Mental Wellness Support Group

[fireproof78]

Even the guy that runs the course, a psychotherapist, said he hears many times people telling him they wish they found this information before their breakup, so I guess that's normal. As are the 'what ifs' and the ruminating. That's one thing I hope therapy helps with as I think it's probably part of the whole negative self talk issue I have.

I took a similar training for my job called Circle of Security Parenting. I was already a father for about 8-9 years at that point, yet strongly wish I had that course back in college. Mostly because it unpacks so much of the aspects of parenting that are actually informed by our own past, how people responded to our emotions, and how we felt in relationships. The instructor stated that their research had focused on ages 0 to 4, but from his studying and observation he felt it was pretty much consistent for humans at any age.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

I’m in the throes of anxiety at the moment. My dad has been gone over a week now and it’s been a week and three days since I had to go to the ER because of what I now understand to be a complication of COVID. I’m not sure if it’s because I’ve been alone, the medicine or a combination of things, but I’m feeling very anxious right now.

 

[wayoung]

I’m in the throes of anxiety at the moment. My dad has been gone over a week now and it’s been a week and three days since I had to go to the ER because of what I now understand to be a complication of COVID. I’m not sure if it’s because I’ve been alone, the medicine or a combination of things, but I’m feeling very anxious right now.

I don't want to step in if you're just venting but there are some exercises that can help if you need them and don't already know them. Let me know.

 

[wayoung]

Last night was bad.

Tomorrow is my wedding anniversary and I always am rough then. I slept four hours last night separated by period awake and all I had were nightmares about by ex cheating on me and other terrible stuff her doing to me.

On top of that I decided to put an offer in on the house which stores up a lot of stuff, especially since it's in an area I haven't driven through since my marriage ended. Then concerns if I'm doing the right thing buying this place.

 

[Amaris]

I’m in the throes of anxiety at the moment. My dad has been gone over a week now and it’s been a week and three days since I had to go to the ER because of what I now understand to be a complication of COVID. I’m not sure if it’s because I’ve been alone, the medicine or a combination of things, but I’m feeling very anxious right now.

Firstly, I sincerely hope you're feeling much better very soon. COVID is such a horrible virus, may it be wiped from the Earth.

Regarding anxiety, I've started taking Lexapro the past month and it has helped immensely. While I still have anxiety attacks, they're much fewer than before, and even when I get them their intensity is a fraction of what they were. Sometimes I would have intense panic attacks that would last 9 or 10 hours, the feeling of impending death so strongly that I would cry while gripping the couch cushions in an effort to comfort myself that I wasn't floating out of my body.

Whatever you're able to do to curb those terrible feelings of anxiety, just try to know you're not alone, sweetie. [ hugs ]

 

[wayoung]

Borderline anxiety attack. Not there, but high enough.

I bought a house and am now full of incredible self doubt. Did I pay too much? Did I fuck myself financially? Did I fuck myself romantically moving from a small city to the country half an hour away from the nearest small city? Well away from the major city I had gotten most of my dates from (although closer to a different major city)?

Insecurity is fun!

 

[fireproof78]

Borderline anxiety attack. Not there, but high enough.

I bought a house and am now full of incredible self doubt. Did I pay too much? Did I fuck myself financially? Did I fuck myself romantically moving from a small city to the country half an hour away from the nearest small city? Well away from the major city I had gotten most of my dates from (although closer to a different major city)?

Insecurity is fun!

I live 20 minutes outside of the closest city. TO say I am question the decision, even three years later, is an understatement. The thing I have learned about anxiety, and insecurity in general, is that insecurity is trying to protect us, but it doesn't know how. It is trying to control what we can't control.

So, I try to remind myself why I made the decision in the first place. And rest in that knowledge.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

The anxiety remains for me today. I’m trying garlic ginger lemon tea to get my voice back. My co-teacher suspects I may be anxious because I’ll likely have a new co-teacher this coming school year. Is it possible that’s part of this? Maybe. But my immediate concern is being able to talk again.

 

[fireproof78]

The anxiety remains for me today. I’m trying garlic ginger lemon tea to get my voice back. My co-teacher suspects I may be anxious because I’ll likely have a new co-teacher this coming school year. Is it possible that’s part of this? Maybe. But my immediate concern is being able to talk again.

Honey.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

Honey.

Adding that as well. I’m running out of options for the physical…

 

[fireproof78]

Adding that as well. I’m running out of options for the physical…

I have tried gargling salt water in the past which at least seemed to help my throat.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

I have tried gargling salt water in the past which at least seemed to help my throat.

