My Body Language Is Horrible...

[Jetfire]

Ok, I was buying groceries for the family and I am in line at the register and the lines were long to begin with...the lady in front of me had all her stuff up on the thing and the cashier was ringing her up...she realizes she doesn't have her credit/debit card and has to take everything off...now I was very tired and yawning but really wasn't bothered by this...however she kept looking at me and saying I am so sorry this is embarrassing and I must have gave looks like I was annoyed...but I wasn't because I simply didn't care...I was just tired and wanted to get home...but she made it a point to also personal say to me how sorry she was. Was this me or just her feeling embarrassed cause she clearly was...but this has happened before and people didn't give a shit I was inconvenienced at all.

Do you find yourself in a situation your body isn't matching what your are thinking and feeling?

I also have to point out people tend to think I look mean & or in the mafia.

 

[scout]

Sounds like she was just embarrassed..

People often comment that I look worried...people saying that worries me more than anything I'm thinking about at the time

 

[captcalhoun]

i get a lot of people telling me i look pissed off when i'm looking blank.

 

[Colonel Green]

I have a similar problem. Anytime I so much as glance at a woman they seem to take it as an indication that I want to engage in sexual intercourse with them, and they act accordingly.

It has really started to become awkward, as 20% of the time I'm in no way interested.

 

[trekkiebaggio]

i get a lot of people telling me i look pissed off when i'm looking blank.

I get that too, or people say I look miserable when I just don't have any expression.

 

[Admiral Shran]

I have a similar problem. Anytime I so much as glance at a woman they seem to take it as an indication that I want to engage in sexual intercourse with them, and they act accordingly.

It has really started to become awkward, as 20% of the time I'm in no way interested.

I wish I had that problem. Women always misinterpret my body language of "Hey, let's screw" as "I want you stay as far away from me as humanly possible."

 

[MetalPants]

A lot of times people think I look angry and mean when my mind is just blank.

 

[RoJoHen]

i get a lot of people telling me i look pissed off when i'm looking blank.

Same here.

 

[Yeoman Randi]

I have a similar problem. Anytime I so much as glance at a woman they seem to take it as an indication that I want to engage in sexual intercourse with them, and they act accordingly.

It has really started to become awkward, as 20% of the time I'm in no way interested.

Thank you for my morning cawfee spew!!!!!

Jetfire, i think she was just terribly embarrassed. I would have been too!

 

[Nardpuncher]

I have a similar problem. Anytime I so much as glance at a woman they seem to take it as an indication that I want to engage in sexual intercourse with them, and they act accordingly.

It has really started to become awkward, as 20% of the time I'm in no way interested.

I wish I had that problem. Women always misinterpret my body language of "Hey, let's screw" as "I want you stay as far away from me as humanly possible."

What kind of body language are you using where you want to say Let's Screw and they see it as I want you to stay as far away from me as humanly possible?!?!!?
Or do you mean the women's body language says stay away?

 

[auntiehill]

^If I may interject with a woman's perspective....

I have many guy friends, and I have seen them try their "come hither stare" on females, only to be baffled as to why it does not work.

What a lot of guys don't realize is that there's a fine line between the passionate stare of a potential lover and the psychotic glare of a guy who plans to drag you off into the woods.

Most guys' "Hey, baby" body language is a little too similar to that of a cheetah spotting a wounded gazelle.


Loosen your shoulders. Smile. Lean in while making eye contact but don't STARE.

 

[Holdfast]

Body language is one of the easiest things to learn, manipulate and play with.

It's pretty fun to do, besides. I suggest reading up on it and trying out a few new techniques.

 

[Admiral Shran]

^If I may interject with a woman's perspective....

I have many guy friends, and I have seen them try their "come hither stare" on females, only to be baffled as to why it does not work.

What a lot of guys don't realize is that there's a fine line between the passionate stare of a potential lover and the psychotic glare of a guy who plans to drag you off into the woods.

Most guys' "Hey, baby" body language is a little too similar to that of a cheetah spotting a wounded gazelle.


Loosen your shoulders. Smile. Lean in while making eye contact but don't STARE.

That's exactly what I'm doing. Yet they still act like they want nothing to do with me.

 

[Nardpuncher]

^^ I think women are very good at picking up even the most incredibly subtle of facial gestures.
Also, this may sound a little base, but you must not let your eyes wander for even a fraction of a second, as I think women can of course see that. It doesn't help that most men can't make a quick mental snap-shot and seem to have to keep looking many times when they should be maintaining eye contact.

 

[kimc]

^ Yes, eye contact is a good thing. Also, asking them questions about themselves instead of talking constantly about yourself - without it seeming like an interview is also a good technique to learn.

 

[scout]

^ Yes, eye contact is a good thing. Also, asking them questions about themselves instead of talking constantly about yourself - without it seeming like an interview is also a good technique to learn.

Also...(although I am sure you are not this inept).

I have known guys to try and pick up like this and persist in the idea that they got game...

"Are you cold? Why are you shivering?"

"Um, a little"

"Its not that cold. I was in Glasgow a week ago, and that was cold. So you should stop shivering."

"Um" *high pitched nervous laughter*

"What are you studying? I'm studying physics. Although they say that physics is just applied mathematics. What do you think?"

"Oh, I'm not..."

"Well they're wrong..after all mathematics is just applied I.T. these days. Which is strange, because I.T. is just applied biology. So, you live around here? We could go out sometime."

"Um..." *leaps from bus*

Hint: Don't be this guy.

 

[Jono]

^ Geez, she seemed a bit uppity.

 

[An Officer]

People seem to have an unerring ability to subconsciously read your deepest emotional state, and respond to that. During happy states in my life, people seem unusually drawn to me, I get smiles, and above and beyond assistance, and doing most things involving strangers becomes an overall pleasant experience.

However, when I feel a little run-down, the universal response is quite different - I could get argumentativeness, surly expressions, crap service in general. I guess reality is pretty fair, in that in generally responds to your deepest self.

 

[sidious618]

I have body language problems, too. Just because I'm giving the finger people automatically think I'm an angry person.

 

[RandyS]

i get a lot of people telling me i look pissed off when i'm looking blank.

I get that too, or people say I look miserable when I just don't have any expression.

Me too. What the hell is that anyway?? I think some people are just paranoid.