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What don't you like about Christmas?

Warped9

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I came across this and it made me laugh. I don't agree with all of it, but some of it was quite funny.

I love Christmas, but even I don't like certain things about it.

It did get me thinking: what don't you like about the holidays or Christmas in particular?

For me (in no particular order):
Bad Christmas music - By this I mean music that is poorly performed. It seems practically no one can do Christmas music anymore and haven't for at least twenty-five years or more. I know that's not strictly true because once in awhile a new tune or new version of an oldie comes out that is nice.

Incessant Christmas music - Hey, I love christmas music (decently performed), but it can be too much when it's played nonstop.

Green or brown Christmas - Okay this isn't anyone's fault because we can't control the weather. And it does depend on where you live. But living in a northern country and climate I find green Christmases depressing as hell. Rainy Christmases are even worse. And if you happen to live in a big city and it's raining on Christmas then it's wet, cold and dirty grey and brown---Yuch! Call the crises hotline

Overt commercialism - This has been part-and-parcel of modern Christmas for two hundred years so there is no real escaping it. But you can downplay it by not allowing yourself to get sucked neck deep into it by trying to scale back expectations and unwarranted feelings of guilt. I admire those who seem to have a good handle on this aspect of the holidays. That said seeing Christmas stuff in stores and advertising before Halloween bugs the shit out of me---theres no sense of perspective. Seeing stores and businesses (including on television) wishing you a "Happy Holidays" while trying to entice you to buy "Christmas" gifts strikes me as utter hypocrisy. There's also the pressure to buy expensive and extravagant gifts that are often way beyond the average person's means. This is where your willpower has to kick in to resist unrealistic expectations and unwarranted guilt.

Being alone - I've spent some holidays alone and I know it's no fun. It's easy to see how one can go from just being lonely to becoming outright bitter and tainting your view of everything connected with Christmas. And I understand how it can be hard to be happy for others when you feel you have little to be cheerful for.

Cheesy Christmas movies - This one is similar to bad Christmas music. A film like The Polar Express represents my point well enough---it's just so overdone in practically every way. And I could name quite a few others, but most folks will have their own list. Yeah, I suppose there has to be a measure of schmaltz and corn in a Christmas movie, but there's a fine line and to the point of crossing way over it. Of course you don't have to actually watch those movies. Bad Christmas music, though, is hard to escape because it's everywhere.

Unwarranted guilt - Christmas has come to mean different things to different people. At heart I think it's a time of appreciation for what you have and those close to you. Yes, the day is meant to remember the birth of Christ and what he represents, but I do resent those who might try to make you feel guilty for not being more pious and religiously observant. I respect their right to observe the day in their manner and they should respect my right to observe it in mine. There's also unwarranted guilt in feeling you haven't met someone else's expectations (or your own) in exchanging gifts. It makes a lie of the notion "it's the thought that counts." :lol:

That list is a start. Anyone else?
 
Heavy commercialism and the fact that it's advertised in October.

Music I can't get away from. It's everywhere. It was worse when I used to work in retail and that's one of the things I don't miss about working in a store.

Presents. I barely have enough money for myself, I can't afford to get anyone presents. I only get cards for immediate family, and scrounge up something for an annual Yankee Swap among friends from college. That's it.

Too many days off. I'm not on salary. If I don't work, I don't get paid.

Basically, all the problems cropped up once I hit adulthood.
 
Basically, all the problems cropped up once I hit adulthood.
Yeah, when you're a kid you're usually not aware of all the other things the adults have to deal with. For kids it's basically a big and extended party with little to no hangover.
 
I like warm lights on pinales but I don't like colourful and blinking lights and lights being sticked onto virtually everything. Sometimes more is less.
 
I like warm lights on pinales but I don't like colourful and blinking lights and lights being sticked onto virtually everything. Sometimes more is less.
Agreed. Sometimes it's overdone. But I wouldn't call it a deal breaker compared to some other things.

I don't like those lights in the shape of reindeer for your lawn. To me they just look like a lump of nothing if you're not seeing them from one particular angle.
 
Christmas isn't really a big thing for me so I don't find it annoying. In my lifestyle, it's just an excuse to go stay with my dad for a few days and eat & drink a lot, which I can hardly dislike!

