Not the best sign she likes me, huh?

[Misfit Toy]

If she does it again, write "Hi gorgeous!" on a sheet of paper and slip it under her nose.

 

[The Boy Who Cried Worf]

Well I tend to be something of an anti-social person, but when I am sitting at a table eating with my headphones on it means I want to eat and listen to music not socialize. I imagine even a lot of non-shy people want that as well. Did you ask her if she wanted company before you set down? You might have been the rude one.

As far as seeing this as the end to something that is a bit extreme. If she threw food at you that could be a sign she doesn't like you, but I don't see this as any kind of a blow off. Maybe it is a good sign. She has become so comfortable around you she feels it is just okay to hang out and not talk. Maybe she thinks she knows she is going to be talking to you a ton of times in the future so it's not that important to talk right now. Just keep doing what you are doing with her. Keep things good and you'll have a better chance of it going somewhere from there.

 

[Mr Awe]

Honestly, I don't think it was rude. She was already busy doing something that she wanted to be doing before you arrived. She has no obligation to stop what she was doing to make you happy. So, not rude.

However, for you, yeah, she's not interested in you. If she was interested, she would've started talking to you. After all, you make the time for those you're interested in.

So, not rude but not interested either.

Mr Awe

 

[Mr. B]

It kind of is rude but I wouldn't necessarily take it as a bad sign regarding your chances... more like a another sign of the death of etiquette hastened by new technology.

 

[nevermore]

She does not "like" like you.

 

[iguana_tonante]

^ She's only 19, so I guess

I kinda figured before she wasn't overly into me that way. I don't know... oh well what can you do? It's just annoying because as I say I've never met anyone like her before who ticks all my boxes of what I look for.
Except the manners catergory I suppose
And she's literally the cutest thing I've ever seen

Ease up on the analysis there, Doctor.
Enjoy the moment of sitting across from the cutest thing you've ever seen, listening to her tunes before work. Without mooning too much if you can help it.
Too much FB, not enough coffee dates and whatnot. FB is for people who don't live nearby, yo.
Do the dance, man. Drop her a note, send her some tunes. Do something. Take the adventure. Do something together.
True, most of us go down in flames, but it beats pining.

I most definitively agree. If you like her, don't let yourself get pinned in the friend category. Be bold. Ask her out. You will have all the time to be her friend after she burn your ass.

By the way, how old are you? I only ask to frame the assessment about her age. 19 years old sounds awfully young to me, but that's just because I'm an old geezer.

 

[Ethros]

^ It's just really odd that you can "talk" on Facebook but not face to face. Really odd. Maybe you're young enough that it doesn't seem odd to you, but it's really odd sounding to me. Then again, I'm ancient. But sooner or later, even the Facebook/texting generation has to talk face to face. I'm pretty sure about that.

I agree, it's odd to me too. But like some say maybe that's just the kids of today for you. I remember one time when we briefly passed on the stairs and she just about grunted "hi" as she walked passed, and I thought that was a bit of a harsh brush off (ha, sensing a theme here?) But then that night I messaged her on FB chat and she was all "hi! how are you?! etc" and we talked for ages... so god knows.


There is a bit of an age gap, I'm 24. I suppose that might seem a lot to some, I dunno, it depends on a lot of factors. I've dated girls fairly older than me before so a 5-6 year gap isn't that big a deal to me. Plus I know one her closest friends is 17 and dates a 24 year old, so it's not as if the concept would be that shocking.


Like a lot of you I do sense there may be no sparkage there, it's just saying "get over it" is easier said than done

 

[Mr Awe]

^^^ Like I said, not rude but not interested. She acknowledged you were there but she was already busy with something. There's no obligation for her to drop what she was doing. But, yeah, no sparks either.

 

[iguana_tonante]

There is a bit of an age gap, I'm 24. I suppose that might seem a lot to some, I dunno, it depends on a lot of factors.

I have no problems with age gaps (well, within reason...). When we started dating, I was 19 and my girlfriend was 25. Twelve years later, we are still an item. But the fact is, I was hardly your typical 19 years old. So YMMV.