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Question for you concerning children

For both my kids, the first six - nine months were rough since their sleep patterns aren't established and if I don't get a decent night's sleep I feel terrible the whole next day. Pile day after day on that it really wore me down. So I'll say anytime after the first year is great. When my son turned 8 and really started to 'get it' about stuff we were able to bond much better. It's like a switch flipped and he started to understand jokes and how to tell them, he could sit and watch a baseball game or football game and understand what was going on. He read a book for the enjoyment of it. This may be a silly dad thing, but he was playing 2nd base and caught a pop fly and just flipped it to the shortstop for the double play. That was incredible. Before that, he could have caught the ball but wouldn't do anything about it, but he did it really without thinking.
 
^ I was with you up until the baseball reference, which in my sporting ignorance I could only read as "he did a sports thing and did it well". ;)
 
he was playing 2nd base and caught a pop fly and just flipped it to the shortstop for the double play. That was incredible. Before that, he could have caught the ball but wouldn't do anything about it, but he did it really without thinking.

Awesome. :techman:
 
Best age of children? 35.

No seriously!

I kid.

There are pluses and minuses with every age. Babies are great, but diapers aren't. Toddlers are energetic and expressive, but they are also energetic and expressive! Kids are fun but are still too young to do a lot of things, but when they are old enough they become preteens and teenagers. Preteens and teens can be trying, but they still enjoy being silly.

You've got to find the pluses with every age and just enjoy the ride.
 
since then I started to work with them some times (science outreach programmes and such), I discovered I was more irked by the behaviour of adults around them than by the kids themselves. The constant coaxing, the silly voices, the inability to engage them, or on the other side the anger, the shouting, the tyrannical disposition than only incites rebelliousness. Kids are fine: but they make adults into idiots.

I found that if you treat them with respect, establish clear boundaries, and don't let the drag you at their emotional level, you can work with them just fine.

Once again the Iguana speaks wisely. :) The majority of kids are fun to be with if you respect them as individuals and let that individuality come through. When I was working at children's centres those children who were, shall we say, not always likeable most often had messed up home lives. Most kids are remarkably resilient, but they still need respect and clear guidance.

It's why my 5 year old niece adores me (her words). I treat her as an equal, though she knows if I ask her to do something that it's important that she does it. She's fully aware Uncle Johnnyboy knows a lot more stuff than she does (her words), and she loves to ask questions, and I love to answer them. She's wickedly smart, and ever since I've let her have full access to all of my books, she has become even smarter. Seeing her grow up and learning gives me a new appreciation regarding children, though I loved them already.

Also, I wish I could still absorb information like she can!
 
She's fully aware Uncle Johnnyboy knows a lot more stuff than she does (her words), and she loves to ask questions, and I love to answer them.
My girlfriend have a 6-years old nephrew. In his words, I "know everything". My encyclopedic knowledge of Batman stories and characters hugely improved his opinion of me. :lol:
 
She's fully aware Uncle Johnnyboy knows a lot more stuff than she does (her words), and she loves to ask questions, and I love to answer them.
My girlfriend have a 6-years old nephrew. In his words, I "know everything". My encyclopedic knowledge of Batman stories and characters hugely improved his opinion of me. :lol:

:lol:

When my niece found out I loved MLP, and all the stuff I knew about it, I think I suddenly attained the status of Jesus. :lol:


Also, I wish I could still absorb information like she can!

It would be quite incredible if we could retain that knowledge absorption and capacity for learning.

Agreed. I can almost feel myself slowing down when I read. I still read and retain at a decent rate, but it's nothing compared to my elementary school years.
 
My husband always said he can't relate to kids until he can talk to them about what books they're reading. :lol: Our three kids were all early readers (beginner books starting at age 3, novels from age 5), so we had plenty to talk about from a pretty early age.

I personally love all ages of kids, but I particularly miss ages 5-9. That's when they're old enough to go to bed without a fuss, sleep all night (HALLELUJAH!) behave well in public for more adult outings (like live plays and musical performances), but still be adorable and uninhibited in their imaginative play. Once they get to 10 they seem to be in a hurry to grow up, and that makes me sad.

I still enjoy my teenagers quite a bit, though. (Not that I said *MY* teenagers ... not many others! :D) We stayed up until 1 AM last night having a blast talking with our 18-year-old daughter who just finished her freshman year at Yale. She's bubbling over with plans and ideas for her next school year, and the rest of her life. It's really fun to see her becoming such a creative, self-confident adult.

I miss having little kids to bring to Pixar movies and Disney parks, though. It's not the same with older kids. Guess I'll have to wait for grandkids to experience that pleasure again. :)
 
I particularly liked my son from 2 to 4. They're cute, nice and still think you're wonderful. Their personality is emerging and they haven't been influenced by school, friends or the media.
 
Also, I wish I could still absorb information like she can!

It would be quite incredible if we could retain that knowledge absorption and capacity for learning.

Agreed. I can almost feel myself slowing down when I read. I still read and retain at a decent rate, but it's nothing compared to my elementary school years.

I feel a lot of sadness over my own losses in this respect. Since my early-mid-teens, I've been increasingly unable to concentrate, retain information or enjoy books at the rate I wish to. I'm too full of frustrated energy. I studied English Literature at university, and I was completely unable to immerse myself in the course to anywhere near the extent I would have wanted. I only read about a third of what I should have. I got top marks on most of my weekly essays, lots of praise from my tutors, and I graduated with a 2:1, so I can't help but think I would have gotten a first if I was able to read with greater regularity, or focus better :sigh:.

There's nothing I find more satisfying than reading and learning, but I'm less and less able to do it, or do it and not find it a chore. It's upsetting.

It doesn't help that no-one seems to realize there's anything wrong; were my sixth form and the university aware that I was struggling to fulfil my potential, and that simply because I was doing very well it didn't mean I was okay?
 
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It's different for boys and girls. Little girls are so cute and fun around ages 4-8. I find little boys at that age to be highly irritating, however. I guess boys are better as 8-11 year olds. I don't like babies or toddlers at all, because you can't have a conversation with them. I am very awkward around them, even though I grew up with three little sisters that I often took care of and babysat at that age.

I've been told that I act "weird" around older children as well, treating them too much like adults. If I am going to have a conversation with a child or try to teach them something, I do it in the say way I would with an adult. Some children may not respond well, but others have, especially my youngest sister (eleven years younger than me), who always seemed much older for her age. I was always able to have regular grown-up conversations with her. And she understood sarcasm from an early age, which is important when talking with me. Hell, the vast majority of adults I talk to don't get my sarcasm and take everything I say seriously. It's funny that many children pick up on humor more quickly than they do.
 
^I completely disagree. I've always found little girls of 7-8 to be incredibly bitchy, and little boys of all ages much easier to deal with (from a teacher's perspective).
 
I hate little girls. All they do is giggle. Giggle giggle giggle with their little giggly friends. It's so damn annoying. :lol:
 
I didn't giggle with giggly girl friends when I was a little girl, I played football and cricket with my friends (all my friends were boys)
 
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