told.

I agree. At this point it just sounds like she's taking advantage of your good nature.

 

[Jadzia]

(snip) Imagine if it were a garden where the previous occupant had spent every weekend tending to their now 30 year old rose bushes, that they had cultivated by hand from bulbs. And they move house, and somebody new moves in, and rips all that out. I imagine it would be quite disheartening to someone who had been so devoted.
(snip

If my understanding is correct, growing roses from bulbs would be quite an accomplishment, since bulbs are usually the way you plant long leaf plants like Gladiolas.

okaaaay

 

[trekkerguy]

Before and after pics would be cool.


... of the garden not the old lady.

 

[JuanBolio]

Sometimes old owners have a hard time getting over changes the new owners make. I suggest listening to the song "The Old Apartment" by Barenaked Ladies.

 

[Alpha Romeo]

If she has the energy to come to your house so often, tell her to go out and get a job. God...she sounds like a real leach on the system.

 

[Finn]

A while ago, Mom drove by our old house while visiting our old town with friends, she saw a gazebo and a hot tub by where my sandbox was in the late 80s and early 90s.