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Men, what do you look for in a lady?

I'm looking for a woman with a wide variety of interests in the Arts & Sciences, preferably somebody with an artistic talent of some kind who likes to create things; she should be optimistic and Romantic, in both senses of the word; she should be mostly a homebody, but somebody who enjoys nature-- she should want to live in a rural area and have no problem with falling asleep out in the backyard on a Summer night. She should be highly principled and have a sense of humor.

No smoking, no religion; easy on the politics and makeup and dressing up.

Basically, a female me. :hugegrin:

As for the physical, I generally prefer petite women; I don't really go for anyone who looks like she belongs on a motorcycle calendar (bonus points for pointy nipples, though). I go for the bookish, librarian type. Nerd girls are fine. All ethnic groups appeal to me. The woman I was most involved with was a pixie-ish Black woman who worked as a teacher and social worker, and was into Star Trek and English murder mysteries.

Remember, girls: First come, first served. ;)
 
Funny, when I was younger (and straight), I used to say, "I'd love to find a Christian woman who's virtuous and has high moral standards." :lol: After a while, I ditched the high standards and "goody two shoes" quality and ended up going out with a few "easy" girls. :lol: I figured I was looking for a girlfriend, not a wife. Tragically, the ones I was really attracted to were not into me at all, so forget them.
So is that why you're not straight anymore? ;)

Well, that and the fact that I was probably born bisexual and didn't realize it until later. :D
 
Cute/Pretty/Beautiful
Intelligent
Likes Sci-Fi
Doesn't smoke or do drugs
Isn't into religion
Has a great sense of humour

I'm fortunate to know such a person.

I'm unfortunate that it isn't my wife (though my wife does fill all the above criteria :D).
 
I'm looking for a woman with a wide variety of interests in the Arts & Sciences, preferably somebody with an artistic talent of some kind who likes to create things; she should be optimistic and Romantic, in both senses of the word; she should be mostly a homebody, but somebody who enjoys nature-- she should want to live in a rural area and have no problem with falling asleep out in the backyard on a Summer night. She should be highly principled and have a sense of humor.

No smoking, no religion; easy on the politics and makeup and dressing up.
Pierre Curie beat you to her :p
 
Well, I don't seem to have the best track record when it comes to my choices. And it's definitely clarified a few things for me.

She would need to be someone who can respect the differences between us. Give me a little space now and then. She would be a little more outgoing than I am. She would be my friend, first and foremost. She would be someone who wasn't afraid to show affection, or to express how she feels.

She wouldn't need to have paper that shows her education, but she would need to have an intellectual side, and not be bored if I started talking about earth sciences.

I'm sure I could write a really long list of character traits, but these will suffice.

As far as physical attraction...I'm 5'9", and prefer women a few inches shorter. Dark hair. Preferably not too skinny (ironic, considering I am quite thin). I have also found that I am attacted to darker complected women. I'm like friggin' Caspar the Friendly Ghost. The two relationships I've had since my marriage to an even more pale Irish Catholic have been with East Indian women (one of whom is my current girlfriend), and I casually dated a few more West Indians. The trend was such that my friends pointed it out to me. Hard to ignore.
 
I think I could meet someone who had none of the things I thought I was looking for and still fall head over heels for her. That happens probably more often than any of us realize. I can give long lists of what I look for in a woman, but if the sparks fly, we can't help it - - no matter who it is. I could end up loving a woman who I never thought I would or could. The heart wants what it wants.
 
I'm looking for a woman with a wide variety of interests in the Arts & Sciences, preferably somebody with an artistic talent of some kind who likes to create things; she should be optimistic and Romantic, in both senses of the word; she should be mostly a homebody, but somebody who enjoys nature-- she should want to live in a rural area and have no problem with falling asleep out in the backyard on a Summer night. She should be highly principled and have a sense of humor.

No smoking, no religion; easy on the politics and makeup and dressing up.
Pierre Curie beat you to her :p
"Born... too late...."
 
My physical tastes lean towards the petite, but just about everything else just depends on the combination.

More importantly:

She's gotta know how to have fun, loosen up, have a drink or two, enjoy a party atmosphere and not just take up couch space all night waiting for it to end.

She has to be affectionate, both emotionally and physically.

She has to find me amusing(or else she will most certainly find me annoying).

Has to have a sex drive and not be too conservative about it. I'm not 'freaky' but I'm not 'vanilla'.

Needs drive and ambition, preferably of the creative variety but any will do in a pinch.

She needs to not be 'dominant'. I'm not saying she needs to be a 50's housewife but even with my calm, compromising, even-tempered nature, in the end I need to know she respects me as much as I respect her and respect that I like/need to take charge most of the time.

Preferably an omnivore; I like to cook and I like to cook meat.

Be at least willing to indulge my quirks: Conventions, movies and TV, video games, theater (both seeing and performing), etc.

Strong sense of 'family'. When I settle down, I mean for it to last. Not as much required for the short-term dating I knowingly involve myself in from time to time.

Not need me to be pretty all the time. I'm happy to doll up and put on some flash outfits from time to time but 90% of the time (other than at work) I'm in a t-shirt and jeans with a few days of stubble on my face and a chest that most ice-age mammals would envy. I also have a 'weight problem' in the sense that I go back and forth from squishy to chunky to fit back to squishy every year or two.