I think it's quite sweet how everyone fusses about the day, so the commercialism doesn't bother me. It's sort of become another tradition, really! I do dislike the increased traffic/crowds in the run-up to Christmas though, so it takes a little advance thought to avoid the impact of the greater human footprint on my daily life, but it's not really a problem. Things like going shopping in the middle of a weekday, avoid weekends, etc.

If I had kids, or relatives with young kids, (or if I were particularly religious), I guess I'd think about it more. But I don't, so its impact on me is fairly limited.
 
I hate the myth of the "perfect Christmas" - that it will be wonderful for everyone. Everyone will get the gifts they want, they will be wrapped beautifully, the home will be decorated beautifully, the food will be delicious and memorable, the weather will the Christmassy, friends will call, relatives will love each other's company. I hate all that, and the pressue on those who have to make it happen.
 
Here's my list of what I don't like about Christmas:

- pressure to find the perfect gift
- anticipation of someone possibly not liking my gift
- the crazy drivers looking for the perfect gift
- the over-indulgence of materialism
- the loss of reason for the season due to commercialism

Otherwise, Chrismtas is my favorite season of all. I try to focus on the all positive aspects of Christmas....
 
I hate the myth of the "perfect Christmas" - that it will be wonderful for everyone. Everyone will get the gifts they want, they will be wrapped beautifully, the home will be decorated beautifully, the food will be delicious and memorable, the weather will the Christmassy, friends will call, relatives will love each other's company. I hate all that, and the pressue on those who have to make it happen.
Since modern Christmas began this has long been a myth. Read accounts from throughout the 19th century and it is very much like what we contend with today.

When folks say "Christmas isn't what it used to be" what they really mean it isn't like what they remember as a child. Of course it can't be because you no longer have a child's perspective. Also because society and community changes it has an inescapable effect on how people celebrate. And a push towards a 24/7 society has also had its effect on the holidays---everything is rushed and under pressure. Our normal everyday lifestyles have become more rushed and pressured so it figures Christmas has as well.

The idea of a Victorian like holiday where things were simpler only works if folks have little and expect little in kind. Otherwise it's little different than today. And, of course, there's still the matter of contending with relatives who have issues or you just don't get along with. In that case I think it's better that said relatives just stay away from each other if they can't set issues aside even for a day.
 
Religion. I love everything else about Christmas!

I agree with this. Really I love Christmas very much, even in those years when I've been alone and things are going shitty in my life, Christmas time always makes me feel better. The music, the gifts, the smells, the baking, the shopping malls, the tree, the decorations, the specials on TV...I love it all!

Oh, I thought of something. I don't like that Santa's not real!
 
I don't like that Santa's not real!
Playing Santa at work last week I came across a little girl who said that while she liked my suit and how I played Santa she was disappointed that I wasn't real and that Santa wasn't real. And she knew about the original St. Nicholas.

I replied that her view wasn't entirely true. I told her that anyone, at any time of year, who visits kindness upon another, and whether they're dressed as Santa or not, for that time is Santa Claus. They become Santa whether they are recognized or not because they are representing the best that we aspire to and the best in all of us.

Call me an idealist.

It also reminds me of two songs: Santa Looked A Lot Like Daddy and I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus.
 
Not trying to be a jerk, because I know many people have genuine complaints. But I dislike the way people over-analyze and get bitter about Christmas.

I don't know if it's because I didn't celebrate as many Christmases as some folks, but I love it. I don't get people who look at it as some sort of chore. I mean, if I felt like that, I wouldn't do it. There have been years where my husband and I get each other several presents, and years where we get each other none. If your financial situation doesn't include money for gifts, don't spend. Make something, or just write a card. But you don't actually have to give anyone anything, and people who love you should understand this. Sometimes it just takes someone putting their foot down.

Things also naturally escalate over time so yeah, you do have to take a step back every now and then and say, let's tone it down, or let's not do this. I have a close group of friends who exchange presents every year but between birthdays and weddings and all, things were getting really expensive. And just because you can afford to spend the money doesn't mean you should. Buying gifts for people shouldn't be a chore, you know? I love giving gifts but I do it on my own schedule, when I find something that I think the person would really love. In the case of my friends, I suggested that instead of getting everyone presents, we do a Secret Santa. Do little things to cut down on cost.

