From worst-to-best:
4. The Destruction of the Enterprise-D. Don't need to explain that one.
3. The Destruction of the Kelvin Enterprise. Nothing wrong with it, but I wasn't attached to this ship and all I could think was "that looks cool!" That's my baseline. I enjoyed watching it be destroyed, but no emotional impact. From here on out, there's an impact.
2. The Destruction of the Defiant. They set that up pretty well in advance, the scene stings while you're watching it, and -- unlike a certain other ship -- lost to superior foe.
1. The Destruction of the Refit Enterprise. Don't need to explain this one either.
Looks like I agree with the OP.
4. The Destruction of the Enterprise-D. Don't need to explain that one.
3. The Destruction of the Kelvin Enterprise. Nothing wrong with it, but I wasn't attached to this ship and all I could think was "that looks cool!" That's my baseline. I enjoyed watching it be destroyed, but no emotional impact. From here on out, there's an impact.
2. The Destruction of the Defiant. They set that up pretty well in advance, the scene stings while you're watching it, and -- unlike a certain other ship -- lost to superior foe.
1. The Destruction of the Refit Enterprise. Don't need to explain this one either.
Looks like I agree with the OP.