"Hey babe I got some hot salami in my pants... Do you want to suck it?"
Men can't be direct anymore.
It's not the 70s.
(Oh, it is the 70s on Voyager.)
It's insulting to be direct, unless she's direct first, and even then, some men can still be insulted becuase deep down they're women.
If men want to have sex they have to lie and lie and lie.
If Men want to have sex again (with the same woman.. Wait, that can't be right?) they have to apologise for lying, or lie that they were surprised that the sex happened, or lie and lie some more until there's such a healthy web of lies strung up around her that we men can rest on all the old lies and get on with doing what she says until she is in the mood, because she's finally in a safe, happy secure environment and her asshole detector is turned off, that as a man you're in a position where you can just ask for sex without spending 200 dollars on dinner and listening to her talk for hours about her awful family.
I'm not saying women are ignorant, because their part of "this" game is to (briefly)pretend to believe the lies, because although women are not easily jimmied slot machines, they are complex individuals who don't want to be abused even while they're balancing their own needs that unfortunately sometimes requires, dear god, a man.
Sometime "Coffee" is just "Coffee" but if we must go all the way back to When Harry Met Sally: "why would a man want to be friends with a woman he didn't want to have sex with?"
Besides.
Joe is married.
His wife would remove his balls if he had coffee with Anika.
Even if it really was coffee, and he was just innocently making a work connection with a colleague, the wife would still remove his balls and he would never see his children again.
Making a work connection with a colleague is not worth losing your balls.
Which means that Joe had more invested in that coffee than a coffee or he's thick as pigshit.