I want to try to be absolutely clear about the matter of freedom of expression. When I stated "by all means disagree with them and debate with them..." I meant: by all means disagree with them and debate with them.
Well, good. As I'm willing to acknowledge the value of diplomacy and compassion, and you're willing to acknowledge the value of discussion and debate, it would appear we're not so much at odds as past posts might have made it seem.
Religion is a discipline for living your life. I know a person who is a Catholic but he doesn't believe in the afterlife. I simply don't know any religious people who believe that Adam and Eve actually existed. God is just a word and God can mean different things to different people...
Religion
can be a discipline for living your life, but isn't necessarily so. It depends on how much thought one puts into it... and of course, if one takes it
too seriously, it can lead one's life very much astray.
I don't dispute that most people who claim to be "religious" in developed, Western countries these days are pretty casual about it. Certainly the lapsed Catholics I know outnumber the observant ones, too... and I can thankfully say I don't personally know any reactionary "Christian Nation" types. In my personal sphere, as an educated urbanite, I don't actually encounter much religion, and what I do seems relatively innocuous.
Nevertheless, that doesn't change the fact that the zealots are out there... and they wield influence disproportionate to their numbers, and they raise the vast majority of the noise about how modern secular society doesn't "respect" their views. And there's plenty of skewed thinking even among the "casual" types; e.g., it's distressing to me that 60% of Americans polled don't believe in biological evolution.
This is the sort of thing that any intelligent, responsible citizen can and should oppose. It's not just a matter of arguing for the sake of arguing.
I have a friend who believes in The Eternal Recurrence and naturally he is an atheist. He told me this stops him from being complacent about his life. Is it scientific? Is it the truth? If not then would you recommend that I tell him that he would just be as well believe in the spaghetti monster?...
Hell if I know. Is he speaking of it in the Schopenhauer sense, or the oscillating universe sense, or something else? If he's an atheist I assume he's a reasonably skeptical thinker... does he have actual evidence to support his belief, or is it just something he thinks "would be nice if it were true" (which seems to be how many people approach their religion)? I don't know about your friend, but in the circles I move in, someone expressing such a belief is likely to be not only willing but anxious to discuss and debate about it, so there's no fear of giving offense.
IMHO, a belief one is afraid to have challenged is a belief one isn't very sure about.
My original point about the lady is that people value religion, they are human beings, we should respect that.
Perhaps our bone of contention here lies in different understandings of what "respect" means. When it's used by believers, it often seems tantamount to "deference." I'm not sure to what extent you mean it that way.
Personally, of course I respect that all kinds of people with different beliefs are human beings. And I respect their right to hold those beliefs, insofar as they have freedom of thought with which it's not my business to interfere. And I'll even respect the beliefs
themselves... to precisely the extent that its adherents are willing and able to
defend that belief rationally, and not one jot further.
I'm sorry if you think I've been uncouth in this thread. I disagree. People have accused (e.g.) Dawkins and Harris of much the same in the wake of their recent books, and I disagree there too. I wasn't the one who first brought up the Spaghetti Monster in this thread, but FWIW I find it to be an effective and amusing analogy. I'm not perfect, but I do try to maintain high standards of debate, in terms of both logic and civility... although at the same time, since we're all here voluntarily, I assume that everyone involved is willing to put forth their strongest arguments, and has a thick skin about being disagreed with.