Mental Wellness Support Group

[Butters]

I seem to do ok in emergencies, although the last few times that the kids knocked off chunks of themselves on the tarmac I total freaked out. I’m not good with blood.

Today is an anxiety day, with depression. Nausea, shallow breath, and poundy heart. I’ve so much that I need to do and yet I’m frozen.

If I ran on Windows I’d be all applications not responding, screen frozen, hard drive light flashing away, but it’s only a matter of time before the blue screen.

 

[rredmond]

I share this graphic with folks to help them understand how anxiety, depression, or really anything else they can't understand is a barrier to others. Apologies if it's been shared before, but it helps aid the discussion for people who say "they can do it" or "they should just push through and do it." When the realization that the wall that isn't there for them, is totally there for someone else hits, it's amazing. Hopefully this helps folks here as well:

 

[Butters]

I share this graphic with folks to help them understand how anxiety, depression, or really anything else they can't understand is a barrier to others. Apologies if it's been shared before, but it helps aid the discussion for people who say "they can do it" or "they should just push through and do it." When the realization that the wall that isn't there for them, is totally there for someone else hits, it's amazing. Hopefully this helps folks here as well:

Can I share this?

 

[rredmond]

Please do! I got if off of LinkedIn and share it with other therapists, to help them talk to parents and families of folks struggling with anxiety and depression issues, all the time! I'll look up the creator, but it was definitely made to share. Hope it helps.
--Ron--

 

[rredmond]

It's Boggle the Owl, and comes from this blog. Some other good stuff there as well: https://boggletheowl.tumblr.com/

 

[Gary Mitchell]

@Butters and @rhubarbodendron , I hope you both feel better soon.

I had a scare from a friend last week and for several hours I didn't know if they were okay or not (they're doing better) and I wouldn't call it an anxiety attack but wow. I was sitting at my computer with my phone in my hand waiting for some news and I could almost hear my heart beating. It was pounding in my neck too and I could feel it. It's happened once or twice since then.

 

[Butters]

@Butters and @rhubarbodendron , I hope you both feel better soon.

I had a scare from a friend last week and for several hours I didn't know if they were okay or not (they're doing better) and I wouldn't call it an anxiety attack but wow. I was sitting at my computer with my phone in my hand waiting for some news and I could almost hear my heart beating. It was pounding in my neck too and I could feel it. It's happened once or twice since then.

That’s quite like the panic attacks I have, but they’re often not triggered by anything. I could be driving to the shop, thinking only about what I want for dinner and all of a sudden my fingers are tingling because I’ve started to hyperventilate.

 

[Gary Mitchell]

That’s quite like the panic attacks I have, but they’re often not triggered by anything. I could be driving to the shop, thinking only about what I want for dinner and all of a sudden my fingers are tingling because I’ve started to hyperventilate.

Well if what I had was anything at all like what you experience then I really feel for you.

 

[Sibyl]

@Butters and @rhubarbodendron , I hope you both feel better soon.

I had a scare from a friend last week and for several hours I didn't know if they were okay or not (they're doing better) and I wouldn't call it an anxiety attack but wow. I was sitting at my computer with my phone in my hand waiting for some news and I could almost hear my heart beating. It was pounding in my neck too and I could feel it. It's happened once or twice since then.

That was me all of Friday and most of Saturday, then it continued into Sunday because I thought I'd messed things up by trying to help.

 

[Gary Mitchell]

That was me all of Friday and most of Saturday, then it continued into Sunday because I thought I'd messed things up by trying to help.

Things are better now though, right?

 

[Sibyl]

Things are better now though, right?

Yes, mostly.

 

[Crazyewok]

That was me all of Friday and most of Saturday, then it continued into Sunday because I thought I'd messed things up by trying to help.

I god I know that feeling.
You fuck up or try to help and you end up making things far worse and dig a deeper hole and put your self in a situation when no matter what you do you will just screw it up more, but your anxiety in your head just wont let you leave it alone making things worse and worse and the you end up with a self fulfilling prophesy.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

If I ran on Windows I’d be all applications not responding, screen frozen, hard drive light flashing away, but it’s only a matter of time before the blue screen.

You need a reset! Take a break and go to an ice cream parlour or a pretty park or an interesting exhibition. Some me-time, since all the other time is used up by children-time, friends-time, SO-time etc.

Thanks for the thumbs up. I'm much better today. I really should program a reminder into all my computers and my cell so that I don't forget my meds all the time.

 

[Butters]

Hmmm. Me-time.

I could always take a walk along the shore tomorrow.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

hey, that's a good idea! I might take a stroll along the local "beach" tomorrow, too. It's just a river bank but it looks beachy:

 

[Butters]

hey, that's a good idea! I might take a stroll along the local "beach" tomorrow, too. It's just a river bank but it looks beachy:

That looks nice. Can you get big sausages and frothy beer there?

I won't be going further than school today, I'm way too neurotic at the moment. But if was going for a walk, it would be along here:

My favourite spot though is below, a couple of miles up the coast. There is a cafe and a railway there, but its only the sunsets that get their picture taken:

 

[rhubarbodendron]

that's an awesome sunset!
My beach usually comes without beer and sausages but every second year there's a beach party & fun fair that lasts 5 days and there'll be BBQ and beer, ice cream, games, a merry-go-round, a rubber duck race, a sand castle contest and lots of other things that cost little and are big fun.
The next one will be in 3 or 4 weeks =)

When I am really stressed and need a time out I go to the pond in the park and listen to the concert =) The pond is crawling with frogs and in the early morning and around dusk they have croaking contests. They are fun to listen to

 

[Butters]

Today is a bad day for me. It might be a Monday thing, after the utter bonkers that I have to endure each weekend, I finally get some time to reflect, and then fall apart.

My GP has upped my medication to the max doses, but I’m not sure that they’re working, and I have two other meds to take to relieve the effects of the others.

Today it is cold and dreary outside. I feel chilly in my limbs, sick in my stomach, and my head feels like it is in a small box; it’s claustrophobic, I can’t get enough air, and I can’t remove the box because there is a sumo wrestler sat on it eating a sandwich. I also have a feeling that something unpleasant and unseen is about to strike but I don’t know when or what because my head is in a box.

I hate days like these. It’s not just the inherent awfulness of being depressed and anxious, but it’s knowing that the family is reliant on me, and that I’m letting them down. Vicious circle or what!

 

[Gary Mitchell]

@Butters , I hope your day improves and that your doctor can get your medicine adjusted.

 

[Steven P Bastien]

... but it’s knowing that the family is reliant on me, and that I’m letting them down.

I can't speak for you or your family. But, from my own experience, being a family member to others with mental heath problems at different times, I would never want them to feel like they are letting me down. As long as they try, they are not letting me down.