BASTARD ER Doctors!!!

[T J]

Bad night. I had to take my wife to the ER last night, she was cramping and bleeding a lot. The ER doc examined her and a word came up I wasn’t expecting. Miscarriage. I teared up. My wife of course balled… Eventually we came home and just went to bed.

Got up this morning and get into se out regular doc… turned out there was no miscarriage and my wife will be fine. She got some pills to level things off but FUCK! That fucking ER doc scarred us so much we are absolutely emotionally drained. What a horrible thing. BASTARD ER doctors!

 

[Guartho]

Wow. I feel for you and your wife. When my wife was pregnant with our 21-month-old we were very concerned about a miscarriage in those early months. Her cousin that's as close as a sister had had the kind you describe so it was always in the front of her mind. I we thought we were having a miscarriage it would have been absolutely devastating.

You're right. ER doctors suck. In our hospital they almost never actually help which makes the bills that much more fun to pay. Also, why is it you never see the same one twice and you never see them again?

 

[backstept]

that's horrible!

for all intents and purposes they lied to you!
have you or your doctor talked to the ER people to find out why they were so far off?


damn . . . I wish you both well

 

[CookieMonster]

I am sure you are glad it wasnt actually a miscarriage. The more times a woman miscarries the more likely she wont be able to carry a pregnancy to term.

Sometimes its hard to tell, I am just glad your wife will be ok.

 

[Captain Intrepid]

for all intents and purposes they lied to you!

Cause I'm sure the doctor did their examination and though, "Heh, I'm so gonna fuck with these people."



They told you their best estimation of what was wrong. They were mistaken, and thank God they were, but there wasn't any malicious intent. But no, don't let me get reason in the way of your circle jerk.

 

[blablover5]

Holy fuck does that mess one up.

My best friend had a miscarriage a while back (actually an ectopic pregnancy) and she was a complete mess. I mean even lying or not having a clue and telling a woman she has when she hasn't could mess her mind up so bad it could still happen.

Some doctors need to learn some empathy, and also brains.

 

[Miss Chicken]

Sorry to here about your fright. I am sure it wasn't easy for your wife or you.

However, in defense of the doctor - the symptoms that your wife had are the symptoms women who have miscarriages often have and given what the doctor was told and what he knew it isn't surprising that one of the first thing he thought of was miscarriage. Maybe the doctor was a little quick to voice his diagnosis but as an ER doctor he was probably under a lot of pressure. I don't think there was any malice in him, he made a mistake and I think it was an understandable mistake.

I once had an early miscarriage and I had very similar symptoms to what your wife had. I didn't know I was pregnant mainly because I had only come off the pill a couple of months before and didn't think I would get pregnant that quickly.

I wasn't particularly upset by the miscarriage as I took the view that there was most likely something seriously wrong with the fetus and that is why nature aborted it. I already had one child at this time so maybe that stopped me from getting upset. I also got pregnant again reasonably quickly - my second son was born about 11 mionths after the miscarriage.

 

[B.J.]

Yeah, the ER doc should have gotten a second opinion before dropping something like that on you.

Question though: Is your wife currently pregnant? I would assume so from your original post, TJ, but when you said "my wife will be fine", I was wondering if the baby was fine, or if there even was a baby.

 

[Miss Chicken]

Yeah, the ER doc should have gotten a second opinion before dropping something like that on you.

Question though: Is your wife currently pregnant? I would assume so from your original post, TJ, but when you said "my wife will be fine", I was wondering if the baby was fine, or if there even was a baby.

I assumed from the first post that she wasn't actually pregnant in the first place. If she had been i think TJ would have stated that clearly.

 

[John Picard]

E/R docs pretty much have to see a variety of people and don't have much at their disposal (equipment, people-wise) after hours. My son had a broken thumb and my ex takes him to the E/R. 4 hours and one x-ray later they're telling her that he'll most likely need surgery to repair unseen nerve damage, blah blah blah blah blah. She's giving me a bunch of grief over it because it happened when he was with me and I was taking a "wait and see" approach over it because I thought it was sprained and he seemed OK.

