Re: Vixen tries to do Before Dishonor or: Motherf**king Borg
Of course he can be both a pilot and career oriented and a family man. But my point is that I totally see why he might choose his child over his career, even if that meant giving up said career altogether. A decision which should not and would not be made lightly. This has nothing to do with any idea of pilots being "less responsible" than anyone else. It's just that with Paris specifically his character was clearly portrayed as having the stereotypical "fly-boy" mentality, which he just as clearly dropped when Miral was minutes away from being born.
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Baerbel Haddrell said:
It rubbed me the wrong way when it was mentioned that it was right that Paris shucked the fly-boy attitude. Paris loves flying. I don`t think it is right to belittle that with vocabulary like “fly-boy”. It also doesn`t mean that pilots are less responsible than other Starfleet officers with other jobs. Paris is passionate about flying, which is something beautiful, something to be encouraged, like when engineers are passionate about what happens in the engine room. Of course also Paris, the pilot, can be a responsible family man.
Of course he can be both a pilot and career oriented and a family man. But my point is that I totally see why he might choose his child over his career, even if that meant giving up said career altogether. A decision which should not and would not be made lightly. This has nothing to do with any idea of pilots being "less responsible" than anyone else. It's just that with Paris specifically his character was clearly portrayed as having the stereotypical "fly-boy" mentality, which he just as clearly dropped when Miral was minutes away from being born.
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Consider Sisko, who did the same thing in Unity, by giving up his career and the promotion to admiral when he came back so that he can be at home with his wife and new-born child. Sisko surely didn't have any sort of lack of responsibility in his personality and he too made a conscious decision to put family before career. Something I (as a career oriented man with a daughter on the way) can COMPLETELY understand.