If it were my throat that was the problem, that would’ve worked. Unfortunately for me, the genesis of this issue was COVID, which has affected my lungs.

 

[fireproof78]

If it were my throat that was the problem, that would’ve worked. Unfortunately for me, the genesis of this issue was COVID, which has affected my lungs.

Ah. Nuts.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

Ah. Nuts.

The heck of it is I didn’t recognize the problem quickly enough. I had been wheezing a little, but thought it was just something that’d go away.

 

[wayoung]

You guys know those "off" days? Where something is just wrong with you? You can't speak properly, everything you say is awkward and makes no sense, you don't know how to interact with people, you're excessively clumsy, jumpy, twitchy, just have a general feeling of wrongness?

Having one of those today. My doctor said he's no longer concerned with my using benzos due to my ongoing therapy and how infrequently I use them so I picked up a new prescription for them today & took one to see if it can help regulate me.

This week was my wedding anniversary, set the date for my final divorce signing, all the house stuff, bouncing from excitement and anxiety about buying one, to depression over having to rescind the offer. Losing my singlasses, finding my sunglasses, my reg glasses breaking, planning a date for tomorrow (my first since April), seeing my nephews for the first time in two years, a month of bad sleep between the travel and everything else, work being overwhelming - I think my body and brain are just done and that may be behind it.

 

[publiusr]

This may be helpful
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-07-non-invasive-eye-potential-treatment-depression.html

A joint research team from the LKS Faculty of Medicine, The University of Hong Kong (HKUMed) and City University of Hong Kong (CityU) has discovered that the electrical stimulation of the eye surface can alleviate depression-like symptoms and improve cognitive function in animal models. These significant findings were recently published in Brain Stimulation and the Annals of the New York Academy of Sciences.

Some notes on lighting
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-07-brain-pathway-effect-mood.html
Some respond differently
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-07-scientists-women-depression-treatments-men.html

We all need friends
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-07-friends-1.html
https://phys.org/news/2022-07-friends.html

Less an addiction threat...
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-07-ketamine-addiction.html
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-07-antibiotic-sex-drastically-stds.html

 

[think]

EMDR and brainspotting
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing
We use IFS and other therapies too with my trauma therapy.. My therapist took a IFS course a few months ago so that is added to my therapy..

I had to stop my depression long enough to see that it was really cptsd.. Probably my schizo-effective diagnosis is just cptsd as well and the OCD too.. But I've known I could become any of the DSM labels by just thinking about them.. You know real psychiatrist and real diagnosis' any way .. I heard about people putting electric stimulation into our pleasure centers in the brain but I think that the government stopped that stuff just as it was taking off.. The only thing I found on it was ended over at University of Pennsylvania. I think. It was interesting I guess but not that social like.. I will look into the links if they are opening up tests again??

This may be helpful
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-07-non-invasive-eye-potential-treatment-depression.html

A joint research team from the LKS Faculty of Medicine, The University of Hong Kong (HKUMed) and City University of Hong Kong (CityU) has discovered that the electrical stimulation of the eye surface can alleviate depression-like symptoms and improve cognitive function in animal models. These significant findings were recently published in Brain Stimulation and the Annals of the New York Academy of Sciences.

Some notes on lighting
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-07-brain-pathway-effect-mood.html

Thanks

 

[Peach Wookiee]

I’m feeling really discouraged at the moment. I’m on Day 49 of voice loss due to COVID-19 and the resulting pleurisy. Everything I’ve tried to deal with it has failed. I have to go back to work tomorrow, but I’ll be doing so without a voice or a full recovery. I feel discouraged and useless…

 

[think]

I’m feeling really discouraged at the moment. I’m on Day 49 of voice loss due to COVID-19 and the resulting pleurisy. Everything I’ve tried to deal with it has failed. I have to go back to work tomorrow, but I’ll be doing so without a voice or a full recovery. I feel discouraged and useless…

Gosh that is hard to deal with --- let us know how it went?? are you doing any better??

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this quote really speaks to me-- on a lot of levels -

edit = when I posted this at fb I put some more information on how the quote speaks to me this is it-

People born to normal parents think the stuff that people with dysfunctional parents do is dysfunctional. But since my mom ODed on pills to kill herself when I was 4-5 years old had her stomach pumped and did hospital stays like that --- I thought that was normal, and that suicide was normal --- I did not understand why people didn't think it was OK to do these things.. but anyway I have not had really deep depression or suicidal thoughts since 2015 I am doing well -- mmmm so much much better I am,.. getting even better.

 

[Commander Troi]

*HUGS* to @wayoung, @Peach Wookiee, and @Damian.