I remember those interviews. And while I know there are people that choose to be single, I think that in this case, that choice undermined her character for me. It felt odd that all previous and succeeding Captains could find a partner or mutiple partners, but Janeway mostly could not, or would not. I think many felt that Janeway was a symbol for all women - being the first proper woman Captain of a Trek series - and to infer to those that did see her in that way that to be in that position means that you can't have a love life while all the male Captains can seems an odd statement to make. I wasn't one that saw the Captain in that light, and I found it odd. Even if you take the stance that everyone on Voyager is under her in the chain of command, the story of them being stuck in the Delta Quadrant - I just felt that nobody could begrudge the Captain finding love in such a scenario. At the very least I think they should have had the reasoning behind her choices dealt with in an episode of the series. I think the lack of such an episode presents her as a damaged figure in a lot of peoples minds, if only on a subconcious level. I'm not saying she was, but that interpretation is out there; I've seen it.
I don't think the male captains should, either - not with somebody under their command. You'll notice when Picard tried it, for example, he decided he couldn't make it work - I mean, you could really
see how conflicted he was, thanks to Patrick Stewart.
Anybody who thinks the fact that she put her crew ahead of herself makes her "damaged" (and I know you aren't necessarily one of these,
Neo) is simply underestimating her, and underestimating what a truly determined person is capable of when she is convinced she is doing the right thing. Since when is selfless devotion to a cause greater than yourself a sign of "damage"? Is every man who puts his love life on hold for a while because he's got little kids to raise alone "damaged"? Every woman who devotes herself to a dying husband or parent "damaged"? Every person who happens not to be married and believes that sex should only be part of marriage? Of course not. (Right?

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But I do think showing her making this decision - rather than just keeping us hanging around wondering...wondering...wondering - would have been
great. It would have been
mature. Picard had his "I can't command someone I'm in love with" moment; why not give a similar moment to Janeway? Or even several of those moments - they were trapped in the damn DQ together, so this would be something they'd have to cope with long-term.
I'll tell you why not: It would have required TPTB to realize that the audience wanted mature drama, too...and Voyager wasn't always very good at that. The plain fact is, the writers didn't want to resolve it in a mature way - any mature way, J/C together or J/C apart - because they preferred to keep us guessing. I hate it when shows do that on a long-term basis. (See the "Things I hate about Star Trek" thread in the general Trek forum for my little rant on this subject.

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