Agreed. I think bars are easily one of the worst places to meet people.
What are the best dating sites online?
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I have to agree...I do not meet people in bars.
I've had great success with dating online -- ok not that successful since I'm still single LOL -- but I met one guy from a message board (years ago) and I've met quite a few men via the online sites and have never had a bad date. So I can only say positive things about the experience.
Out of 20 men I met I only really liked 2 and of course they were assholes.
That's why now I'm trying something new.
I'm going to go a-nerd-a-hunting.
I think "online dating" is an oxymoron for the average person. Now, if you're a bible-thumping strong conservative, places like eHarmony are for you.
Heck, I recall a board member _ I think this board -- who said their mom worked for one of those dating sites, and her job was secrerly creating fake ads to draw men in, so I don't put any stock into these things, especially after searching them a bit over the years, and finding poor results.
Heck, I recall a board member _ I think this board -- who said their mom worked for one of those dating sites, and her job was secrerly creating fake ads to draw men in, so I don't put any stock into these things, especially after searching them a bit over the years, and finding poor results.
I do not think that word means what you think it means.
Considering how many people use those sites and how many people suggest to other people that they should use them I have to think that you're dead wrong.
Are there ways to meet people that doesn't requiring using dating sites or bars/pubs? I'm not sure about Dating sites since you're opening yourself up as a security risk and I've had some experience where I go to a party and I'm forgotten the next day. Not sure how reliable those things are.
I'd like to see some numbers on that before I take another stance. I'd also like some numbers of success rate vs. just simply browsing.
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You can try speed dating.
What's the success rate for sitting on a bar stool and looking for a long term relationship?
Seems like online dating works just fine for plenty of people, not sure what study to show you. Doesn't always lead to marriage, but neither does any other form of meeting people that leads to a date.
Since it's losing a bit of the stigma it had when it started, I'd imagine that online dating (used as a method to meet someone, not talking about glorified pen pals) is getting better instead of worse. As the stigma is lifted, more and more "normal" people use these services, which keeps the system on the way up...
Seems like online dating works just fine for plenty of people, not sure what study to show you. Doesn't always lead to marriage, but neither does any other form of meeting people that leads to a date.
Since it's losing a bit of the stigma it had when it started, I'd imagine that online dating (used as a method to meet someone, not talking about glorified pen pals) is getting better instead of worse. As the stigma is lifted, more and more "normal" people use these services, which keeps the system on the way up...
For those who used it the first time, how did you get past the discomfort level, if you had one.
Unless you're only in town for a night or two.
I've not used one but I imagine the main discomfort level is the amount of money some of these places charge.
That's the thing, right? Online dating isn't really online dating, it's just online meeting people. If you meet anyone, you're still going to be dating them in real life. Well, if you want to, I guess
That's just it. You don't go looking for a long term relationship (that's bound to end in failure), you go looking for pleasant company. And once every 10 pleasant people, you encounter someone you build a deeper contact with. And once every 10 deeper contacts, you find someone you are really having a jolly good time with.
In my experience, people usually find a partner when they really need it, no matter where they look. Unless they walk around with the wrong expectations.
There are a few big plus points for real-life dating in contrast to online dating:
- Fake/doctored pictures, or part of a picture
- Non-honest descriptions, or the conveniently forgetting of information that's paramount in forming an image of someone
- No body language; easy to get misconceptions and/or an argument
- No real chemistry; even if it works out online, you still have to see if it works out in real life
There are more; but still, online dating isn't as good as people thought it would be. Usually, the people who use online dating sites regularly are either anti-social, unattractive, have other problems that prevent them from dating IRL, still have some trauma from real-life dating or all of the above. Of course, not nearly everybody is like that, but the cliché really has some truth in it.
However, that doesn't mean that you can't get a date online. Places about a certain topic (like a BBS about your hobbies) or even your myspace/facebook profile can be more productive then a dating site; people aren't expressly dating, and you get much less "fakers" that way. It helps that, instead of focusing on the dating aspect, people tend to contact each other about a common interest. That way, the groundwork has already been laid. I found my current partner on MySpace. She sent me a message, I sent her a message, we chatted a bit and within a date or two we had sex and a relationship. And it's still going strong after four years. So it's certainly possible.
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I STRONGLEY suggest removing that link from your post before a MOD sees it.
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