So, I meet her at the Ortho's office and the doc x-rays him. Ooops, the break is at the growth plate and is a *VERY COMMON INJURY FOR BOYS HIS AGE*. The doc rolls his eyes at what the E/R told her and tells me that my wait-and-see approach was fine. Three weeks in a splint and the thumb/growth-plate healed fine.

 

[RJDiogenes]

Well, I'm glad to hear there was no miscarriage.

ER doctors are kind of hit or miss. The hospital where I used to work had a fantastic ER. But some areas of the country are so desperate for docs they will take anyone. I knew a couple of residents who flunked out because of drug problems who were able to get positions in underserved areas.

 

[CookieMonster]

Well, I'm glad to hear there was no miscarriage.

ER doctors are kind of hit or miss. The hospital where I used to work had a fantastic ER. But some areas of the country are so desperate for docs they will take anyone. I knew a couple of residents who flunked out because of drug problems who were able to get positions in underserved areas.

Sounds like the ER where I live. My mother had a seizure last year that ended with her face planting into the concrete biting a hole through her upper lip. They didnt stitch the hole and now she has over grown scar tissue there. Idiots.

 

[T J]

Yeah, the ER doc should have gotten a second opinion before dropping something like that on you.

Question though: Is your wife currently pregnant? I would assume so from your original post, TJ, but when you said "my wife will be fine", I was wondering if the baby was fine, or if there even was a baby.

I assumed from the first post that she wasn't actually pregnant in the first place. If she had been i think TJ would have stated that clearly.

Thanks for the kind words everyone, believe it or not it actually helps. No, my wife was not pregnant, which was a huge relief. We want kids and someday I'm sure we will. But damn, what a horrible scare. I live in a small town... the ER was actually slow and they are notorious for not being the best and brightest.

My wife, who also works at the hospital as an insurance guru will be filing a grievance with that doc so we'll see what happens.

 

[Zachary Smith]

E/R docs pretty much have to see a variety of people and don't have much at their disposal (equipment, people-wise) after hours. My son had a broken thumb and my ex takes him to the E/R. 4 hours and one x-ray later they're telling her that he'll most likely need surgery to repair unseen nerve damage, blah blah blah blah blah. She's giving me a bunch of grief over it because it happened when he was with me and I was taking a "wait and see" approach over it because I thought it was sprained and he seemed OK.

So, I meet her at the Ortho's office and the doc x-rays him. Ooops, the break is at the growth plate and is a *VERY COMMON INJURY FOR BOYS HIS AGE*. The doc rolls his eyes at what the E/R told her and tells me that my wait-and-see approach was fine. Three weeks in a splint and the thumb/growth-plate healed fine.

Whereas too many x-rays can actually cause premature closing of the growth-plate and prevent full maturation of the segment in question.

Why did they x-ray at all? How was the treatment plan altered by confirming a fracture? Sounds like you had a pointless procedure done, not once but twice.

 

[hellsgate]

I'm sorry that happened to you both.

I'm glad that your regular physician was able to deliver the correct diagnosis & things came out 100% better in the end. My prayers are with you.

 

[John Picard]

E/R docs pretty much have to see a variety of people and don't have much at their disposal (equipment, people-wise) after hours. My son had a broken thumb and my ex takes him to the E/R. 4 hours and one x-ray later they're telling her that he'll most likely need surgery to repair unseen nerve damage, blah blah blah blah blah. She's giving me a bunch of grief over it because it happened when he was with me and I was taking a "wait and see" approach over it because I thought it was sprained and he seemed OK.

So, I meet her at the Ortho's office and the doc x-rays him. Ooops, the break is at the growth plate and is a *VERY COMMON INJURY FOR BOYS HIS AGE*. The doc rolls his eyes at what the E/R told her and tells me that my wait-and-see approach was fine. Three weeks in a splint and the thumb/growth-plate healed fine.

Whereas too many x-rays can actually cause premature closing of the growth-plate and prevent full maturation of the segment in question.

Why did they x-ray at all? How was the treatment plan altered by confirming a fracture? Sounds like you had a pointless procedure done, not once but twice.

My ex-wife is a hypochondriac who can't follow doctor's orders. You know, runs to get medicine but never follows the full course. Anyway, she took him to the E/R when he told her about the accident and that his thumb was swollen but he felt OK. So, she *RUNS TO THE E/R* Yeah, dumbass. Four hours there for them to tell you to see a doctor. Since he's young, it's obvious the x-rays didn't hurt, but I completely understand your point.

