Hey the BBS is full of people that fit that description!
Who here has no friends?
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Hey the BBS is full of people that fit that description!
Am I happy ? No. Am I not happy because I have no friends. No.
I don't believe you need friends to be happy. I do believe, however, that other people think others can't be happy without friends and try to "fix" that for them.
[Hermiod]^You are right -of course- a lot of peop0le I used to know tried to be my 'friends' without actually having any idea what being a friend actually meant!
I'd love to have (many) friends, but most of the people I know also have this idea that friendship is about quantity rather than quality: I'd rather have one good steak a month than a McCheeceburger a day!
I'd love to have (many) friends, but most of the people I know also have this idea that friendship is about quantity rather than quality: I'd rather have one good steak a month than a McCheeceburger a day!
I have plenty of long term aquaintances. I also have people I help out when they need it, and people I can call if I need help.
I don't have people any more who would think, "Gee I feel talking to/hanging out with Lax, I think I'll give him a call." Neither do I know anyone I really feel that way about. My old friends have drifted away to other cities, busy with careers and families, same as happened to me.
I sort of realized this happened without my noticing, after I split with my wife. I'm not that bothered by it, but more curious about it. Do people by their late 40's still make new friends, who become actual genuine friends? I don't connect with people the same way I did in my teens, 20's, 30's. I wonder if it's me, or something natural by this age.
I don't have people any more who would think, "Gee I feel talking to/hanging out with Lax, I think I'll give him a call." Neither do I know anyone I really feel that way about. My old friends have drifted away to other cities, busy with careers and families, same as happened to me.
I sort of realized this happened without my noticing, after I split with my wife. I'm not that bothered by it, but more curious about it. Do people by their late 40's still make new friends, who become actual genuine friends? I don't connect with people the same way I did in my teens, 20's, 30's. I wonder if it's me, or something natural by this age.
I have a few friends, but I really don't get out much. It could be said that I don't have friends at all because of that.
Me to! I also hate the two of you!
After my best friend ran off with the gay guy, I didnt bother to make any more. I'm happy being by myself.
I don't have any friends right now except for my boyfriend, whom I live with and do pretty much everything with, but at this point I consider him more family as well as my best friend.
Besides him, I don't have any friends. It doesn't really bother me though. I've always been the type of person who has one really good best friend (often times that position overlaps with boyfriend) and no one else. I am an all or nothing person. Either I am completely devoted and loyal and caring towards you, or I don't really talk to you at all. So "acquaintances" have never worked for me. I am fully open and committed to my best friend, whoever they may be at the time, but I am guarded and quiet with others (including my family).
I also just prefer doing a lot of things by myself. When I'm not at work, school, or hanging out with my boyfriend, I am by myself in my bedroom, enjoying the silence and peace that is being away from other people. I am definitely NOT a people person and can't stand to be in groups or chatting. I hate small chat, which is probably why I never meet new people.
I am content with the way things are now. One friend has always been the right amount for me. I met my boyfriend in college, but besides him I made no other friends in my four years there, even with living in the dorms for two years. I got along cordially with my roommates and we helped each other with schoolwork sometimes (we were in the same program) but we didn't do "non-school activities" together. Everyone always says, "when you go to college you'll make tons of friends, it's impossible not to!" and it makes me laugh, because I spent all my time by myself with no friends.
BUT, I am not complaining! It was exactly as I wished it to be. I suspect that if I had wanted more friends I could have found them, and though it would have been difficult for me, I would have done it. But it just didn't feel necessary or like something I even wanted. I did seek out one person though, and he is my boyfriend now so that worked out well.
Anyway, to answer your questions....
Why do you think you have no friends? Because I do not want any and because I find it very hard to relate to most people.
What would qualify a person as a friend? My definition is probably more intense than others.' I would have to see them more than twice a week, speak to them on the phone, online, or in person every day, and feel comfortable doing or saying anything around them.
Do you spend all your non-work/family time by yourself? I watch a lot of movies and TV with my boyfriend, but when he is not there or I want to be alone I go to my room and shut everything out. And I love it!
Besides him, I don't have any friends. It doesn't really bother me though. I've always been the type of person who has one really good best friend (often times that position overlaps with boyfriend) and no one else. I am an all or nothing person. Either I am completely devoted and loyal and caring towards you, or I don't really talk to you at all. So "acquaintances" have never worked for me. I am fully open and committed to my best friend, whoever they may be at the time, but I am guarded and quiet with others (including my family).
I also just prefer doing a lot of things by myself. When I'm not at work, school, or hanging out with my boyfriend, I am by myself in my bedroom, enjoying the silence and peace that is being away from other people. I am definitely NOT a people person and can't stand to be in groups or chatting. I hate small chat, which is probably why I never meet new people.
I am content with the way things are now. One friend has always been the right amount for me. I met my boyfriend in college, but besides him I made no other friends in my four years there, even with living in the dorms for two years. I got along cordially with my roommates and we helped each other with schoolwork sometimes (we were in the same program) but we didn't do "non-school activities" together. Everyone always says, "when you go to college you'll make tons of friends, it's impossible not to!" and it makes me laugh, because I spent all my time by myself with no friends.
BUT, I am not complaining! It was exactly as I wished it to be. I suspect that if I had wanted more friends I could have found them, and though it would have been difficult for me, I would have done it. But it just didn't feel necessary or like something I even wanted. I did seek out one person though, and he is my boyfriend now so that worked out well.
Anyway, to answer your questions....
Why do you think you have no friends? Because I do not want any and because I find it very hard to relate to most people.
What would qualify a person as a friend? My definition is probably more intense than others.' I would have to see them more than twice a week, speak to them on the phone, online, or in person every day, and feel comfortable doing or saying anything around them.
Do you spend all your non-work/family time by yourself? I watch a lot of movies and TV with my boyfriend, but when he is not there or I want to be alone I go to my room and shut everything out. And I love it!
Your posts reek a cry for help.
You can continue to deny it. I'm sure its more comforting, though. I have no friends and don't you dare try to help me!
Thank you. I've fell like I've been heard on people so I've been staying away from saying this.
I spend a lot more time on my own these days than I used to - I find the solitude very restful, which was not the case when I was a younger man. I do have many friends, even though I don't see them much.
Does someone stop being a friend just because their life runs on a different road to yours these days? No. When I do occasionally see a good friend it's just as great to see them as it always was and we have a fine time catching up.
Our lives may not intertwine as they used to, but good friends we remain. And that's really cool.
Does someone stop being a friend just because their life runs on a different road to yours these days? No. When I do occasionally see a good friend it's just as great to see them as it always was and we have a fine time catching up.
Our lives may not intertwine as they used to, but good friends we remain. And that's really cool.
I have a few friends I see often, I used to have more but I hardly see them any more since I stopped drinking so much, and others who became too much hard work to stay friends with.
same goes for me except this is also the reason Ive never been interested in a relationship. I dont know, it may be my Asperger's, but I feel with my family I get enough socializing. And when Im doing soemthing I tend to completely focus on it & can be focused on it all day. So someone who is going to be my friend would have to come to visit me when I have absolutley nothing to do(which is almost never) or sit around silently & watch me doing whatever Im doing. Which would probably bore them eventually.
Yo.
Well my wife, but outside her nope.
A few difference reasons, I suppose. I'm not the easiest person to get along with. Plus I have zero tolerance for drama, so I'm not the best person to come crying too over stupid shit in life.
Hard to say, really.
Yep. In the past that bothered me, but these days not in the least.
I hate you for your blatant misuse of commas.
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