I don't think I've ever found a war memorial that truly works for me, but in fairness I'm not sure if I ever could. It's not that I really find any of them inappropriate or offensive...I guess I'm just too sensitive to the loss, and find them rather redundant. War memorials don't provide any catharsis for me, and while I don't find them disrespectful I don't exactly find them respectful either. Plenty of people do, of course, so I suppose I'm glad they're constructed for those people's sake. I guess maybe my means of relating to war and the war dead is just subtly different to most peoples'?
And while I know this is not what most people constructing them intended, I must admit the statues and monuments and ribbons etc do at times seem to me a form of display rather than reflection, as though societies and nations are defiantly proud of their losses and sacrifices. Less of a remembrance and more of a staged indulgence in pain, like a child making a deal out of his bruises and scabs as a strange form of posturing - not aggressive posturing, but nonethless with a hint of disdain in there. If that makes any sense. Again, though, I'm not trying to condemn war memorials - that's nohing but my slight, personal discomfort with them.
I suppose memorials are what you make of them, and if they help you in remembrance, etc, then I'm glad they mean something to you.