The stories have been very powerful, Mr Laser Beam and Adm_Hawthorne you really gave me something to think about.
Mother's Day coming up: Share about your Mom!
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The stories have been very powerful, Mr Laser Beam and Adm_Hawthorne you really gave me something to think about.
Sigh. This'll be my first mother's day since mom died last year. It's pretty depressing, although a little bittersweet.
I certainly never made it easy on her and it sucks because I always figured I'd have time to make it up to her. Dying young's a horrible thing.
Even still, we were very close and I still miss her a lot. She was probably the strongest, funniest woman I'll ever know, so while I'll miss her more than usual this weekend, it's as good an excuse as any to remember what an awesome woman she was.
I certainly never made it easy on her and it sucks because I always figured I'd have time to make it up to her. Dying young's a horrible thing.
Even still, we were very close and I still miss her a lot. She was probably the strongest, funniest woman I'll ever know, so while I'll miss her more than usual this weekend, it's as good an excuse as any to remember what an awesome woman she was.
Heather Locklier played my mother in a made for TV movie! 
On a more serious note, though, my mother has lived through more than most people could imagine. She came through it damaged and broken, and did some damaging and breaking of her own while I was growing up. She was wasn't always there for me when I was a kid, she may not have been the greatest role-model, and her harsh reality caused me to grow up in many ways a lot quicker than would have been ideal. However, she was and is the most loving, self-sacrificing, moral, intelligent, and truly strong individuals I have ever met. She survived when most people would have given up, and has nurtured that ability in me. She is my friend and confidant.
On a more serious note, though, my mother has lived through more than most people could imagine. She came through it damaged and broken, and did some damaging and breaking of her own while I was growing up. She was wasn't always there for me when I was a kid, she may not have been the greatest role-model, and her harsh reality caused me to grow up in many ways a lot quicker than would have been ideal. However, she was and is the most loving, self-sacrificing, moral, intelligent, and truly strong individuals I have ever met. She survived when most people would have given up, and has nurtured that ability in me. She is my friend and confidant.
I'll send good thoughts your way on Mother's Day. Thanks for posting.
I love good stories of people overcoming adversity. Sounds like you and your mom did more than your share of that. Her story sounds a lot like my dad's.
I'd give a lot to have even one more hour with my mother, though I'm grateful that we did become friends the last several years of her life.
For the first 45 minutes of that hour I'd simply hug her. She always did her best and raised four great kids despite being horribly emotionally damaged herself. Yeah, she made mistakes, some bad ones, but it was only when I was well into adulthood that I realized how damaged she was and how she constantly fought depression and alcoholism and probably an eating disorder.
As a child she was beaten by both of her parents and as an adult she was beaten by her husband. Three years after her death we found out that she'd had a child before she married my father and, despite combing her diaries, we couldn't find the slightest inkling or clue to that effect. Not surprising; in those days the girl was whisked away and the entire thing was made to have 'not happened'. She may have been told that her daughter was stillborn. I hear that was common back then.
Saddest of all was one entry in her diary when we kids were all small. She and my dad had had an argument and he accused her of being a bad mother. She wrote "I guess it's true. I've never been any good for anyone else, what makes me think I can be good for my children?" Even now it makes me weep.
The last 15 minutes I'd ask about all the things she never told us...mostly just to satisfy my curiosity. But if I forgot and kept hugging her for that remaining time, that would be okay, too.
Jan
PS: Not to make my dad out a monster. If anything he was even more emotionally damaged than my mother but he also did his best.
For the first 45 minutes of that hour I'd simply hug her. She always did her best and raised four great kids despite being horribly emotionally damaged herself. Yeah, she made mistakes, some bad ones, but it was only when I was well into adulthood that I realized how damaged she was and how she constantly fought depression and alcoholism and probably an eating disorder.
As a child she was beaten by both of her parents and as an adult she was beaten by her husband. Three years after her death we found out that she'd had a child before she married my father and, despite combing her diaries, we couldn't find the slightest inkling or clue to that effect. Not surprising; in those days the girl was whisked away and the entire thing was made to have 'not happened'. She may have been told that her daughter was stillborn. I hear that was common back then.
Saddest of all was one entry in her diary when we kids were all small. She and my dad had had an argument and he accused her of being a bad mother. She wrote "I guess it's true. I've never been any good for anyone else, what makes me think I can be good for my children?" Even now it makes me weep.
The last 15 minutes I'd ask about all the things she never told us...mostly just to satisfy my curiosity. But if I forgot and kept hugging her for that remaining time, that would be okay, too.
Jan
PS: Not to make my dad out a monster. If anything he was even more emotionally damaged than my mother but he also did his best.
It would probably explain a lot (the way I turned out) given that I did not grow up with a female authority figure. My dad pretty much raised me himself. Not that I'm complaining, of course. As I've said many times, I love my dad dearly, we get along great, and he is just this side of godhood in my eyes. But I do wonder how I would be different if my mother had raised me.
doubleohfive
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My mother and I tend to butt heads frequently, but I also know that everything she's done has been for my and my siblings' benefit. She's worked long and hard at her career to help keep us well-fed, a roof over our heads, and to put us through school. I sometimes take that for granted and have to remind myself how self-sacrificial she has been for most of my life, and while I do have issues with myself and how I turned out that can be traced directly to my parents, none are so horrible to cause me to be ungrateful in any way. I'm one of the lucky ones.
doubleohfive
Fleet Admiral
Really? Really? A thread all about our moms and you went there?
My mother's a saint but out of her damned mind, can't blame her though, she was an unloved child along with her siblings. On the upside she broke the cycle of abuse with my sister and I.
To me she's the American dream brought to life, grandparents who lived in abject poverty, blue collar parents, she worked hard, studied hard, and is now in comfortable position in the corporate world. She was strict, she was tough, she can be downright mean when you push the right buttons, but she's also funny, loving, and an all around classy lady.
To me she's the American dream brought to life, grandparents who lived in abject poverty, blue collar parents, she worked hard, studied hard, and is now in comfortable position in the corporate world. She was strict, she was tough, she can be downright mean when you push the right buttons, but she's also funny, loving, and an all around classy lady.
I'm so sorry.It took great courage for her to break the cycle. I really admire your mom.
I found this mashup on my playlist:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tR8-v7SqmBU
I love my mother. I don't know what I'd do without her, really. She's always been there for us, someone we can talk to, and one of the few people I can be frank and candid with. She introduced me to music, sci-fi, and a lot of the interests that made me the person I am today. And she always, always, had our back when things were down or troubling for us. When she was unwell last year, everyone pulled together and did their part to keep everything going.
Angela 0077
Captain
My daughter had this pink evelope on her dressing table and l was just about to pick it up smiles.
i was told to leave it alone and she said it was a suprise for me this MOthers day on Sunday.
I was good and walked out very quickly
i will be able to look at it tomorrow.
i was told to leave it alone and she said it was a suprise for me this MOthers day on Sunday.
I was good and walked out very quickly
i will be able to look at it tomorrow.
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