The whole point of the PT was that the Jedi Order at that time was wrong. Love is something to be embraced, not shunned.
It would be interesting if that
were the point, but Lucas sure didn't get that notion across. I was definitely wondering "should I be assuming the Jedi are right and good, or questioning them?" but I never got past the point of confusion. Lucas didn't definitively deliver the message: "the Jedi are WRONG, m'kay?" At the end of ROTS, I still had the impression that the Jedi were the good guys and all that shit happened because Anakin was mentally disturbed and stupid.
I didn't even trust my own reactions to the movie, since the very fact that I was even wondering about it might be attributable to the fact that I like to question authority figures. I also make up reasons why Starfleet is arrogant, imperialistic and deluded and frequently upset the DS9 forum by waxing eloquent on the topic of Why the Federation is to Blame for the Dominion War.

Just because a circumstantial case can be made to support that doesn't at all mean that the writers intended that.
The main problem with the PT is that Lucas was not in control of the material, so that to this day, we're still arguing about what the frak he actually meant the story to be. Did he mean for Anakin to be portrayed as a mentally unstable idiot, or is the TCW version of Anakin what he meant all along?
If the intent is a heroic Anakin, then one way to make the story still work is to throw more of the blame on the Jedi and the Republic.* The case against the Jedi and the Republic was not at all made convincingly in the PT. But TCW is making a case against the Republic - it's corrupt and not worth the efforts of a heroic and self-sacrificing person like Anakin to save.
And I do think the Jedi rules are inhuman and bizarre. They are contrary to the basics of human nature. They're torturing their own people with this nonsense, so it's the Jedi's fault when one of them goes squirrely. If this is the intended message, then great! Let's see TCW actually make the case for it. They've got 2 1/2 years to do it, shouldn't be all that hard.
*And is that even the plan? With the Mortis Arc, I'm getting the impression that the "solution" is to depict the Dark Side as essentially mind control. In that case, the blame doesn't have to be placed on Anakin, the Republic or the Jedi, but it does upset the notion that followers of the Dark Side are in any way evil. Instead, they become something closer to victims.
I think Lucas was approaching it more from a Hindu/Buddhist kind of angle: that attachment and need are the source of suffering, of selfishness, of cruelty, and so to stay on the path to enlightenment we must let go of attachments. Which does not mean that you can't care for others; rather, it means just the opposite, that you deny yourself, free yourself of cravings and wants and possessiveness and live an entirely selfless, ego-free existence. You can love, in the sense of valuing others' well-being above your own, just not in the sense of covetous desire and the pursuit of self-gratification. You value others, care for them, but don't try to attach them to yourself, to create bonds of possessiveness.
I've also had that thought, and I think that's a great way to take the story - I love the idea that
Star Wars isn't coming from the same Western perspective as every other Hollywood popcorn movie - but once again, Lucas is not getting that message across effectively. In the PT, Anakin's emotional attachment to Padme does seem dysfunctional and possessive; in TCW, his attachments seem no more possessive than is true for anyone else in the cosmos.
His behavior and personality is entirely different and the range of attachments he has in TCW argues against them being dysfunctional. You can be obsessive and selfish about one person. But why was Anakin upset at the vision of him destroying Alderaan? Why does he care about lives lost in the Clone Wars? He can't be "possessive" about people he's never even met. He can't derive selfish emotional support from strangers, at least not in any way I can envision.
Of course, maybe the message is that the kind of utterly ego-free "attachments" that the Jedi require are a true rarity. For 99.9999% of people, all emotional attachments are possessive and "wrong" to some degree. So it's not that Anakin's at fault for having the same kinds of emotions as everyone else. The Jedi are at fault for banking on their people having some kind of Nirvana-level of consciousness, even when they're young and they have to concentrate on winning a war. If you want your people to become bodhisattvas, you need to sequester them in a monastery where they can contemplate their navels, not throw them on the front lines of a war!
I'm
really hoping that TCW has a good story in mind, that it can deliver conclusively, and just clear up this whole mess. So far, they've done a good job at making conclusive, clear statements about important elements of the story: Anakin is heroic; Anakin is not mentally unbalanced or stupid, and his emotional attachments are as true and valid as anyone's; the Republic is corrupt; balancing the Force, means
balance, not one side winning; and Light and Dark Sides of the force are not good and evil, but rather both necessary components of a balanced cosmos.
The thing about Anakin and Padme is (really this isn't the thread to discuss this I know but I can't help myself) they're entire relationship is kind of just forced together.
In the PT, it comes across as forced. The lack of real chemistry between the characters underscores the notion that it is dysfunctional (and inexplicable from Padme's perspective - what the frak does she see in that wretched little boy?) TCW makes it seem more right and natural, because the characters seem to have a valid emotional relationship and seem right together.
So what is the message here? That Jedi need to be bodhisattvas, while still living in society and fighting a war? Meaning, the impossible is expected of them and the Jedi really are to blame for this crap.
Then why is there never any moment in which any of the Jedi smack their heads and admit that the Empire and Darth Vader are their own fault? Why does Anakin need to redeem himself in ROTJ by sacrificing himself to save his son, when it was the Jedi's fault all along?
I never bought their relationship at all. In fact I wonder if Anakin didn't use just a little bit of Force compulsion to manipulate her feelings towards his benefit? Padme's a smart woman supposedly...after he admitted that he slaughtered the Sand People out of vengeance I can't fathom why she would fall in love with him after that.
I've just excised the notion that she knows about the Sand People thing from my memory.

There's no rational reason why she wouldn't report that to the Jedi Council, even if she loves Anakin -
especially if she loves him. That's a clear indication that something is seriously wrong with the boy. Maybe the Jedi Council can help him. Maybe he should be booted out of the Order for his own good. Don't just ignore something like that, jeezus! Crappy writing like that simply increases the confusion about what was meant in the PT. I've given up trying to figure it out and will allow TCW to stand as canon instead.