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2010. Year of changes.

Squiggy

Squiggy

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In case one missed the announcement in the online dating thread...I'm going to be a father. A bit sooner than I had expected, but c'est la vie.

Between now and December 13, 2010 my life is going to go through massive changes. I've already pretty much moved in with my baby's mamma (and TheBrew is going to wind up with a bunch of my stuff). I'm going to propose, become a father, and depending on how long she wants to wait...get married.

So, in the spirit of fostering a discussion and since everyone in here is an expert on all things ranging from climate change to photography...what are the biggest changes you've made in the shortest time? How hard is fatherhood? Is it natural or a struggle?

God help us all.
 
Congratulations. I hope everything goes really well!

My life has remained pretty constant, except for moving around to different places to live with my family. Next year will probably represent the biggest change in a short amount of time, since I'll be headed to a new country for my first serious full-time employment.
 
St. Squig said:
In case one missed the announcement in the online dating thread...I'm going to be a father. A bit sooner than I had expected, but c'est la vie.

Between now and December 13, 2010 my life is going to go through massive changes. I've already pretty much moved in with my baby's mamma (and TheBrew is going to wind up with a bunch of my stuff). I'm going to propose, become a father, and depending on how long she wants to wait...get married.
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I DID miss the announcement. :eek:

WTF? You're breeding? Mother of Mary, saints preserve us. :p

Seriously though Squigster, many congratulations! May you have many happy years ahead of you. :techman:

(your bachelor party better make national news, or your attention whore status will be revoked)
 
Fatherhood is like Gilligan's Island.

I know absolutely nothing about it, and it doesn't sound like something i'd like.
 
Congrats Squiggs. Sounds like you've had a very interesting year even if you just took stuff from before this point. Best of luck, even if I don't really have any practical advice.
 
Congratulations Squig! It all sounds exciting but frightening at the same time, I am sure. But the most wonderful thing about human beings is our ability to adapt, even when we think we don't have it in us. You will do just fine. :bolian:


And I envy you. I would sell my soul to have a child right now. But alas my mail-order uterus is on back order. :(
 
I'm curious, was it a pretty easy decision to make? Did you want a kid eventually and this just seemed like fate? This seems to have come out of no where!

I can't even go into the biggest changes. I've head. I was a totally different person two years ago today. At least half a different person one year ago.
 
santa sidious said:
I'm curious, was it a pretty easy decision to make?
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We've only been seeing each other a few months, so this wasn't planned. I love her and everything, and I would have liked to hold off around a year before having a kid...but Yazz being a totally useless form of birth control...we've been "blessed".

Cough.

To be perfectly honest, I was of the opinion not to have the child. But it's her decision and and DO love her, so the timeline has just been accelerated to a fantastic speed. After she made her final decision to keep it (which stems more for her love of me and anything that is "mine" more than any pro-life/choice debate), I've accepted it and I'm even growing excited at the prospect.

Now comes to joyous task of informing my fairly conservative family at Christmas.
 
Seconded on the "take up drinking" suggestion... :)

I have no idea if my experience was anything like the norm, but at least at first it seemed anything but "natural". I had hoped for some kind of instinct to kick in, but from what I can tell, although we get the whole protective thing, as a father everything else is a learning experience. My wife at the time fell right into being a mother as if it were second nature - her maternal instinct took over completely. I, on the other hand, had to figure it all out as I went, integrating this new role into my life.

I loved my son dearly from the very first moment, but those first six weeks of no-more-than-two-hours-of-sleep-at-a-time were pretty rough to manage. All the practical stuff - feeding, changing, dealing with colic, constant vigilance... It took a bit. I'm not trying to make it sound scary or anything - it's the single greatest thing I've ever done. But no, if you're anything like me you won't be able to rely on much in the way of pure instinct. It's going to be fatherhood 101 for awhile. Just keep learning and it will get easier. The really good news is that once you start to get the hang of everything, being a father will be the most gratifying thing in your life!

Oh, you'll also probably have a tendency to panic anytime anything goes wrong - kids seem so fragile at first. Illnesses, tumbles, freakouts, sticking beads in their ears and nose to see what it feels like... Just remind yourself that these will make great stories when they're older, and that kids are more resilient than they seem... :)
 
Congrats, Squiggy. You'll do just fine I'm sure. If you have love, and you're a team, everything will feel much easier.
 
Congratulations! It's the single most life-changing thing you can do. It's hellish hard, but the rewards are unbeatable.

St. Squig said:
Now comes to joyous task of informing my fairly conservative family at Christmas.
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Are there any other babies in your family yet - if not then the disapproval will probably get completely drowned in the joy for the first grand-child :)

Start learning diplomatic agreement right now - everyone will have advice and suggestions for you. Ignore all of them. Do what you and your girlfriend think is right for your baby.

Drinking is acceptable - just not when you're on watch :techman:
 
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