I think this movie wanted to at least dabble with the idea of the forces of fate v. the degree to which one controls one's own destiny. I think it did a mixed job of it at best. It never seemed to want to come down on one side or the other. Was Kirk fated to be the captain of the Enterprise, or did he control the events that led him there? Coincidences and chance meetings lead one to believe the writers may have thought fate was a more powerful force than personal control. Is that a good message or not?
This was my observation well, and I think it's very interesting that they chose to go this route, especially since it's more in fashion to imply that one is in control of his or her own destiny. However, like Franklin points out, you almost get the feeling from the movie that fate has pretty strong ideas about what must happen and she's going to get her way, darn it.
It's an unexpected implication to make. I like it and hope it's a theme that's further explored. Destiny vs. free will is nothing new, but it's somewhat unusual for destiny to be given the upper hand.
This is a theme that completely contradicts the thematic heart of Trek. Trek is always about fighting destiny and choosing free will, not that we are fated to be something.