That wasn’t the optics though. “Optics” refers to how something looks in real life/in practice regardless of intent. She was literally tied up in a chair as the ship was leaving if I remember correctly. She said “no” to all entreaties to join in the escape. If she had said yes and left with no mention of the cat thing, then that would be bad optics. I’m not sure this is a valid criticism of the writing.
Joke taken too literally? Check.The Protostar had one chance to escape and Gwyn had to leave the young Caitian behind. Even if she hadn't been restrained in the Captain's Chair and had been a fully willing member of the escape plan going back for the Caitian wasn't viable.