True that. Me too.
How many people have you "been with" ?
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True that. Me too.
11+ is scoring higher as I post this.
I'm wondering if 0 and 11+ should be classified together.
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^ That's why I refuse to drink enough to get drunk. If I am in the fortunate position of meeting someone who wants to get intimate, I want to experience that intimacy.
I think a better question would be, for those marking 11+, how many of those were drunken one-night stands?
My roommate got drunk a few weeks ago and slept with a random girl, but he was so drunk he didn't remember doing it. I had to tell him the next day!
Eh, 2 maybe? Not a lot in my case, I was always more of a serial polygamist. A few long-term relationships, and a bunch in the couple-month range. Just adds up after a while, I suppose...
Edit: nope, 3. Thought of another one. So call 20% or so one-night stands, not a terrible percentage... And all of those were in college, and knew the girls ahead of time, so wasn't exactly a random bar-hookup with a stranger.
About 5 of mine have been one-night stands, but I've ever been so drunk that I forgot having sex the night before.
And some times people just want to have sex, romance is great but some times people just want to get down to it.
Exactly and to be honest, I think the best discription of sex and why it can be so good is this:
As for drunken one nighters, about four. I've never been a massive drinker and I have never had so much to drink so as not to know what I have been doing.
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My issue is the remembering part. I would want to remember, hence not getting drunk enough to forget.
You can easily get quite drunk and remember the night. The only way you don't remember is if you are prone to black outs, which not everyone is (and if you are you most likely have a substance abuse problem).
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True, but I won't take that risk. I don't drink enough to completely know my limits, so I take the safe route and drink small amounts.
Or, conversely, perhaps they are not sluts?People who pass up casual sex with a cavalier attitude are worse than the people get lots of casual sex.
(Sour grapes, I assure you.)
Nice value judgment. Stone the adulterers, yes?
You know, I was making a joke; a self-effacing one at that.
But this attitude is really kind of repugnant. What you're saying, and it's possible that you don't even mean to say it, is "People who have sex with people they don't really love are weak-willed and insecure little whores."
It's this attitude which has turned what could be a positive-sum game into a zero-sum one. There's enough hardship and inefficiency in trying to connect with other human beings on any level already; people don't need a Goddamn so-called moral code that makes it worse.
Personal anecdote time regarding insecurity: I'm rather positive that if I'd gotten laid more in my late teenage years, I'd be a totally different, far less neurotic, and generally better person for it. Indeed, one strain of slut-shaming, Catholicism, helped keep me from being a more complete human being. Congratulations, morality.
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I'm a weak willed, insecure little whore. I make up for it by having a magnificent personality and an autographed picture of Leonard Nimoy.
"Drunken"? None, as far as I recall (okay, maybe one.)
Or, conversely, perhaps they are not sluts?People who pass up casual sex with a cavalier attitude are worse than the people get lots of casual sex.
(Sour grapes, I assure you.)
Nice value judgment. Stone the adulterers, yes?
You know, I was making a joke; a self-effacing one at that.
But this attitude is really kind of repugnant. What you're saying, and it's possible that you don't even mean to say it, is "People who have sex with people they don't really love are weak-willed and insecure little whores."
It's this attitude which has turned what could be a positive-sum game into a zero-sum one. There's enough hardship and inefficiency in trying to connect with other human beings on any level already; people don't need a Goddamn so-called moral code that makes it worse.
Ya know, I was considering responding to the original post earlier, but I read back over the entire thread and could not find one post that I considered to be belittling people who did not have sex, or a lot of sex, or what have you. The post seemed almost a nonsequitur in this thread.
And I thought your response was very obviously self-effacing.Personal anecdote: you may very well be correct. That's exactly what happened to me. I mean, there were a lot of other factors in play at the time, but I had been a terribly insecure adolescent with unbelievably low self esteem. One of the things that helped me get over that was when I finally had sex ("real sex") for the first time (and the second and third.)
But, seriously, rightly or wrongly (in some people's eyes), it made a difference, and was one of the many building blocks to me becoming the confident and social person I am today. It it's not to be underrated. 
Yet another coffee-spewing post in this thread.
My God, that's funny.
My actual number is 13. There were a couple of drunken one-night stands, as well as a couple of drunken one year stands...
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