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Who here has no friends?

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A couple of people in the "Best Friend" thread have commented that they have no friends.

So who here has no friends?

Why do you think you have no friends?

What would qualify a person as a friend?

Do you spend all your non-work/family time by yourself?
 
I have very few true friends. Maybe two or three. I don't have a "best friend" save for my wife but she's my wife.
 
I don't feel that I have any. There are a few people who would say they are my friends, but I don't believe them. I think I would be dumb to do so because so far, whenever I trust someone, I end up regretting it.
 
Most of my 'friends' are introverted types that I usually have to drag outside to do anything with them, I tend to be the person who calls to try to make plans or the one who goes out of my way to do something with them. I have a lot of them, but it is hard to really claim them as friends because if I don't call them or stop by once in a while, we'd probably almost never see each other.

I have a handful of people who are more of the classic definition, but they are spread around 3 states and I mostly only get to talk to them online these days. The only one I see with regularity currently is the one I currently live with.
 
A couple of people in the "Best Friend" thread have commented that they have no friends.

So who here has no friends?

Why do you think you have no friends?

What would qualify a person as a friend?

Do you spend all your non-work/family time by yourself?

I say I have about four friends. I've never had many, but always a few at t time. I had a girl a few years ago in my life, and that didn't bold out too well and now I'm down to just my friends. When I hang out with one of my friends, a lot of times we hang out in groups because he has more people he knows which makes it kind of nice to meet more people.
 
Most of my 'friends' are introverted types that I usually have to drag outside to do anything with them, I tend to be the person who calls to try to make plans or the one who goes out of my way to do something with them.

To a certain extent I have to be the one inviting people to do stuff. I didn't for a long time, and the result is that no one invites me to do anything either. Now that I'm starting to take a more proactive approach I'm having a bit more luck, but it would be *nice* if a few of them returned the favor and did the asking now and then......
 
In real life, a handful who know me and like me anyway.

In cyberlife, less than that. I tend to be so damn formal online it keeps anyone from approaching me.
 
The way my life has gone over the past decade or two, almost all of my RL friends have come from my jobs. When I'm not working, I spend almost all of my free time on my creative endeavors, or reading, or online. And I do consider several people I know online to be friends. So it's not that I don't have friends, but I it's been about twenty or more years since I had any friends who were not co-workers or Internet buddies.
 
That kind of explains things too.

Why would I want advice, exactly ?

You seem to be unhappy
Sorry to say so; but that is also the sentiment I'm getting.
about the fact that you have no friends.
But I'm pretty sure that isn't the actual reason!
Sorry Hermy, not trying to make you feel bad or anything the like. I just get along pretty well on my own without a lot of 'friends' of my own, so I don't 'get' this idea that you can't be happy without a lot of 'friends'!

As I (just) posted in that other thread; I don't actually have friends, just friend, and that is enough for me!
 
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