Not just obsessive. Normal, reasonable attachment is also a problem.it's just when friendship turns to obsessive attachment that it becomes a problem, IMO...'
Remember when Anakin was worried about Ahsoka's life in that episode where the citidel collapsed on her and Beriss, and Luminara gave Anakin a lecture about how he shouldn't let a little thing like the death of a fellow solider and student, who he clearly cares for greatly, affect him?
Imagine soldiers nowadays expected to be so cavalier about the safety of their buddies in combat. They'd laugh at such an absurd notion. Soldiers will often risk their own lives to save a buddy even when it's the "stupid" thing to do. And they'll end up getting more of their people killed and reducing the unit's effectiveness vs if they were more cold-blooded about it and just let their buddies die, but nobody suggests that soldiers should become so cold-blooded. The military probably figures it wouldn't be worth the effort, and the results could be soldiers who are cold-blooded about everything - not a place you want to go.
What the Jedi expect is just not within the bounds of normal human behavior. It might be useful or even necessary, but the Jedi act like it's normal and it's anything but.
In TCW, Anakin isn't the one with a problem. The Jedi are the ones with a problem.