BTW - I have to get chest x-rays every year to two years. Are you telling me I'm in for problems?

 

[Ohappydagger]

Yeah, the ER doc should have gotten a second opinion before dropping something like that on you.

Question though: Is your wife currently pregnant? I would assume so from your original post, TJ, but when you said "my wife will be fine", I was wondering if the baby was fine, or if there even was a baby.

I assumed from the first post that she wasn't actually pregnant in the first place. If she had been i think TJ would have stated that clearly.

Thanks for the kind words everyone, believe it or not it actually helps. No, my wife was not pregnant, which was a huge relief. We want kids and someday I'm sure we will. But damn, what a horrible scare. I live in a small town... the ER was actually slow and they are notorious for not being the best and brightest.

My wife, who also works at the hospital as an insurance guru will be filing a grievance with that doc so we'll see what happens.

The doctor diagnosed a miscarriage in a woman who wasn't pregnant?

Did he at least run a pregnancy test before dropping that bomb? Do an ultrasound, if nothing else than to rule out an ectopic pregnancy, which is a life-threatening medical emergency? Good lord.

 

[Man Afraid of his Shoes]

I think that there are some ER doctors who, if they decide that what you have isn't an emergency, they just tell you something...anything just to get you to leave.

A couple of months ago, my wife woke up in the middle of the night gasping for breath, and she couldn't stop. Additionally, she'd lost most of her feelings in her arms and legs, and had bad vertigo.

We went to the ER, they ran some blood tests and told us that it was a potassium defficiency. He prescribed some pills and we went home.

The next day we went to see our regular doctor.

Turns out the numbness and vertigo was her M.S. relapsing, and we don't know what the gasping was about...maybe a sleep disorder of some kind. Our Doctor expressed doubts about the Potassium thing, and requested the blood test results from the hospital.

Her potassium was like .001% below what was considered normal.

 

[Zachary Smith]

E/R docs pretty much have to see a variety of people and don't have much at their disposal (equipment, people-wise) after hours. My son had a broken thumb and my ex takes him to the E/R. 4 hours and one x-ray later they're telling her that he'll most likely need surgery to repair unseen nerve damage, blah blah blah blah blah. She's giving me a bunch of grief over it because it happened when he was with me and I was taking a "wait and see" approach over it because I thought it was sprained and he seemed OK.

So, I meet her at the Ortho's office and the doc x-rays him. Ooops, the break is at the growth plate and is a *VERY COMMON INJURY FOR BOYS HIS AGE*. The doc rolls his eyes at what the E/R told her and tells me that my wait-and-see approach was fine. Three weeks in a splint and the thumb/growth-plate healed fine.

Whereas too many x-rays can actually cause premature closing of the growth-plate and prevent full maturation of the segment in question.

Why did they x-ray at all? How was the treatment plan altered by confirming a fracture? Sounds like you had a pointless procedure done, not once but twice.

My ex-wife is a hypochondriac who can't follow doctor's orders. You know, runs to get medicine but never follows the full course. Anyway, she took him to the E/R when he told her about the accident and that his thumb was swollen but he felt OK. So, she *RUNS TO THE E/R* Yeah, dumbass. Four hours there for them to tell you to see a doctor. Since he's young, it's obvious the x-rays didn't hurt, but I completely understand your point.

BTW - I have to get chest x-rays every year to two years. Are you telling me I'm in for problems?

You're not in for any problems as far as growth plates are concerned--so long as your above the age of 20 years old or so. By then all your growth plates are closed anyhow. It's a physical maturation deal and part of becoming an "adult". Looking at how close growth plates are to closing is one way forensics guys can tell from skeletal remains if they're looking at an adolescent or an adult.

 

[John Picard]

You're not in for any problems as far as growth plates are concerned--so long as your above the age of 20 years old or so. By then all your growth plates are closed anyhow. It's a physical maturation deal and part of becoming an "adult". Looking at how close growth plates are to closing is one way forensics guys can tell from skeletal remains if they're looking at an adolescent or an adult.

Gotcha. I don't think two X-rays of his hand were of much harm. I do appreciate the info