STRESS - How does it affect you?
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You mean you wouldn't want to find out if he is "fully functional"?
Did someone say stress? When I find myself under it my blood pressure jumps up, my heart beat starts speeding along, my diabetes becomes harder to control, I stop sleeping, get nasty headaches, heart burn and panic attacks. Normally I do a variety of things to de-stress but much of those fail when things get really intense.
You mean you wouldn't want to find out if he is "fully functional"?Did someone say stress? When I find myself under it my blood pressure jumps up, my heart beat starts speeding along, my diabetes becomes harder to control, I stop sleeping, get nasty headaches, heart burn and panic attacks. Normally I do a variety of things to de-stress but much of those fail when things get really intense.
^I didn't know you were a diabetic too. It certainly does make sugars harder to control. When I'm stressed I get random highs. I also tend to overeat when I'm stressed, which of course just makes it all worse. Right now I'm kind of stressed and miserable. I feel like a big fat cow!
Fortunately I also tend to overexercise when I'm stressed, so I don't usually gain weight.
Fortunately I also tend to overexercise when I'm stressed, so I don't usually gain weight.
Eh, let's see, in the past month, my car broke down, my house almost burned down, work got really busy and promises to remain so at least through June, but I'd still say I'm at about a 3 or 4. I don't really get stressed, just annoyed. Perhaps it's all that pot I've smoked.
Then you get the munchies. Buy a car that costs more than $300 and it won't break down.
I respond to stress by becoming even more of an asshole than I already am and consuming even more alcohol. And whatever you do, don't ask about the small plots freshly turned earth in my backyard.
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I really want to. I've gone through each option below:
I eat healthy when I can. Right now I'm unemployed and so my parents and I eat whatever we can afford off of my father's income.
We have a gym room in the apartment complex, but that's 3 buildings over and down a path. I can't leave the house 99% of the time.
I am always aware of my surroundings because of the situation I'm in. I cannot do Yoga, or for that matter meditation either.
I can't. I can't listen to headphones or turn any music I may want to hear, up above a low level so that I can hear my mom if she needs me.
This I can do.
We don't use our bath tub. It's too small for me (I'm 5'11" and this is the smallest bath tub I've ever seen). Shower can work for aromatherapy, but you have to admit soaking is where it's at.
Now, just to make it plain, my mom isn't an invalid, but it is very, very difficult for her to do many things around the house, rare for her to go out, and she has great difficulty walking, among other things, so I am her arms and legs, her eyes and ears. I keep track of everything coming in and going out of the house, run errands, handle the finances, order and pickup medications, make and receive phone calls, you name it. 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Sometimes I have to take care of something at 3 AM, even if I was asleep moments before, although now it's at the point where I go to sleep when she does, which is around 7 AM. I get up at 2 PM or so to get the household chores done, and the dinner going for when dad comes in. I've been doing this for about 10 years or so (well, the sleep thing in the past 3 years or so), hell, there was one point when my dad was unemployed and I paid all the bills when I was working for Dell. So I couldn't even save up any money to stow away for a rainy day.
My mom feels ashamed and God help her she shouldn't. She can't help what a disease did to her. My dad, I love him, but he's so bad with money I'd probably have better luck using a Ouija board and a random number generator to reliably pay the bills if it were left up to him. Oh he still complains, but as long as I take care of the bills (which also means calling the bill collectors to hold off disconnection/reposession, which I was doing at 15 years of age), our lights stay on and we have running water. Food is in the cabinets and refrigerator. Medications are refilled. I help delegate money for a $750 a month rent and bills. When dad was running the show, we had a $385 rent bill (at our previous house) that would stack up to $1200+ before he would pay some of it. The electric was always being shut off, the telephone too, and so on. And at that time he was making 3 times as much as he's making now. He's horrible with money. He bleeds money. There are times when he says "where's the $200 I put in the box?" to which I reply, "I don't know. I haven't touched that box." ad nauseum. He can't keep track of money even though he tells us "tighten your belts, watch what you spend." I only spend enough to buy food and pay bills! He goes out and buys broken banjos and guitars and fixes them for a guy who pays him $50 a weekend and HE THINKS HE'S MAKING REAL MONEY!
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to start venting like that. There's just nothing I can do about it.
J.
Bless your heart, J. Allen. Venting does help, and I hope things get better for you. Your parents must be very grateful for the things you do for them.
Trippy, great suggestions. Thanks, everyone.
Trippy, great suggestions. Thanks, everyone.
When I enlisted in the US Navy in 1987, every recruiter had a small poster on the wall, next to his desk that read as follows:
Stress: The body's overriding desire to choke the living shit out of some asshole who desperately needs it.