Kind. The kindness that gets down in your pores and makes you feel better about every fleeting moment that you share with her. This is the hardest one to find, and would probably overwhelm a few of the others if I ever found it again.
 
Exercises, tries to stay in shape. Has a decent weight (doesn't need to be super model thin, but ... I don't want a "People of Wal-Mart" looking girl).

Can't be an alcoholic (would prefer a non drinker, but would settle), cannot smoke, and absolutely no drugs.

Has to have a sense of humor. Accepts that I am a nerd, and also a nerd who listen to scores (if she knows who Jerry Goldsmith is [outside of Trek], extra points).

Should be of sound mind, no people with weird habbits or strange things that make you stop and want to say aloud, "What the fuck is wrong with you?".

Income and job isn't important to me, but at the same time the uderstanding will be that neither of us will be supporting the other financially.

No passive people who just sit there, and also no one that expects me to make all the decisions.

And yeah -- she's got to be attractive. I wasn't born stone blind, and I'd like to enjoy the beauty that life has offered me.

She's got to be intelligent. She can't write like a fifth grader. I'm not expecting a picture-perfect example of spelling and grammar, but an effort should be made. If I can, so can others. Some of the writing I see on personal sites and Craigslist, is frightening for people who are supposed to be "adults". I know people older than me who write with upper and lower case letters in words, and even one person who wrote their name in all lower case and connected the first and last name with a period -- on a job application (what the hell is that???).


No rasicsts (goes without saying she can't be a member of the KKK). No bat-shit crazy religions lke scientology, snake worshipers, or that groups of British people who dress like Ned Flanders and gather.

No video game players, "clubbin'" chicks, bar hoppers, or ... well, I think this is a good enough start.
 
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Carbon based. I'm easy.

Branch out. Nothin says lovin like a Horta hickey.:)

Sometimes I remember why I read this board. :lol: :techman:

OK, well, since I had this exact discussion with a friend the other day (the "what do you look for in a girl" conversation, not the "Horta loving" conversation), I'll treat you all to the same answer I gave her:

- good insight/self-knowledge
- chatty/personable nature
- not afraid to call me on it when I unconsciously start up my usual bullshit games
- able to intellectually stand up to me
- physically, I do have a certain type I tend go for but this is more historic precedent rather than a requirement per se. As long as they're easy on the eye! But that historical pattern tends to be: about my height (or a little bit shorter so they can wear heels without towering over me), decent figure, brunette, well-kempt.
 
^ And also a shrink to maximize the analytic foreplay? ;)

There was a fairly cute young psychiatrist on our team this morning. She stood apart from the rest of the group on rounds--expressionless and silent, her cold analytical eyes briefly locking with mine. I made it my mission to crack that dour stonelike facade, the playful banter prompting a wellspring of laughter that caused her dark tresses to tumble seductively, beckoning for more...

Actually, I was just bored so I decided to hit on her. Too bad she left early. :(
 
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Exercises, tries to stay in shape. Has a decent weight (doesn't need to be super model thin, but ... I don't want a "People of Wal-Mart" looking girl).

Can't be an alcoholic (would prefer a non drinker, but would settle), cannot smoke, and absolutely no drugs.

Has to have a sense of humor. Accepts that I am a nerd, and also a nerd who listen to scores (if she knows who Jerry Goldsmith is [outside of Trek], extra points).

Should be of sound mind, no people with weird habbits or strange things that make you stop and want to say aloud, "What the fuck is wrong with you?".

Income and job isn't important to me, but at the same time the uderstanding will be that neither of us will be supporting the other financially.

No passive people who just sit there, and also no one that expects me to make all the decisions.

And yeah -- she's got to be attractive. I wasn't born stone blind, and I'd like to enjoy the beauty that life has offered me.

She's got to be intelligent. She can't write like a fifth grader. I'm not expecting a picture-perfect example of spelling and grammar, but an effort should be made. If I can, so can others. Some of the writing I see on personal sites and Craigslist, is frightening for people who are supposed to be "adults". I know people older than me who write with upper and lower case letters in words, and even one person who wrote their name in all lower case and connected the first and last name with a period -- on a job application (what the hell is that???).


No rasicsts (goes without saying she can't be a member of the KKK). No bat-shit crazy religions lke scientology, snake worshipers, or that groups of British people who dress like Ned Flanders and gather.

No video game players, "clubbin'" chicks, bar hoppers, or ... well, I think this is a good enough start.

No wonder a lot of sci-fi/Trek fans are virgins. :lol:
 
^ And also a shrink to maximize the analytic foreplay? ;)

Not necessary, but can be fun. ;)

There was a fairly cute young psychiatrist on our team this morning. She stood apart from the rest of the group on rounds--expressionless and silent, her cold analytical eyes briefly locking with mine. I made it my mission to crack that dour stonelike facade, the playful banter prompting a wellspring of laughter that caused her dark tresses to tumble seductively, beckoning for more...

Actually, I was just bored so I decided to hit on her. Too bad she left early. :(

I believe there's a psychodynamic message she's sending out here... :D
 
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