Let me think about that.....
HELL YES!
HELL YES!
Would you date an Adult Film Star?
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I dated a stripper for a while in the late 90s. (It was Montreal—not as uncommon, nor frowned upon, as in many other places.) Our paths diverted, but not because of her job. Adult film actor? Don’t see a significant difference. I’m happily married and now well into middle age, so the idea, let alone the reality, is a moot point.
Don't you think it's sort of implicit that when someone answers in the affirmative that they'd be willing to date an adult film star that they understand and have considered the concept of what an adult film star does and have decided that it doesn't bother them if their date or girlfriend/boyfriend or prospective partner has sex with other people, so long as it's only in a purely professional rather than emotionally intimate context once you reach that level of commitment where you're ready to be exclusive with each other?
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Yup, but given how your response focussed purely on the value judgement and not the physical acts involved, I was hoping for a little input on how you would view that dissonance between the same acts performed in different contexts. This would be a pretty empty thread if every answer was a binary yes/no.
I would consider it. If I met an adult film star, and I liked her, and she liked me, I would definitely consider it.
Of course that's easy for me to say now, because the question has never come up, but I don't think I'd feel threatened by her choice of work. That's all it is, it's just a job. It's what she does for a living. What right do I have to judge that? It's legal, and - IIRC - highly regulated (so the question of, say, STDs would be taken care of, as I understand most porn actors are regularly tested).
Sure, that job would involve her having sex with other men in front of a camera, but at the end of the day, that's all it is...just a job, nothing more. Those men don't ask her how her day has been. They don't comfort her when she's sad. They don't buy her flowers, go with her for walks on the beach, take her out for dinner and a nice evening on the town, or do anything else that couples do. They don't LOVE her.
Relationships require trust, and if I can't trust somebody just because of the work she does, then I've got my own problems to deal with.
Of course that's easy for me to say now, because the question has never come up, but I don't think I'd feel threatened by her choice of work. That's all it is, it's just a job. It's what she does for a living. What right do I have to judge that? It's legal, and - IIRC - highly regulated (so the question of, say, STDs would be taken care of, as I understand most porn actors are regularly tested).
Sure, that job would involve her having sex with other men in front of a camera, but at the end of the day, that's all it is...just a job, nothing more. Those men don't ask her how her day has been. They don't comfort her when she's sad. They don't buy her flowers, go with her for walks on the beach, take her out for dinner and a nice evening on the town, or do anything else that couples do. They don't LOVE her.
Relationships require trust, and if I can't trust somebody just because of the work she does, then I've got my own problems to deal with.
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I'm with you so far...
Is her vagina not under warranty or something? I'm not sure why that would make a difference.and thrust into the Dating World.
A friend sets you up on a blind date, and you go "What the hell" and agree. You meet up
and have a wonderful time. The chemistry seems right, and you find yourself genuinely
liking this person. You ask "So, what do you do?" and the person replies "I make Adult films."
What do you think your reaction would be?
Myself, I'm rather conflicted. On the one hand, if the chemistry is good, why should I care?
I try not to be judgmental, after all its a job, and if you get along, why not? On the other, in the
back of my mind will always be that "going where thousands have been before" demon and the
thought of being compared to their fellow performers.
Being male, as long as the chemistry is right I think I would proceed.
What would you do?
I'd be fine with it. Virginity is not some holy shield. A human being who has never had sex, and a human being who has had sex with 1,000 partners are both equal in every respect. In this case, she has a job as an actress. Yeah, she has sex while at work, as part of her job. I'm neither the jealous nor possessive type, so why would that bother me? If she loves me, then what am I losing?
If I found her attractive, yes. Why not?
Some people have a problem with it, some don't. It could be an opportunity or a fiasco,
dependent on the person. That's why I asked.
I assumed most folk on the Board wouldn't have a problem, being as I believe most of
us are of a better caliber than to dismiss such a person out-of-hand.
Would you date an Adult Film Star?
... Ha! Fergetit. Everything below the waste is caput, anyway.
... Ha! Fergetit. Everything below the waste is caput, anyway.
Many people do not consider physical attractiveness the only quality that makes someone a compatible partner. Would it matter if she was say a Neo Nazi, but still very attractive? I am not saying that working in the pornography industry is equivalent to being a Nazi, but rather was just trying to come up with an example that almost everyone (hopefully) would find easily objectionable. A person who is heavily involved with PETA might have difficulty being in a relationship with someone who runs scientific experiments on animals, as another example.
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Oh, I understand that, and it wasn't actually directed at you. My question was more rhetorical, because I just find the whole concept of engaging in abstinence from sex as a virtue to be absurd.Some people have a problem with it, some don't. It could be an opportunity or a fiasco,
dependent on the person. That's why I asked.
I assumed most folk on the Board wouldn't have a problem, being as I believe most of
us are of a better caliber than to dismiss such a person out-of-hand.
WShy do you assume my comment only when to physical attractiveness. There are many aspects that make a person attractive, And that why I stated "if I found her attractive" and not just "if I found her physically attractive."
I try and differentiate between being attracted to someone and finding someone attractive. The later is more about physical beauty and the former a deeper emotional connection.
My apologies then, typically when I have heard people speak of attraction, it is primarily a physical thing.
Also in the context, as the sole response to the question, to me it gave that implication as though it was a complete answer, which did not seem to make a lot of sense to me. It felt as though the question was asking for a more detailed answer, and when I read your comment my thought was that you were saying "If she looks good enough, anything is ok".
Also in the context, as the sole response to the question, to me it gave that implication as though it was a complete answer, which did not seem to make a lot of sense to me. It felt as though the question was asking for a more detailed answer, and when I read your comment my thought was that you were saying "If she looks good enough, anything is ok".
Well said.
No thanks.
I would only date the caterer, the guy behind the food table. He could tell me some stories..
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