I was very puzzled by it and ask a few of the recruiters what that meant. They would just smile and tell me that someday I would understand.
It took me two years of being in the Navy to understand
Stress: The body's overriding desire to choke the living shit out of some asshole who desperately needs it.
I was very puzzled by it and ask a few of the recruiters what that meant. They would just smile and tell me that someday I would understand.
It took me two years of being in the Navy to understand
I'm going to start taking dancing lessons, so that's going to be my exercise. I also started eating more brown rice and edamame. And cutting down the cokes. For aromatherapy, I use sandalwood.
I don't really get stressed, just annoyed. Perhaps it's all that pot I've smoked.
You planning on sharing?
Been there. Done that. Bought the t-shirt factory.
It can be little things too-whole wheat bread costs the same as white. Same with pasta.
You can work out at home! You don't even need a gym or equipment. If you want some pointers, p.m. me. Same goes for Yoga. A few simple movents will make you feel oodles better!
Quiet music is the best!
This I can do.
We don't use our bath tub. It's too small for me (I'm 5'11" and this is the smallest bath tub I've ever seen). Shower can work for aromatherapy, but you have to admit soaking is where it's at.[/quote]
It doesn't have to be in a bath. A lavendar candle will do the same thing.
Vent away! One reason people get so stressed is they keep it all inside. The need to vent is what we are here for!
I used to have anxiety attacks when ever I got stressed, but now I simple don't give a shit about every little thing, so the anxiety is pretty much gone. My life has become a lot easier. Don't get me wrong, there are times when something major does come up which will cause me stress. When that happens now, I get a cold.
You never cease to amaze me. Your parents are very lucky.
My goodness, J. Allen! And here I am sometimes complaining about going up to the office for minor things like typing and such..you've been taking care of your family since you were 15! WOW! Here I was complaining about just taking care of Mom when she was in the hospital..now I'm thinking that I shouldn't have done that! God Bless You, man!
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They are, but to be honest sometimes I feel like they've forgotten that I want to build my own life too, which I haven't yet at 29 years of age (I don't even have a girlfriend or a basic savings), and take my service for granted. It's come to the point where it's not even up for debate. They know I'll do whatever needs to be done, no matter how unpleasant or how busy I may be.
I have an unswerving loyalty to them, and love them very much.
It is my greatest hope that my mom become self sufficient, and my dad more compassionate and willing to listen.
Trippy, thank you for the follow up suggestions. I'll see what I can do about trying those.
Oh, no. You shouldn't feel that way. Everyone has a different burden and it weighs upon each person differently. For some it's loyalty and love, for others it's an honor commitment. No burden is lesser or greater than another, when it's done out of love.
J.
I, too, have a strong bond with family (parents and siblings). This is not unusual at all, especially for a person of an Asian-American background. I realize they appreciate the things I've done. Still, there are times when I feel like I've given up a lot or have made too many compromises and sacrifices to help them. There are certain issues I now must deal with, the burden of which are mine alone to bear. I know they're trying to help, but sometimes I feel suffocated and I just want to be left alone and wish I could get far away from where I am now.
I can see you're a generous and caring person, but if you ever feel like you're having to put your life on hold, remember that you're always free to make your own choices, some of which may not be easy, but advantageous. You'll just have to figure out what matters most to you right now.
Here's one of my favorite movie quotes, from Spider-man II:
"I believe theres a hero in all of us, that keeps us honest, gives us strength, makes us noble. And finally gets us to die with pride. Even though sometimes we have to be steady and give up the thing we want most, even our dreams."
I was pretty much in a constant state of stress from as early as I can remember to a few years ago. Stress was very much a factor in my life last year, as well.
so I basically looked over eggnog's past thread starts for that one that he mentions in a new thread start, but this thread stuck out for me: cause I am stressed and as a result getting flu like symptoms and as a result stressed cause I can't work with flu like symptoms and as a result getting stress about not working and ending in flu like symptoms vicious vicious cycles and also still a bump from the past in that I am thinking eggnog should of posted that original thread rather then start a new one not the revamped one but anyway stress sucks...
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Come on. 2009? What are you, a necromancer? Just start a new one.
Just start a new one.
I get stressed about the recent trend of using "stress" as an intransitive verb.. . . The stress is replaced with not caring about pretty much everything, and that attitude usually gets me through as I forget what I was stressing about in the first place.
Come on. 2009? What are you, a necromancer?
I am known by many names LOL
been put on a z-pack for the flu so things are improving on this end still stress is stress
IMO a thread never dies till it is killed and buried with Locked siggy of the mods
that way I would pick up any and all old threads till they die. (of mine that is)