I don't like the crowds, but I have less and less reason to visit brick-and-mortar stores now anyway, so that's not a big deal.

I feel bad that some people feel pressure for things to be perfect. Maybe they're single and feel like it's not a time for them, or maybe you don't have the perfect family gathering, or the big tree, or a white Christmas. I just wish people would resist pressure to conform to some distant ideal of Christmas. Do what's right for you. If you don't like lights, don't put them up. If you don't have money, don't spend it. You can still decorate with paper garlands and such if it's that important. Your home doesn't have to look like Martha Stewart's.

The obvious religious association aside, I think Christmas is a time for everyone, whether you have the big perfect family or not. If you don't want to celebrate it you shouldn't, and if you do, you should really make it something you enjoy, not a chore.

Too much thinking about Christmas. Just have fun!
 
Like tsq said, for me, it's the religion. I was raised in a home where the holiday was about giving, about caring for your fellow man, about light and beauty in the darkest/gloomiest time of the year--all the best aspects from the original Winter Solstice, combined with the St. Nicholas mythology. I just adore it. The religion aspect was not part of it, for me, anyway. Life is too short to not celebrate and have some harmless fun.

One thing that's rather bothered me lately is that the GIVING aspect seems to get shoved aside more and more. Now, people seem more interested in what they can get for THEMSELVES, and everyone seems to think they are ENTITLED to it. I find that fairly distasteful.

But I DO so love the holiday. I could be quite happy, just driving around,listening to Christmas music, looking at the lights people have put up, and drinking hot coco with hubby.
 
One thing that's rather bothered me lately is that the GIVING aspect seems to get shoved aside more and more. Now, people seem more interested in what they can get for THEMSELVES, and everyone seems to think they are ENTITLED to it. I find that fairly distasteful.

You know what bothers me about Christmas? LISTS. Adults that still make wish lists. It's one thing for kids to make lists for Santa...that's all good fun...but I know lots of grown-up people who still make lists to give to their families.

I don't know about you, but if I'm going to receive gifts, I don't want to know what they are before I get them. I don't like the expectation that people are supposed to buy me certain things.

My biggest problem with the way my family does things is our Secret Santa tradition. I like that we do it, but we never draw names until Thanksgiving at the earliest. This year we didn't even draw names until about 2 weeks ago. It doesn't give me enough time to buy good gifts! I want to know the person I'm buying for earlier so that I'm not rushed to get them something right before the holiday!
 
One thing that's rather bothered me lately is that the GIVING aspect seems to get shoved aside more and more. Now, people seem more interested in what they can get for THEMSELVES, and everyone seems to think they are ENTITLED to it. I find that fairly distasteful.
I have to agree with you there. I, too, have come across this heightened sense of expectation where some folks felt they deserved to get tons of stuff. It is discouraging.

You know what bothers me about Christmas? LISTS. Adults that still make wish lists. It's one thing for kids to make lists for Santa...that's all good fun...but I know lots of grown-up people who still make lists to give to their families.
Yeah, this bugs me too. It smacks of the idea that they think they should get everything on the list. When I was small the idea was to make a list of a few things with the idea that we'd receive one of the things on the list. I could see that working for adults as long as they don't expect more than one thing.

I don't know about you, but if I'm going to receive gifts, I don't want to know what they are before I get them. I don't like the expectation that people are supposed to buy me certain things.
Me too. I like to be surprised.

I don't have a problem with the religious aspect, but I resent any implication that I'm lacking in some manner because I may not focus on it.
 
One thing that's rather bothered me lately is that the GIVING aspect seems to get shoved aside more and more. Now, people seem more interested in what they can get for THEMSELVES, and everyone seems to think they are ENTITLED to it. I find that fairly distasteful.
I have to agree with you there. I, too, have come across this heightened sense of expectation where some folks felt they deserved to get tons of stuff. It is discouraging.

I don't have a problem with the religious aspect, but I resent any implication that I'm lacking in some manner because I may not focus on it.


Parents who expect you to buy the brats they shit out of their vag gifts just because they're kids. You had them, you get them the crap you're too cheap to buy for them.
 
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