Question For Women RE: Facial Hair

[The Boy Who Cried Worf]

No I don't mean your own I mean the one attached to the face of your man. I always wear the stereotypical mustache and goatee, for years, unless I am working a job where it is not allowed. Sometime it gets a little unruly and I'm the kind of guy who likes to start over from scratch so I shaved it all off, fully intending to grow it back mind you. And my girlfriend had a fit. She went on for two weeks about how it was like being with a stranger, and how it would be just like if she shaved her head. Now keep in mind when she meant me I did have a mustache but not a beard. Needless to say I felt a little put off.

So how important is this? Would you take her side that it's a big change to just spring on her, or my side that she is overreacting? How important is it for your guy to not drastically change his look without a consult first? And most importantly would it effect how, ahem, close you want to be with him?

 

[RoJoHen]

My facial hair changes every couple months, and the women are just gonna have to deal with that.

 

[Ruaidhri]

My facial hair changes every couple months, and the women are just gonna have to deal with that.

Amen! My beard grows quickly, and as a result I change my facial hair style on average about once a week.

 

[Miss Chicken]

I prefer clean-shaven men but it is totally up to them whether they grow a beard/mustache or or not.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

I've recently gone clean shaven, and to be honest I now prefer going without any form of beard (especially during the summer when it can be intolerable at times). Indeed, I look much cuter without the beard, so I've been told.

 

[RoJoHen]

I've recently gone clean shaven, and to be honest I now prefer going without any form of beard (especially during the summer when it can be intolerable at times). Indeed, I look much cuter without the beard, so I've been told.

I've been pretty much rocking the 5 o'clock shadow for the last few months. I don't actually shave. I just use the absolute shortest length on my beard trimmer.

 

[Emher]

I've recently gone clean shaven, and to be honest I now prefer going without any form of beard (especially during the summer when it can be intolerable at times). Indeed, I look much cuter without the beard, so I've been told.

That's sorta my situation without the beard, I look cute. Thus I keep the bears since I don't to look cute, I want to look sexy!

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I hope it's not a problem, since I like having a goatee...and I *don't* like how I look when clean shaven.

Although if a girl I really really liked, had a problem with my facial hair, I'd be open to negotiations...

But in my own defense I must point out that I do keep my goatee well trimmed. Check out the album if you don't believe me.

 

[Rii]

She went on for two weeks about how it was like being with a stranger, and how it would be just like if she shaved her head.

I remember this conversation. I replied that she should feel free to shave her head if she wanted to. Didn't go down so well.

 

[The Sneeze Police]

Although I like beards on men, my husband only has a mustache...

I prefer to let him make his own decisions about his facial hair.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I have a question of my own, for the ladies...how do you feel about *bald* guys? I have been smooth of head for many years now. I much prefer it that way. I don't ever plan on growing hair ever again (I shave my head every morning in the shower). I would hope that this isn't considered unattractive...

 

[Kestra]

I'm into bald guys.

So how important is this? Would you take her side that it's a big change to just spring on her, or my side that she is overreacting? How important is it for your guy to not drastically change his look without a consult first? And most importantly would it effect how, ahem, close you want to be with him?

It's pretty significant, but it's obviously something that is completely your decision in the end. I'd enjoy being consulted but I don't find such a thing necessary. If I decided to go get all my hair cut off, that's my decision and my husband doesn't really have much say in it, in the end.

So yeah, consult would be nice (and even polite). Maybe even just a heads up about what you're going to do, even if it's not open for discussion. But she'll get over it as it's not really that big a deal, in the end.

 

[Spot's Meow]

Hmmm. My boyfriend always asks me before he makes any facial hair changes. I don't usually care what he does but he seems to want my advice anyway.

If he decided to do something hideous to his face without telling me about it I'd be annoyed that he made such a bad decision when I could have possibly told him how ugly it would look before it happened.

But my guy changes his facial hair often, so it's not a big deal. If it were another big change to his appearance I would want to at least be informed. You don't have to ask your girlfriend for permission or anything, unless you want her advice, but at least tell her that you're going to make a change so it doesn't come as a shock. However, you would get over the shock within two weeks for sure I would think. So it sounds to me like she just really doesn't like your new look. Maybe she thinks it is hideous or it reminds her of someone else she knows and doesn't like. Either way it's obvious she doesn't think the change looks great.

All of this also depends on other factors, like what kind of relationship you have and how big of a change no facial hair would look on you personally. Her physical attraction to you may be a large part of your relationship to her, and changing your appearance drastically kind of screws with that.

She'll get used to it eventually. Though you said you were growing back the old hair anyway, so in time it shouldn't be an issue anymore.

 

[sidious618]

I grow my hair out until it starts looking too much like a beard and then shave. The process is a circular one!

 

[JonathonWally]

I keep a clean shave. Don't really care what anyone else thinks about what I do with my facial hair.

I only shave every few days and it grows fast, so I rock stuble for a few days in-between.

 

[The Grim Ghost]

I know this won't be easy to hear. But if you give most women a choice, they will take a clean shaven man every time. It is time for beards/moustaches/goatees to finally die die DIE!

Can you tell I'm not a fan?

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[Emher]

Generalising much? How is a beard inferior to a shave that's half a day old? Half day old shave WILL be scratchy while a beard is soft.

 

[JonathonWally]

I know this won't be easy to hear. But if you give most women a choice, they will take a clean shaven man every time. It is time for beards/moustaches/goatees to finally die die DIE!

Can you tell I'm not a fan?

This message has been bought to you be the Anti-Beard/Goat/Stache Alliance of America.

ZZ Top disagrees.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

My wife likes it when I rock a 'stache. She's not a fan of the goatee or neckbeard.

But since I live 700 miles away from her, I can pretty much do what I want, and I'm fairly lazy. I let it grow out and then I shave it all off when I don't like how it looks anymore. So, a couple times a year, I totally shave everything off.

For a while, I was shaving every day, but all that did was break me out and make my face itchy all day, so screw it.

 

[Chaos Descending]

I know this won't be easy to hear. But if you give most women a choice, they will take a clean shaven man every time. It is time for beards/moustaches/goatees to finally die die DIE!

Can you tell I'm not a fan?

This message has been bought to you be the Anti-Beard/Goat/Stache Alliance of America.

My wife disagrees.

I base this on the fact that she threatened to kill me if I ever shaved my beard off again.