A question. Not sure how to interpet this....
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Don't take this personally, but I find it amusing that somebody called "The most interesting man in the world" is giving me advice on women.
Don't take this personally, but I find it hysterical that a self proclaimed 40 year old virgin thinks he has a leg to stand on in this discussion.
Point taken.
What's funny is that as I read this thread I'm flirting with a drunk girl via text who has hijacked my friend's phone who is doing the designated driving.
I would have said I wouldn't mind the biting, but then I realised what type of 'biting' you were refering to
either way would be a step forward. Equating "easy, didn't have to take any action" with "Romantic and magical, soulmates" has seriously harmed his ability to do anything at all. Even someone biting him would be proof that he's sacked up enough to actually get a reaction from someone. I mean, re-read the story. Someone implied that Trekker would have the balls to eventually ask this girl out, and she literally laughed at the idea. Not just disbelief, or an internal "I doubt it", but laughed out loud, like him asking out a girl was a joke. Sounds like she knows the score already...
Everyone (or most everyone) has old flames in their past that hurt them, or you did something that hurts when you think back on it. Of course, if you go out and meet NEW people, make NEW memories, that stuff tends to fade a bit, or at least hurt less. Sitting around and moping about it, building up a woman who cheated on you into your one and only soulmate, however, is guaranteed to keep that wound fresh for good. Which is great for the martyr complex and reinforcing your desire to NOT try to meet new people, but not so good for actually moving on or being successful...
Everyone (or most everyone) has old flames in their past that hurt them, or you did something that hurts when you think back on it. Of course, if you go out and meet NEW people, make NEW memories, that stuff tends to fade a bit, or at least hurt less. Sitting around and moping about it, building up a woman who cheated on you into your one and only soulmate, however, is guaranteed to keep that wound fresh for good. Which is great for the martyr complex and reinforcing your desire to NOT try to meet new people, but not so good for actually moving on or being successful...
Couldn't agree more with this. ^
Aye, all wallowing in a pool of sadness about it is gonna get you is looking all wrinkly. You have to go out and grab the opportunities. True, you don't want to force these things too much (like the comment made about creating a mini-romance novel in your mind about a new potential), but you have to get out there, see what's available and take what looks promising.
Word.
Cue to Highway to the Danger Zone!^ He's trying to get a date, not fly a Navy fighter.
If you knew anything about dating, you would realize how similar the 2 are.
Man, hitting on girl is romance.
Wouldn't be surprised if I did. Depression, Cluster Headaches, Simple Partial Seizures, I get them all.
I agree with RJ, don't suffer in silence. Go get help. I know someone who has social anxiety disorder. Not sure if that's what you have, but the guy was absolutely miserable. Came with all sorts of excuses for not doing things yet regretted not doing them. It was crazy. Medication and practice socializing will do you wonders. Make that call.
Mr Awe
But, the other words you've written in this thread say that that is NOT true. This is a woman that you did not pursue. She had to pursue you and take the initiative. She started the relationship, and then apparently ended it. You were along for the ride. Sorry to be harsh, but I think you're idealizing an old flame. I think you were just happy that she did the work to be honest.
Get help. Then start new relationships. Then you'll see the old pain fade.
Mr Awe
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