Like an equal. Like a person. Like a partner. Imagine that.
If the women you're dating don't want that, then clearly you need to date more intelligent, more mature, women.
I tend to see partners as friends, and treat them as such. Though obviously they get more than usual friendly banter

I always find it strange though that woman are more interested in the wrestler me who's obnoxious, arrogant and rude compared to the 'real' me. I never understand it. But at least they get a nice surprise.